Mental Illness, emotions and the mind

I have found that ones mental state whether strong or weak is determined from what your mind has gone through. That a mental illness is a result of particular emotions being in such a weak state that a mental illness or a personality disorder becomes an attachment to the thought process of the mind to stop the decline in the state of ones emotions. It keeps you at a low state emotionally but stops the decline of a person mind to dangerous levels that would be unbearable to live with. A person emotional growth primarily occurs early in life and mostly determined by those closest to the person and often dependant on. Mentally strong people being raised in ideal and loving circumstances that allowed for emotions to get strong over a long period of time down to people with a variety of disorders that have gone through less than ideal up bringing and onto being abused as children. How emotions are effected in a person is from thoughts from there mind and the mind gets its thoughts from what it is exposed to. The mind is our brain and it learns from what it is exposed to and try’s to solve life’s problems that we encounter naturally. It can only learn from what it is taught and depending on its strength will determine how well it is able to solve and learn and how we go through life.

That a humans emotions are part of our human instincts that give us a feeling if something or really a thought we are having is good or bad. This feeling we feel inside if we like something or not is our instincts trying to guide us through life in the best possible way by being attracted to the good feeling we feel from things. We should go to those good feelings as that is what makes us emotionally stronger.

Our mind is naturally learning and solving problems all the time and living a full life exposes our mind to new and interesting things which makes us stronger emotionally as we enjoy the feeling. Being bored and experiencing negative things in life gives us a bad feeling and makes us emotionally weaker. It makes our mind try to think through these low times and causes a cyclical negative thoughts to be had which damage us emotionally over and over and closer to a level emotionally where a disorder can take effect.

Emotions and the mind at birth are virtually blank with just our human instincts to rely on. That how we grow emotionally has to be learned from those we are dependant on and factors that relate to how we are mentally will be from our life experience. That we are all born the same emotionally and they are just that feeling of good or bad every time we go through something. How we are and what we believe is determined from what we experience in life and not from how we are born or any hereditary things. We can be like our parents because we have learned from them and its not a natural occurrence.

There is currently no reasons for mental illness or cure for mental illness the above is not established and we look for causes of mental illness in any area except for what we go through mentally and how it effects us emotionally. We known there is a correlation between being mentally ill and those who have been abused but there is much stronger correlations present. And that is that our whole mentally will correlate to what we have been through whether good or bad.

To fix someone with mental illness will require a strengthening of them emotionally and that will have to come from there own mind. Also this is difficult because a disorder has attached itself to there way of thought that often is negative in nature. Possibly working out ways to distract a disorder is the only way of repair and that means living a fuller and more active life if that’s at all possible.

The reason why it is obvious that a disorder attaches it self to ones mind and becomes a set way of thinking for some that isn’t logical is the similarities in people thoughts wheather man or woman and from any culture being the same while others with out any type of disorder having completely different thought process. Also those with the more extreme kind of disorders having children and these children all turning out the same emotionally often with many of the same mental illness.



In mental health the cause of mental illness is still not known to the human race. I guess PTSD is known as the name suggests. Its a disorder caused from the mind going through a major trauma that it couldn’t cope with. But this disorder should give us good insite into how other personality disorders come from as well. I guess what happens with PTSD is that the mind is witness to a major trauma and that trauma plays out in the mind over and over and effects the emotions of a person to the extent that there is danger for them with the mind living out this trauma over and over and a disorder occurs to protect the mind and emotions from becoming to damaged and making life to unbearable both mentally and emotionally.

People with this disorder will be able to tell you of what they went through mentally after the trauma and if research properly there would be some point depending on how strong they were emotionally in the first place where a disorder occurs and changes the thought process to include PTSD as part of how there mind thinks.

Other disorders also come from something our mind is not able to cope with and in each disorder it is basically telling us what that is and is a simple way to work out the cause of mental illness right across the board. Im no expert on all the symptoms of each disorder,  but the symptoms often give away what the actual problem was in the first place.

Depression is basically thinking negatively and lacking confidence in ones self. So when the mind thinks over and over about ones self in a negative way it effects your emotions and lowers self confidence until you get to a certain level and a disorder occurs. It appears then that you still think like this and even more often but its kind of a set way of thinking and your emotions don’t keep dropping to lower and lower levels from your continued depressed thought. The level you feel is by no way an acceptable level to be feeling but it doesn’t continue any more to slide at such a rate before you had the actual disorder depression. Before you had the disorder your thoughts would of been of constant depressed type things about your self that were going over and over in your mind lowering your emotional strength before you realized or it was determined by a doctor that you have depression. Some one without the constant depressed thought rolling around in there mind and is a happy person will not be able to get depression unless they go through a process where the mind continually thinks about basically a negative outlook general about ones self giving them a bad feeling inside.

Anxiety is basically worry about things to much. To get anxiety the mind has to go through a period of constant worry that is not sustainable to ones emotions until a disorder takes over and while the worry continues and possibly intensifies emotionally your emotions are protected by the disorder from dropping to levels far beyond what the disorder is able to make one feel like.

ADHD is basically not being able to think as there is problems in the way your mind has been taught and you lost confidence to solve lifes puzzles. Your emotions couldn’t handle the loss in confidence in your ability to think properly and a disorder occurred protecting you from what your going through with loss of condfidence, self-esteem, attention span and from being negatively affected from those around you.

And its the same for all disorders. Things happen in life that can affect ones mind to the point where constant thought about something occurs that effects your emotions negatively and a disorder occurs. Every disorder can be accounted for in this way. Its usually something to do with the mind being abused in some way through actions of another person but that a different blog and called abuse.

It also works the other way, when the mind is exposed to positive and new thoughts all the time it makes a person emotional stronger and there life is happy and enjoyable. This occurs when that person does good and has good people affecting them in a way that is positive.

The mind and emotions can only be affected from what they come into contact with or they simply wouldn’t know about it. You can’t think about things you don’t know about. How to reverse what has happened emotionally is also another blog and im sure possible but you need to know the cause if your going to fix the problem.



Currently there is no way to fix a mental illness and its still hazy on how you get mental illness. Its one of the most funded areas of government and we could be going backwards in our knowledge and research into this area as mental illness rates go up.

But I think if there was ever some hard core logic applied to the task we can find what ever answers there are possible without any other form of study and research. This is mentality we are talking about here and with all things mental there is nothing to see or touch so research as well can only be from an opinion preferably from someone knowledgable as possible on mental health who can analyse something with very high logic and compare from person to person where differences are pointed out and determined if logically process was used or pre-conceived ideas or beliefs . It sounds simple but it might be impossible.

The people who are in mental health don’t seem to be able to find the solutions that are having any impact and possibly some things taught with in mental health are not correct and undermining the fight to find answers about mental health. Everyone thinks there logical or they wouldn’t think that way if they thought they were not making sense.

This will sound about as arrogant as you possible can be, but I think i’m logical and can logically analyse the mind to determine how we are mentally and onto how you get mental illness and the possibilities of fixing mental illness. My first thought is that someone to agree with such finding who would have to be some what involved in mental health would require a change in what is already believed and that’s not easy to do with someone but at least its a good place to start. There are new discoveries being made all the time in all areas of life except mental health but those within mental health are taught what they know and nothing is experienced in the form of personal experience of being mentally ill. They can only apply what knowledge they have gained through learning and there are millions of people who have tried to solve the mental health pie all to nothing and maybe if the current approach was the way forward then some sort of tiny result that helps the problem would of been made by now.

So i’m going to try and write down a logical process of thought to how the mind works in a human and see where it can go. I will try and use only logic and knowledge from experience with nothing learned from others. There is no point to the exercise. I had an interest in how abuse in children is the main cause of mental illness that started from personal experience. I  entered the world of mental health at 43 and couldn’t believe what I saw.  There is nothing that makes sense to the whole system and it’s not something that is ever going to change and better I focus on something else.  Mentally I don’t think it is the best to focus to much on one thing or you just annoy yourself and everyone else to. There are heaps of things in the world that are not right or true and just what people believe in or have been taught and all of them are of no interest to me and I don’t mind what you believe in as long as it don’t hurt others.

I think its fair to say that where we a brought up will determine how we are culturally. That our mentality will reflect where we are from. You could be from another country and a billion years of ancestors from there and no matter where you were plonked at birth and raised you would know only that as your home. Your mentality would be governed by what you have been through. You will talk the language that you have been taught and you will believe in what you have learned. I think you could say logically that mentally you will reflect how you were raised and what you have learned. Other cultures even from where you originate will be completely foreign to you and some of their beliefs you wont even be aware of net alone feel the same way about. There are hundreds of different religions and ways to be brought up and all seem reasonable to them while you think it doesn’t make sense at all and they will feel the same about your culture. I think its fair to say that ones mentality is governed from what there mind or they have been through. That a human mind works very simple and that it reacts to what it is confronted with and adapts to those surrounds.

Only what experienced or learned will what we be aware of and our mind can only react to what it has encountered. Our mind can react in anyway depending on what it goes through and wont react to what it doesn’t know about or experience. I think it can be assumed even that given the same experience and teaching will result in a very similar out come mentally. There will be differences as there wont even be close to the exact experiences gone through by each person that cause us all to be very different but the end outcome will be our mentality coming from what our mind has been through.

If you have been exposed to aggression and violence you will be used to this and in some way will reflect how you deal with situations while if you have been exposed to patients and calmness you will reflect this. You may be a trained fighter and only ever feel that it  is a sport and it not be part of your mentality. Every little thing you have been exposed to will reflect on your mentality. But  it is scewed heavily to the age you were when you experienced or learned something. At a certain age you are able to use your brain to make opinions on what your brain encounters and that base knowledge you gained from the youngest of ages where learning was the major focus is the more engrained type knowledge and not from what you have been able to work out. Taught young enough you can believe anything and it become part of your knowledge base. Or possible you can be brainwashed into thinking anything. But its also the time we are getting most connected to our surrounds and family.

Personally myself and all my brothers and sister don’t have many beliefs as we were not taught them. We were not taught religion or to hate on it and my only opinions are from what I have had through my own thought and that’s not much. All my life I didn’t know about mental health or met anyone mentally ill and I knew nothing about it. But pretty much my mentality and how I am is what I have experienced with it being heavily scewed to my earliest days. Whilst I am very similar to my brothers and sisters as we had similar up bringings, I was the only one who was not blood related to our mother. I wasn’t loved the same and never had that connection the others do. She is my mother as that all ive ever known but emotionally it reflects how I was treated and there was nothing bad, but its something I have always been aware of.

Very slight differences in what we go through from the earliest of ages make big impacts on us for the rest of our lives. What we are learning in these earlier days before we can possibly remember are what is engrained in our mind as our mentality for the rest of our lives.

A lot of our emotional strength may come from the early interactions from our parents before we are even aware of what we have been through. But no matter what we have been through our emotions and mentality have to come from something that they have encountered or they simply can not be even aware of it and we all work the same, not including those with disabilities due to defects I guess.

I think its logical to say that mentality can only come from what experienced and that mentality reacts to what ever experienced. And that we all experience different type up bringing so we are all different.

But some people who are very similar mentally are people with personality disorders. When you have a personality disorder it seems like there is an attachment to your personality that is in a way a much more set way of thinking and those with personality disorders can act in very much the same way. Now this is not known so much but I learned it from personal experience that people raised by a parent of a particular personality disorder end up the same mentally.

Online I was in a support group for those who had been through narcissist abuse. I was able to help a few people out and for some reason decieded to check out some other support groups for those with mental illness. It was a group for depression and anxiety where people post what there thinking and others comment and try to support them. You can see that people with depression and anxiety are very similar and that a mental illness is clearly a disorder doing the thinking for them and not possible that people from all walks of life can be so similar in there thought.

But every so often there was a post always from a girl that was completely different and they were in real bother mentally with at least half a dozen mental illness that were completely different to the rest. They were something I could relate to and what I knew about and that was narcissist personality disorder. Basically they were in a bad way mentally and were looking for answers and psychiatry wasn’t able to help them. They would all write something very similar describing there situation to perfection in about 200 words and were super desperate to find out what was going on with there minds as they had got Major depression disorder on top of all the others, but this was too much for them. About twenty women I must of chatted on line to about them being narcissistically abused from day one and all conversations went the same way. It was like I was talking to the same person each time and they all had a similar lot of mental illnesses. Each one would find out what they needed and then be off and wouldn’t here from them again. They had all been through the same emotionally and all ended up the same with all the same illnesses. They were basically the nicest kindest people on the planet whilst having the most mental illnesses and they turned out that way from what they had been through. But emotionally they are treated like scum and are called black sheep and there emotions are weak and end up with all kinds of mental illness. They all lived good lives with families and jobs and had everything but no matter what they did they had all types of mental illness and couldn’t do anything more to fight it as all there life they had had to fight it. They were super strong and logical but from basically being hated and out cast from there parent they were emotionally weak and it caused them to all react the same and onto many mental illnesses.

It is where I first started to see that what you go through emotionally as the cause of your mental strength or weakness. Some people go through things emotionally and there not even aware of it and its not seen as abuse but certain things you go through emotionally as a child can make you weak and subseptable to mental illness later. Especially things like depression and anxiety and other disorders.

I ended up joining all the groups and the type of mental illness in them reflected mostly that they had been through long term abuse as a child and the type of abuse reflected in the personality disorder they had.

Now for me the world is out there researching mental illness and not researching the actual people with illness. They are looking at what they can see visually in the mind and there has never been an image taken of a mental illness nor of some ones mind.

Your mentality surely has to be what you have been through or its not possible for you to have such thought. There has never been any imagery taken of the mind and it simple doesn’t exist and that out mentality is our thoughts. We clearly also have emotions that when weak or if we have been abused cause certain mental illness and the rest or what we are trying to work out is the emotional abuse or things missed emotionally by children that cause mental illness when there young and onto later in life as well. There are disorders including common mental illness that have an effect on a childs emotions and there not able to grow strong and mental illness results.

If we are ever going to work this out and help them then its all bout trying to identify what you have been through and how to combat this later in life. Having maybe missed out emotionally certain things when we were at a given age changes us emotionally and can explain all sorts of disorders and illnesses. its not enough to be able to work out there was some issue with inconsistent parenting or some broad thing someone has been through or you wont be able to solve any mental illness. There needs to be people who know how emotions work and can work out what happened and then on to see if its possible that what happened emotionally can be substituted later in life so the person gets out of mental illness.

What people don’t realise is the increase in mental illness and how big this area is. If its not the biggest challenge we face as a human race it soon may well be.  I think I should say sorry if you read this. Im sure it was too all over the place to understand but if you got something out of it then great… Writing is my mental illness.



DEPRESSION, what is it, how did I get it, can I fix it ….why why why

When your trying to fix something that is difficult, it helps when you know all about the problem.  But what is out there in terms of what depression is, how you get depression and how you beat depression is all a bit hazy to say the least. Basically we don’t even know how you get depression and that’s not a great starting point if your willing to try and beat depression.

I feel I know how you get depression but that is not going to give you enough confidence to believe me. Its different to anything that you may have learned as the causes of depression and you will have your own beliefs. Once you believe in something it is very hard for you to change your view or beliefs as that is what you have learned and that’s just how the human brain works. Your taught something and you generally believe in it. For example people in India believe the cow is sacred and something to do with it being a god and they don’t eat it. While people In the west don’t know what the hell there on about and think it is great to eat. People in India think this as that is what they have learned from others and the people who never learned this don’t even give it much thought as there been chowing down on cow all there lives and just see them in paddocks doing next to nothing with a blank look on there face.

So the first challenge for me to be able to help someone with depression is to be able to communicate information that you can relate to that outweighs your beliefs in areas of how you got depression and how you feel your depression works inside your mind. Like a trust that this person knows what he is talking about and the way forward may be at least consider this information due to it being relatable to my circumstances over what else I have heard or even what my current beliefs are on the issue.

I don’t have depression but I feel I know how it works. I’m sure I know how you get it but I cant say I know how you fix it. I can only assume I can possibly lead you on the right track to fix it as I know how you get it and how this disorder works in the minds of people and I’ve just worked out that certain things should be able to fix the problems you face.

Knowing how depression works means that I know this disorder doesn’t make it easy for you to try and get help to want to fix it. You don’t want depression as the thoughts it gives you from your mind don’t make you feel good about things and yourself, but are hesitant to part take in things or listen to advice about what might help. Firstly this may be because you feel that you are not understood and someone without depression doesn’t get what its like to have depression. And that for sure is true, unless you have it, people don’t understand that you are virtually not in control all the time of what you think in your mind and simply cant snap out of it. But also depression is like this thing. Its a mental disorder living in you mind that can take over your thoughts and like everything in this life it does not want you to get help as that may mean it is gone and doesn’t exist anymore.

Ive seen it many times where a person seems to be reaching out for help and when the help is there then the person disappears and is not willing. Its for sure something that you have to be determined to do and not let the depression disorder get in the way of your true thoughts of wanting to get well and live a good life mentally.  More than likely you were not looking for help in the first place and just wanted to talk to someone who understood what you were going through which is fair enough and how everyone is.

What I think someone with depression should be able to relate to though is that your not always in control of your thoughts and that you cant help that you feel low about your self and have confidence issues. And its not a situation where you can just snap out of it or go get help. Your more in a situation where you cant control your thoughts at time that make you feel low and try to manage the situation the best way you can and others cant understand why your thoughts are so negative. They might not even feel that negative and you feel that your thoughts are totally rational and the way you see things is correct. But I can tell you that this is the thoughts of depression that have taken over your real thoughts at times and depression is very negative and hurts your self esteem.

Try to understand those that don’t understand you. They cant possibly understand how you feel as its a disorder doing the thinking for you at times and this way of thinking is not a way how others think. When you are negative about something it doesn’t make you feel good emotionally. When your discussing depression with someone that might want to help your take on what your trying to describe is negative and hurts there emotions to hear such talk. They will try and get you to think about things from how they feel and you will think that they don’t understand you. And they don’t and will avoid you or avoid the talk of being negative as its something that people in general try and stay away as it doesn’t make them feel good inside and there always trying to stay positive and your depression is being TOXIC in effect to them.

I think people don’t understand someone with depression, but more over someone with depression doesn’t understand that this is a disorder that is an attachment of your real self and way of thinking and that its the disorder making you think like this and at times when your not feeling depressed is when that is the real you and that the disorder is distracted from your thoughts but waiting to take over again when your mind becomes idle.

The main thing someone should be able to relate to when discussing depression that seems to be virtually forgotten by professionals and literature is how you got it. People don’t get depression for no reason, there is always something in life that is not right and its this that plays on the mind of someone and eventually your mind spirals down and into depression. No one is happy and carefree in life and then gets hit with depression disorder. Life doesn’t work like that. Its when you become weak emotionally due to some sort of situation that your mind didn’t enjoy and you got bad feeling on your insides and this is your emotions making you feel bad trying to tell you that this kind of attack is not something you should be exposed to.

You should be able to relate to something in your life that made you feel emotionally weak and loose confidence. Someone caused you to think negative about your self and over time you ended up with depression. Your mind become confused and you were thinking negatively and like then same thing over and over and now your got depression. That your mind has been abused in some way.

You should be able to relate to this as that how you get depression. Your emotions get to a level of weakness where a disorder takes over as the human body tries to protect it self from going even further down emotionally. Emotions get effected from thoughts from the mind, If your mind encounters a situation where it continually is confronted with negativity or a person being put down then this type of thoughts spin around in the mind effecting you emotionally and making you weak. You drop confidence because the thoughts in your mind are negative about your self and your mental well being deteriates to low levels. Unless you got depression from before you remember you should really be able to relate to having been through something bad emotionally or for some a life of straight up mental pain. Mental abuse or any type of abuse especially when your a child and your emotions are trying to develop wil make you weak and onto mental illness depending on the type of abuse suffered.

People with other mental illness have all been through other types of abuse that effected them emotionally. You may have more than one mental illness yourself and that will be due to your mind enduring different types of abuse. It can be even psychical or sexual abuse, it doesn’t matter, it is all felt through the mind and your emotions get there messages from the mind and if there not got thoughts then you get emotionally weak.

People with schitzophenia have all been psychically abused,  sexual abused people all have borderline personality disorder and people with anxiety all have had there emotions put into a situation that they did not enjoy over and over that they worried about and now worry about ever thing. Emotions for everyone work the same and if your got mental illness then its because your been put through something in real life.

Understanding and being able to relate to what was the cause of getting depression and how you would of spiriled down to this depth emotionally is the key as it what going to be required to get out of depression. You need to get emotionally strong.  You need to know what are the things that make you weak and limit them in your life and you need to know what are the things to make you strong. The first starting point is to know that negative will make you feel bad and positive will make you feel good.

The next most important thing to know is that your emotions get there information from your mind and that negative thoughts onto negative cyclical thoughts hit your emotions over and over again and how depression works sometimes and that a way needs to be thought of how to limit the times when the mind does this to you.

I was going to go into how this is done but it is such a big topic and will leave it for another blog, but there is a lot of thought and determination that would go into getting out of depression. everyone has been through different stuff and each person has to get better in there own way. Understanding the why and how you get depression over time can give your mind the tools to be able to think along the lines of how you can reverse what has happened. Its not easy and what you been through was not easy, but the only way is positive and living with depression is always going to be the hardest thing you do and the easy way might be to fix it. I have some good ideas of some of the things that may help and all focus on the disorder and a life where there is no abuse and your mind can think of new things and be free….



Dogs are so much like people.

In the world today one of the challenges we face is to find out why people get mentally ill. We have no clue and its increasing despite the increase in money spent on it. The is no cure and to any mental illness and we may be completely off the mark as to where we are looking for the cause of mental illness.

I think mental illness is caused by emotional abuse of some type that effects the emotions of a person in a way and depending how, will eventuate in the resulting mental illness. We don’t know how emotions work in people and think the way someone turns out mentally for all sorts of reasons generally that have nothing to do with how we have been raised.

If we were to look at dogs, it seems to be a bit more known about them mentally than people. From what I have noticed in my life is that if you treat a dog good then it will be a good dog. My dad was great with dogs and both our dogs were great dogs. Neither of them ever showed any aggression to anyone or anything. They were always keen to play or go somewhere and would be always happy to see you and never knocked back any attension, love, a pat or a scratch. If you wanted to muck around and play then so did they. There were five kids and the dogs were always playing with us . There favourite was dad who feed them and treated them both as good as us. Basically what im trying to say is that they were treated good and turned out good.

Over the years i’ve seen thousands of dogs and all the ones treated good all turned out to be great dogs and I think we all know that dogs will always turn out good if they are well looked after.

A few years ago I got a big dog that I got from the country side and called her shaya. One of the reasons I got her was because my son at the age of 3 was scared of all animals and very careful in general. A cat sleeping under the steps would scare the hell out of him and I don’t know why but it gave me the idea to get a dog. My other boy was only 6 months old at the time.  Shaya was a cross breed and was bread to hunt pigs. Her father was a pig hunter and the owner said she was the best dog they had ever had and wouldn’t hurt anyone.  He was breed with a faster smaller dog as the breed was a bit slow for chasing down pigs. Coming from the city it was all very interesting that a family dog also hunted pigs on the side and the owner said that when the ute is packed and ready to go hunting she changes gear and becomes a pig killer and loves nothing more than hunting pigs. Shaya was never going to get the chance but despite being the most non aggressive animal I have ever seen she was attracted to cats and rabbits but didn’t know what to do with em besides chase em.

So we got shaya when about 10 weeks old and wasn’t long before the oldest boy wasn’t scared of animals anymore and they became best friends. But how she was with the six month old boy was quite amazing. I never really had to tell her to not be rough with the baby and as soon as she got near was careful not to even bump him. She just knew some how that he was too small to play. By the age of six months she was pretty much full grown and trained pretty well as well. She seemed to play as rough as my boy would play with her and just naturally stepped it up as he played harder. Your would see em in the cubby house and on the trampoline together all the time and with all the wrestling they did together my boy began to love the rough stuff and was always condfident around the rough kids despite never being rough with them. He would just want to get in even with older kids for a wrestle and as long as they were playing fair and no cheap shots then he could take whatever they dish out.

The youngest one liked to push out a poo over ten minutes first thing in the morning. You would get him out of bed and he would go over to where the dog would lay for him in a quiet part of the living room. Shaya would lie down and not move and he would crawl all over her pulling her fur, ears and what ever he could get hold of to make him push out his daily poo. Some how she just knew to go and lay down and not move while he climbed all over her. If it took an hour the dog would lay there still for that time.

I never walked her on a lead as she needed the exercise and to be running around fast sometimes as that what’s her breed needed to do. She was road trained and you could trust her around all kids, people and dogs. She got roughed up a few times in the dog park but thought it was fun for her and never retailiated. She had been introduced to other dogs early and a loving life style and that’s all she had running through her now. There a smart breed and the amount of training reflected how good she got. She needed at least one walk a day and that’s all she had on her mind until she got one. It was easier to take her for a walk than being stalked. She hated when you left and would show you how sad she is. She definetly had separation anxiety and for a good while through the day would destroy something.  And it was always something that i didn’t want destroyed and mostly required just one chomp. When you come home you knew straight away she had done something as she would give herself up.

One day I totally lost my rag with her for chewing the things I told her not to and got the hose and wet her for it while screaming at her. After that I couldn’t go near the hose without her disappearing. She loved the water and was her favourite thing to go down the river or the beach but the hose was her worst nightmare.

Overall shaya turned out just as she was treated. She reacted to everything in some way and is a great dog.   Basically shaya turned out exactly how she was treated. Every step of the way. And it seems like all dogs do.

But it works the other way to, dogs that get beaten are scared of people, dogs that don’t get introduced to other dogs don’t like other dogs. Certain dogs depending on there breed if they don’t get enough exercise and play they become depressed and other things wrong with them right down the way to being hosed with water always reflect how there been treated.

Mentally they need enough stimulation per day or you risk them not turning out well and being harder to manage than if there treated right. They wont give you all the happiness that you get from a dog treated well. And I think its possible to see that how you treat your dog will be the direct way that they turn out. But also on to how poorly you treat them will reflect how they turn out  and be like that for all there years. Basically abused dogs whether psychically or emotionally through boredom and not enough love end up not happy or basically with mental illness and not able to change. I think what they go through emotionally is how they end up and the things that there emotions need is enough love, attension, food, play and exercise so they are happy mentally and live a life of happiness.

So this is how a dogs emotions work and it seems like human have very similar emotions to that of dogs and for me work the same. They react to what ever is put in front of them to feel and that’s the only way they can. The same way as a well treated dog turns out hapy is the same for a human and the same way a mistreated child ends up the same way a mistreated dog. With problems mentally in life and not a happy carefree person that is strong and able to deal with what’s in front of them for the rest of there days.

Emotions are emotions and depending on the animal and how they are by nature that any mistreatment will see them react emotionally to deal with there lives they have given. Dogs work emotionally the same as children, they just want love and praise for the things they do and to not be left in any boredom type situations for too long or they become destressed emotional and problems with behaviour can appear.

It may seem like someone is treating another good but like a dog if there not putting in the effort in all areas like even exercise and play then there not being treated how they mentally need to be. Studying how a dog reacts to what they encounter in life should lead the way to how humans as well react to there surrounds and become like they have been treated and onto the cause of mental illness.

Done right you can get labradores which are hard to train as being guide dogs for the blind and all dogs seem to learn things like people when its done the right way. Shout and threaten a dog and they never train right and become scared of you, Encourage and praise an animal and feed and love them and they will do all most anything for you and provide you with undying love the same way we are built as humans. Don’t look after a dog or when there wild then they can become savage as well like humans. Mistreat a dog and they carry the scares for ever just like humans as well with becoming mentally ill. To think of someone or an animal as becoming something they were not bought up like is not really possible and when people work out the same way you can with dogs that how someone is treated will reflect on how they are emotionally all through there life. That the main person in a childs life is there parents and will have the greatest influence in there life and if treated right will make them strong enough to handle there life mentally. Also that not mentally stimulating a child the required amount could also result in mental illness onto the way you teach someone things is going to reflect how well they are trained or educated.

All things from birth are either learned from experience or taught to you. And its not possible to just become something you have not been through and experienced in life.  A mistreated dog will always show you that there is something wrong the same way a child will but we don’t listen to them when they show us abnormal behaviour and blame them for being bad which will never be the case.


“TOXIC PERSON”, What does that mean……..

Sometimes you here the word “toxic”. Maybe that a some one is toxic or what someone says is toxic. Most people kind of know it’s got something to do with that person being negatively annoying at maybe all the wrong times bringing down a situation in some way. And that’s kind of what a “toxic” person is. This is what I would describe as a positive view on this type of person which is always the way to go in general but understanding this word a little more is a good idea as it helps you to stay away from such people. It also can lessen the effect on you emotionally. Some things people can say can really up set a person and there is no need to be getting upset from some one who is “TOXIC”.

To me the word toxic person goes a little bit further than being negatively annoying. A toxic person is someone who hasn’t got what would be considered normal feelings for others. They don’t have the right amount of empathy in them to be able to take the feelings of others into account when saying what they say. There feelings can work in reverse in a way. Instead of feeling good about being nice to someone they get some level of satisfaction from negatively effecting someone.

They often upset people as you may disagree with there opinions or not understand there point of view. That’s because as a person you have what could be considered normal feelings and emotions and you know and feel that this opinion is wrong and different to what you would say in a situation. People can get annoyed by this type of person and argue the situation or it effects them for a period of time after the fact.

The reason why a toxic person can effect another person so much is how the brain of a normal person processes it thoughts. When you hear something that is of a toxic nature your brain takes in this as thought and you process this information in some way. Your emotions don’t like what they have been exposed to as they feel the thoughts from your brain. Your cant see there point of view and it can be in some way upsetting as you don’t enjoy having to process this type of thought and it makes you feel bad emotionally in some kind of way. You can get frustrated and angered in some way as a person has effected you in a negative way and that’s not acceptable to you as you wouldn’t do that to someone else. Most rational people would apoligise if they did or would be able to see reason if they are to hurt someone in a negative way but a toxic person seems to stand there ground and not be so apologetic.

But this doesn’t happen with a toxic person and no matter how wrong they may be, they are just not able to see it or show what you may see as the right amount of remorse for the situation. Often it maybe a back handed apology or getting the last word in as well which can just make things worse.

But the key and what can save you a lot of time wasted thinking about these kind of people is to understand them and not to listen to them. They don’t have the same feelings or emotions of a normal person. When they get no pleasure to themselves emotionally by being nice they wont have the same rational as you or me. They don’t see that they are saying something wrong as to them they feel good about what they said. They don’t feel the hurt from the other person perspective. If you try and rational with them you are pretty much wasting your time as they have different feeling and thoughts to you and wont be able to see it from your perspective.

You will be thinking of how that person has effected the other negatively and they are wrong to say such thing and all they will be able to think about is themselves and how it didn’t hurt them and not be able to see your point. You could ague till the cows come home and you wont get anywhere. You are arguing rational with someone who is not.

Trying to rationalise with someone or something said that is irrational is a waste of time and irrational to do so. Understanding that there is something wrong with them emotionally to make them have these backward type thoughts is the key. Understand that there is something wrong with them and that there words are not always going to be rational. That to take notice of someone toxic is irrational and to attempt to change that type of thought is impossible and irrational as well. You can only gravitate away from such people to lessen the effect there words have on you emotionally. See there view as being one from a person who isn’t normal in there way of thought and to take the minimal notice you can from them as they are not right in what they say. Give them the least amount of joyment from you being frustrated as you can will work the best. If you don’t take notice of toxic people or if you can be on a level where you understand that there not right emotionally and there views are not worth thinking about is the way to go. They don’t try to affect those people who don’t get effected and them selves will gravitate to those who are weaker emotionally and easier to effect negatively.  If you get put down don’t think about what has been said, it will do you no good. Think that is what someone would say if they where trying to get satisifaction from having someone else suffer emotionally and be glad your not like that and try to always encourage and praise others as it will make you and others feel better around you and that’s the goal. It might be your friend, your mum someone at work, just don’t let it effect you or waste your energy trying to change em, be happy that your got good feelings and emotions and protect them from being effected at all times


DEPRESSION. A completely different look at one of life’s mystery’s

Depression is a disorder a person can get and we don’t know why. We don’t know how you get it and we don’t know how to fix it. It makes sense that we don’t know how to fix something when we don’t know the cause of it. There is billions being spent on the fight against the increase in depression in society and there is no progress in stopping the increase in this disorder that leaves the person in a state of mental suffering that only the person going through the pain is able to know such suffering. Finding the cause of this disorder is the key to ever knowing how to stop it. There needs to be a complete step back in what is being looked at in the research and some logic injected into what could possibly be the cause of something that has become just as important or more important than anything the human race has been confronted with.

I think I know the cause of depression and I will go through some logical steps that one should go through if there is ever going to be an advancement in our knowledge and then on to the fixing of anyone with this disorder. I think if you go back to basics and completely start again as the only possible approach and disregard all known knowledge of this disorder as possibly not being correct as to date it is not providing any help in the cause of this disorder.

The place I started to gain a real in site into depression is from an online support group for people with depression and anxiety. The group had about 200,000 members in it and for me is a logical place to start with getting some form of new knowledge about this disorder.  Learning what there is to know about depression from those who have it I believe is the key to finding out the cause of depression. There is a mass of people that can be studied from there posts they have made and the comments other people with this disorder have also made, that if ever looked at and thought about enough will find the cause of how one gets depression. There is lots of these groups all with massive numbers that total into the millions able to be looked at. To do research with these kind of number in a life study of actual people would never be practical and take up more time than what could possibly be practical to even think about.

I don’t have depression and at the time when I first looked at these groups of people with depression I noticed lots of things that stick out from people with this disorder and a knowledge of depression eventually gained through those that have the disorder and not through any book that may or may not even be right. This is the first logical step that needs to be taken. Analyse those people with the disorder as they are the issue and see what can be made of them from the available information they have documented trying to get through there life with this disorder.

The first thing to note is the size of these groups, it shows how serious and big this problem is. Why are all these people going to these support groups is one question that is easy to figure out. They are going there for support and knowledge of depression that they have not been able to get from standard mental health practices or people like friends or family. It looks like people with depression are very frustrated that they are not being understood from others and find some solace in the groups of people that understand what they are going through.

The next thing that is really obvious to see that sticks out and hits you hard is how people with depression and anxiety don’t think like what would be considered normal or logical in there thoughts about life. When you got depression you have such a negative view on all things and how bad your life is and that others in the group agree with your negative thoughts and that no one is offering much help in trying to see things from a more positive or reasonable point of view. It seems like everyone in these groups is in agreeance in some way to any negative thought process that just rings of gloom in any thought they have in there life.

For me it showed how people with depression have a disorder that could only be something that makes people think in a negative manner and not the real thoughts of the individual as the similarities in what people were saying were just to similar from such a broad range of people from all over the world. You can see quite clearly that depression is some kind of disorder that changes the thoughts in your life to being negative and similar from person to person that are not what any person would think like with out the disorder. That possibly this is a disorder that is an attachment to the way one thinks and not the actual thought process of the person but the thought process of a disorder that has attached it self to the person way of thinking is what I could see from what people were writing about.

Thinking logically the question that needs to be thought of is how did this disorder that seems very similar to those who have it become part of there way of thinking. Finding the cause of depression would require one to look at what happened in the lead up to someone getting this negative way of thinking attached to its thought process and examine if there is a correlations from those who were able to give good information as to what there lives were like before they had depression. But most importantly is to look at the situation from what a person was going through mentally as a result of there life experienced as mental illness is from problems from the mind and the mind is really just what is going on in side our head in the way of thoughts.

It is pretty obvious and easy to see especially if you are aware of the possible reason for some one getting depression as there being some form of trauma or emotional abuse that they have been through and there is definetly not the feeling of people that have been through a good life with a loving family that provided them with a childhood full of nice experiences.

Whilst we don’t know the cause of depression we have some type of knowledge that there is a correlation of there being a greater likelihood of mental illness if you have been through some form of abuse. But also we know how it is important to think positively and have a clear mind and to experience things in life as being things that emotionally make us feel good inside. And we also have a bit of knowledge that being negative and having toxic people in our lives is going to bring us down in someway and feel bad and effect our happiness as people. I think the key to understanding the cause for depression and all mental illness is to expand on this basic type knowledge of how emotions work with in humans. How certain things can make us stronger and how some things make us weaker. And then on to the possibility of a disorder becoming present with in our minds when a certain level of low self esteem we are feeling as a result of what we are going through in our lives… Then also examining the difference to what a person with depression has gone through in there lives to someone who has had a good life all the way through and how strong they are emotionally. Looking into areas of psychology of the mind as to why some people negatively effect others and what a person who has endured a life of not ideal emotional up bringing and onto what there minds would of been through and other differences in how there life was.

We need to logically be able to think on a level that if someone in the life of someone causes there emotions to react negatively then there may be lots of other little differences that are experienced emotionally from someone who has not had toxic people in there life. That over time are some people due to others in there life able to getting emotionally weak and more chance of them becoming mentally ill as a result of what they have been through emotionally.

I could just feel from what I was reading in the support groups for depression that just reading such negative type posts with others agreeing as being toxic and giving me a feeling that I didn’t like and didn’t want to be exposed to such negative type posts and on to even these thoughts as being toxic or some negative out take of what would be considered rational way of thought. And this was just from a few minutes of reading comments from someone with depression. Is it possible that if we are exposed to much to even just negative or discouraging type thought in our life as possible causes for our emotions to develop in a manner that could mean a mental illness is possible.

I think emotions really need to be examined in how they work in finding a cause for depression. Are emotions effected by our environment that we live in and how do our emotions get effected. How is the way we think or the thoughts our brain has going to effect our emotions. Are our emotions just a way of experiencing the thought we have in our lives that is surely governed by what is around us.

There are people all around the world in these depression groups, men and women with nothing in common as far as culture or what they have done in life and all able to think the same shows there is a real possibility that this disorder thinks for a person in a set kind of a way. Just establishing that a disorder is not a persons actual way of thinking and a set way of thought from the actual depression disorder may provide some sort of new way to look at mental illness.

I think research has in general spent a massive amount of time looking for imbalances and things that could cause mental illness from a nature kind of stand point and nothing has been found. I think if there was something there then it would of shown up in a microscope in some way with what we are able to analyse these days and look into what emotions have been through as a possible cause to mental illnesses.

I looked at other types of mental illnesses other than depression and some of them had only victims of certain type of abuse with a disorder and was easy to see that what they had endured mentally was the likely cause of mental illness. Ask anyone who has no history of mental illness if they went though a life that corelates to being happy a  child and go into how likely a person gets depression as a result of having a happy childhood. Does a toxic parent or someone effect a person or how much that effects someone in there ability to be strong emotionally.  Look at depression from with in families. Is it more likely that sibling both have depression. The hereditary link for mental illness has been exhausted and nothing ever proven.  If something was heridatary I think that logically science would of found that link in the shaped of DNA passed down but there isn’t even images of what’s in a persons mind especially a mental illness being looked at visually.

It makes sense that if a parent has for example depression that they would teach there children from what they think and that is of a disorder that is negative, not encouraging and very limited in what you are open to experiences in your life and avoiding all types of life situations that might be how a child develops its emotional strength and is learning a way of thought that effects its emotions to the point of having depression all so.

We have some understanding of how “put down’s” don’t make us feel good. Is there more of a link between this in our lives compared to comments of encouragement and compliments being a cause for mental illness. Some people really cant handle being put down in any way while others don’t take any notice. Is there a level of mental or emotional strength where put downs or negative remarks begin to take a toll on a person thoughts process.

It seems like our brain is not able to process this kind of abuse and maybe our brain in general is not meant to experience such forms of information and just confuses the mind of a person. Do we have human instincts that make us gravitate to family or friends and take to heart from certain things from certain people which may just be toxic but hurt us emotionally even though we know there not true. Is there a bigger influence to what is the influence of a toxic person over someone who may be dependant on them. There are many things that could be the issue emotionally and the blog could go on forever I suppose.

I know about mental abuse and the effects it has on someone at a young age, I have seen it with my own eyes. Is there a type of parent that is seen as good but hurting a child emotionally and onto depression in there life. Is this the main thing being missed within current research as researchers are coming from a background where mental illness is not an issue and don’t understand what a mind goes though when going through some form of abuse as a child. Because they see a parent as the protector of children emotionally they cant even look into the likely hood of abuse being the issue that seem logical for there being issues when a child’s mind goes through tough times that they are not able to know any different to what they are experiencing.

With in the support groups there is definetly that feeling that a lot of people have experienced a terrible up bringing from parents that are not able to understand them emotionally. Is it time for people to step back and try to understand what someone goes through in there mind when things at home are not right. Is there a huge difference in playing happily and watching the wiggles to experiencing shouting and long periods of boredom because the parents are not able to be there for the kids on a level that may be needed. I can see that any type of problem is going to effect a child in some way and that it can only be mentally. If it can only be mentally then how much are problems able to hurt some one. Maybe a lot of things would not happen in the lives of people if there was a knowledge out there that it hurts the emotional strength of someone. I think there is on a lot of levels but it doesn’t go far enough to include the possibilitity of mental illness being the long term result and at present once you have a mental illness then you are stuck with it for ever.

But if we a humans are ever going to work out depression then we have to know how it is caused. A person may be able to help themselves if they actually knew why they had got it and maybe workout what they need to do to get emotionally stronger or stay away from toxic people etc as something that would be benifical.  But im sure over time as if the cause of depression was able to be worked out and understood that it would lead to people being able to work out ways or what’s needed for someone emotionally if they are ever able to fix there depression. As a human race it seems like we are able to solve almost anything as long as we know the cause and with normal health its like breakthoughs are made daily while mental health goes backwards with people in general not knowing anything at all about how we work emotionally and mentally which I guess in reality is our happiness in life and the thing we are all trying to achieve.




Human beings have emotions. Emotions are effected from the thoughts we have from our brain. The thoughts we have from our brain are from the experiences and what is taught to us through out our life. When we experience something in life we feel this in some way that to some small degree makes us stronger or weaker. If our life takes us on a journey where the thoughts we have are scewed in such a manner that our emotions get weak enough then a mental illness or disorder becomes possible. It may be the humans mind protecting it self from getting to weak emotionally. At the high end of those with mental illness are those who have gone through some form of abuse during those years of developing emotions causing negative and cyclical thoughts that they didn’t enjoy emotionally and caused them to be weak in some way emotionally where a mental illness or personality disorder became part of there mental being. At the high end of those that are mentally strong are people that have gone through experiences where there thoughts have been of fun, love and new experiences they enjoyed that have positively effected there emotions and made them mentally strong.

It sounds complicated. Put simply, your level of emotional strength reflects what your emotions have been through. Emotions are just human instincts that guide us though our lives by giving us feelings of what is good or bad inside trying to protect us and lead us down the path of what feels good or what gives us the most joy. Due to circumstances of life we do not all ways have a choice to evade situations where our emotions can be negatively effected from other people who we may be dependant also in some way.  Some people do not have an understanding that there actions effect others in negative ways due to issues in themselves emotionally from what they have been through often referred to as being toxic.

I first started to realise that mental illness comes from what your emotions have been through due to personal experience where I joined an online group for victims of a certain kind of abuse. Cutting a long story short, I ended up chatting with some people that had many different mental illnesses or disorders and they had all been through the same life from the start where one of there parents had NARCISSIST personality disorder (NPD). They were all the second child in the family and refered to as scapegoats. You could say they were abused emotionally from birth and the result is not very nice with what they go through mentally.  It seemed like they had all ended up quite similar or virtually identical to each other mentally as a result of them going through a similar life.

The reason why they were the second child is that someone with NPD abuses the first child in a different way and they end up becoming this same disorder as the parent. For me it was an introduction into a world I could barely believe to be true and not possible for anyone to believe exist unless you have experienced it for your self. I tried to explain it to others but no one gets even 2% into understanding how the world of narcissism works so I wont go on to much about it. But I had the experience of my kids at a young age suffering quite bad mentally and later even found the emotional abuse that they were going through as my partner had actually secretly filmed it. It was nothing even that bad and just a load of little things that were all just a bit odd in reality, but all things that would do you no good emotionally.

But this sparked a bit of an interest or obsession from with in me a while back that you basically are emotionally what you have been through life experience wise and how these emotions we have work with in us.  I joined other types of support groups for those with other types of disorders and it seemed like other mental illnesses had been through different kinds of abuse generally from that young age. Eventually after much more research from with in these support groups and a lot of logical type thinking about how the human brain works pieced together this puzzle of the mind that I think ends up with there being this direct correlation of what you go through mentally or emotionally will be the resultant strength of the person or disorders that may eventuate.

What I didn’t know was that with in mental health this was not really documented as being the reason for mental illness. It was more of that a certain percentage of people abused got mentally ill and the rest was some mystery of what ever anyone wanted to believe was how you got mentally ill. But from what I had noticed was that the percentage was closer to 100 and it didn’t make the slightest bit of sense to me that going through abuse as a child and how bad that would be on a child but also on developing emotions and what they would of been through mentally and onto them getting a mental disorder possible for say someone like myself to become mentally ill who had a good child hood and was mentally strong. I thought that there is no comparison possible to be made in what I had been through mentally to someone abused throughout there child hood and being dependant on that person at the same time.

I cant think of anything bad that happened as a child against a poor kid laying awake at night not being able to sleep due to having racing thoughts of some type of incidents he might of been witness to at the very least. Going through mental illness at a young age and not knowing why he is so troubled from the earliest of ages as that was the only life he knew is nothing I can relate to but I also thought it was definetly such a painful thought and reasonable to now have a personality disorder as a result.

After a while and lots of thoughts about this I felt as though the whole mental health thing made sense and was sure how human emotions worked and the cause of mental illness was some sort of situation where a persons emotions had been through experiences that ended up in them being weak as the cause of mental illness. Beside there not being a reason for mental illness documented in any certain way, there is also no cure for any type of mental illness and this would probably be a result of there not being a cause of mental illness. Then onto how is it possible that I felt I knew the cause and why did no one else in this industry have these ideas when it seems a bit obvious that abuse causes mental illness at a certain percentage at the very least. I’m not someone special and have no training in this area so I couldn’t see it possible that I worked out something others could not and looked for possible reasons in how it possible that there are probably millions of professionals all researching into possible causes of mental illness and none looking at some form of mental abuse being the reason. It is called mental health for a reason and its all got to be mental as the only rational I could think of. There was no image ever taken of someone with mental illness that come up different so maybe there is not this chemical or just unluckyness type situation where people got mentally ill.

The only explanation I could come up with is that to feel the intensity on the mind of what its like to go through abuse is something you have to go through or you just cant even relate to it. When the human mind cant relate to something then it tends to not be even able to think about it. Doctors or those looking into mental health research are all highly intelligent and well educated and not mentally ill, hence not from an abusive back ground, so there mental health knowledge is from what has been taught to them and not from any life experience. They are not taught that mental illness is a result of what someone has been through emotionally so they cant know it as a result I think is the only possible thing I can think of. Up until a couple of years ago I thought I knew a little about mental health but I really knew nothing. I hadn’t been exposed to any type abuse or persons with mental illness and my thoughts just started and ended with that some people are just crazy like most people. But because of personal circumstances and what my children will be exposed to I dove into an area where there are people who have been through and going through virtual hell and no sign despite what people think in general of there being any help for them or even understanding. And its not like there are just a few, there are millions with mental problems and billions being spent and no results of any progress being made in any direction, only increases in the numbers of people with mental illness. I don’t think anything will ever be worked out within mental health now. There is just to much teaching out there that are probably wrong and no one who can relate to those with mental illness. I know myself and how people are, once you believe one thing or you have been taught something its virtually impossible to change your opinion especially if you don’t experience it for yourself.



rrrrThis is how to fix a mental illness. Im not saying its possible to achieve the end goal. I think it is possible  to see the way to actually fix any disorder that exists though.  There are a lot of variable that need to be defined in a new way to even get an understanding of how to fix a mental illness.

The two most important concepts are emotions and thoughts. When you have a thought in your head you get a feeling inside. This is your emotions telling you if the thought you had is good or bad for you. If the feeling is good you get a strengthening of your emotions and a bad feeling will weaken your emotions. People who are strong emotionally are characterised with a life where they have had there thoughts being mostly positive. A good life from an early age develops a person emotions to be strong and able to handle occasional negative thoughts. On the flip side someone weak emotionally will be characterised with a life of too many negative thoughts weakening them emotionally with occasional positive thoughts providing relief from there suffering of feeling weak emotionally.

Possibly it is best explained by your childhood. Lets say that is from the age of 0 to 18years old. I had a good child hood. Im 44 now and every thought of my life as a child is a good thought. Sure there were moments or things that happened that would of effected me negatively but are so out weighed by the positive that its impossible for me remember them as bad times and only have good feelings of my childhood. Now put all these positive thoughts over my life time against a child who had a violent upbringing for example. Remembering things like laying in your bed scared out of your brain un able to sleep or even make sense of it all as the thoughts you have when your mind thinks about your past will be a constant negative feel you will have inside emotionally making you feel weak emotionally.

While your awake your brain is constantly thinking about something on some level. It would be millions of thoughts. I estimate up until the age of 42 my brain would of had 10 million positive thoughts versus half a million negative thoughts and I was very strong emotionally and basically never had a bad day in my life. Those negative thoughts were nothing super intense and I was way to strong emotionally for them to be an issue anyway. Reverse that equation with a child from a violent upbringing and magnify those negative thoughts with a 100 time magnitude and feel how a person emotions would of taken such a beating negatively that you would be emotionally so weak that allows for some type of mental illness or many to be encountered. Emotionally strong people don’t get mental illnesses, its only for people who have had negative thoughts on a level that weakened emotions to a certain level that a disorder presented itself as a way of protecting them against there own mind destroying themselves emotionally. Children who had violent upbringings often have various mental illness like ADHD, depression, anxiety and schitizophrenia amongst others. Simply put a human is not able to emotionally go through adversity as a child and develop strong emotions due to having negative thoughts of there life constantly making them emotionally weak. Emotions simply do not work like that. You go through something bad and it effects your emotions and that’s just how they work.

It doesn’t have to be something as serious as violence. Something as simple as a parent not being encouraging enough or a bit negative will cause an emotions in a child to be exposed constantly to something negative and making them weaker emotionally. Weaker emotions can spiral downward with constant negative thoughts they are easily had when there are negative things to think about of the past. A person may even be able to remember a childhood they didn’t enjoy and cant see that anything even bad happened to them in there childhood. Maybe they had depression from an early age and cant even know why. But the answer is simple always. For some reason your mind had negative thoughts on a level that made you emotionally weak to the point where you took on emotionally depression disorder. Now its hard not to have negative thoughts as the depression has these thoughts for you weather you like it or not and turning this around might be or seem like mission impossible.

But over the last little while due to a bit of bad luck you could say, i’ve had more negative thoughts about issues that my brain is not able to cope as there are a lot of negatives and emotionally I am getting weaker. Every negative thought im aware of and spend most of my days now trying to distract myself with things that don’t allow me to just think about all the negativity that im going through. Its nothing I can control and just put out of my mind, its just something i’ve got to go through and hope I get through it.

Without going into the whole long story, I was basically diagnosed with a delusion disorder where I believed my ex-partner is a malignant narcissist. You could say that there not the nicest thing to have a relationship with and can make up things that other people including psychiatrist believe and you end up on anti-psychotic medication that is compulsory and has a side effect of servere anxiety that gives you constant negative thoughts and worries in life where I have to literally try to spend most of my time distracting myself from negative thoughts, mainly about the medication that is hurting me emotionally so much.   Going from being strong emotionally straight into anxiety disorder is a hard jump to have to go through. Im having all these negative thoughts and worry’s about this ridiculous situation I find myself in instead of being able to go through the normal thought processes of my real life drama’s that I would of been able to cope with as I was strong enough emotionally.

Im able to feel this weakening of myself emotionally and basically have got to hang on and not get to emotionally weak before I get off this medication and able to repair myself emotionally. But its made me aware of how emotions work and I think they work the same for everyone.

But this is the key or the theorem in how to fix a mental illness.  For those with some sort of disorder are you able to somehow be able to stop your mind having thoughts that weaken your emotions and turn it all around and get strong emotionally. Im not sure how possible that is when you got some type of disorder in a way doing the negative thinking for you on top of being emotionally weak and a past that has your mind remembering bad times is not a way to get emotionally strong.

I guess I see a fairy tale type solution of being able to fix a mental illness of developing some sort of life style that has a positive direction and so interesting that your distracted from whatever mental illness on such a scale that doesn’t allow for your mental illness to do the thinking for you or for you to remember  things in the past that hurt you emotionally and get constant new positive thoughts from a lifestyle that some how miraculessly comes around that is of constant excitement and positivity while being able to un confuse your mind that has all these built up thoughts and remember such bad times that are impossible to forget as the overall theory to how you fix a mental illness or a disorder.  Not saying its possible but I guess anything along these lines is the way to at least feel better. For me its hang on to my hat time and try not to fall to hard.  Writing is a distraction for me and allows for me to think clearly and a break from the negative thoughts that is my new life that im desperately trying to avoid.



MENTAL HEALTH, the greatest misunderstood subject in history……

Its probably the most important subject there is and we as people have the least understanding about.  I can say I had not only a poor understanding of mental illness only 18 months ago, that I had a false understanding of everything about mental health would be a more accurate statement.

I thought like a lot of people out there that some people were crazy and there was this system that we had called mental health that fixed them. That I was just lucky that I was rational thinking and maybe drugs or just bad luck that some people were a little crazy and seemed to be no one I knew about. I probably thought that not being very logical in the way you thought was something to do with it and that even this was some pretty high thought process to know that.

But after 43 years I started to find out that all things to do with the mental health system have nothing to do with anything I had ever imagined or been lead to believe has anything to do with reality and was a case that I had been bought up in a way where I hadn’t been exposed to anything or anyone who had any issues with mental health and the information out there that we receive over time about the system, I thought was just correct but it doesn’t really reflect on the actual system at all.

I didn’t know that most people with mental illnesses had been abused as children. I didn’t know that people with mental illnesses were not crazy. I didn’t know that there was no cure for any mental illnesses and that we don’t even know how someone gets mentally ill. I didn’t know that someone with something as simple as depression has this illnesses for ever and couldn’t help how they got it and there is no way of getting rid of it in most cases.  That it is something serious and you go through life with this negative way of thinking about yourself and situations that you cant help and makes it all so painful. But the main thing I didn’t know about was how the professionals in this field don’t know a whole lot of these things also and it looks like we as humans are ever going to understand anything relevant about the whole of mental health possible for ever and ever.

It is so far off from what I have seen in a short time about mental health.  A more accurate way to describe mental health would be to say, “some people through no fault of there own go through some form of abuse and generally while there children and that abuse, often at the fault of there own parents or people they are dependant on causes them over time to go through things in there mind that no one is able to cope with. That certain mental illnesses come from being abused in a certain way”.

I would also describe the system by saying, “that despite there being a correlation that people who have been abused as having mental illness or personality disorders it isn’t reconized by most that this has anything to do with it and we are looking at every other possible avenue but this one as a cause of mental illness and see no reason to think that something mental could have anything to do with the how going through abuse could possibly effect ones thoughts as a child”.

Those two statements are about as kind as I could be and could have many more along these lines that describe what we call as mental health. It’s feels nearly criminal to not be able to know how you can get mentally ill in a system that I guess has the goal one day of being able to help someone get over a mental illness.

But how are people within mental health even able to know that forms of abuse generally from those someone is dependant on being the cause of mental illness. First to become a doctor you need to be at the top of the class to get into this field. That’s not going to happen if you are faced with adversity at home and being abused from a young age. You are going to be bought up well without the terrible thoughts that some people have got going through there head while there trying to learn. You going to only know about how you could think really clear and learn at a high level. So while it seems rational that a doctor being so well educated is going to be able to understand that of someone who has been through abuse, it is in reality probably the last thing that they have ever experienced and cant relate at all to being abused. Because they have never been abused then no doctor ever get mentally ill and any educated mind in this field doesn’t have any real life experience to what are the real issues of mental health and goes on to not understanding those people who are in its system that it runs.

They are called doctors and everyone in society has this belief in doctors from general doctors being able to fix just about anything these days and a system im sure works very well to fix issues that are not to do with the mind and have breakthrough after breakthrough in advances to the things they find with in research that they are able to visually see in there work. While mental health research does do the same research and looks for what it can find visually about the mind with no breakthroughs ever been seen in an area that by its very name mental, which means what in the mind and is never going to be found something visual but we continue to search as doctors and researches are not  able to understand that abuse causes mental illness as they cant relate to it.

If they were to ask the actual person with various mental illness what they went through mentally before they had mental illness they would all get the same response and the only response I have ever got from people with mental illness. If they were to ask things like what effect did it have on your thinking when you were being abused they would all be saying the same thing. No one would say that it wasn’t equivelant to going through the unimaginable or it didn’t bother them that someone they were dependant on for there lives was doing something that effected them either mentally or psychically that really played on there mind growing up and now have this mental illness as a result. There is no people out there with mental illness saying that they had a great up bringing and now have a mental illness. It doesn’t even make sense to have a mental illness with happy thoughts of your life banging around in your head and that’s called being emotionally strong when you do.

People with voices in there head or schitzophenia are always the result of being psychically abused and there is never a case of being caused from anything else. The effect it would have on your mind would be terrible and laying there at night as a child not feeling safe scared out of your mind is a rational thing the mind may do to have voices in your head.  Its even rational for this person to turn to drugs or alchohol, if if its going to give there mind a rest from the pain there been through. It doesn’t mean that’s what has caused the schitzophenia. Its just something that they tried to help them through there life mentally and hitting the psych ward after going through the worst  possible kinds of abuse and it not even being on the minds of those that are there to help would be the biggest kick in the teeth imaginable. People need to think, imagine what its lie when your a child to be scared out of you freaking mind while you lay there at night with the light off or trying to learn something in school while your mind is being pounded with bad experiences and that in 2 more hours you have to step back into this war zone with more bad news from your results at how your doing at school as it being possible for you to be that doctor you are or the good night slept that some of us can have.

The way the human mind works is that it learns from what it is taught and also through life experiences. When your not taught about how abuse causes mental illness and everything you have learned from life experiences as being from a fun childhood with happy memories its a bit hard to be able to think along these lines of the effect that abuse could be having on someone’s mind. When you don’t know about something and you haven’t been taught the brain or what we are able to think about isn’t able to understand and ignores the issue all together and thinks about the next thing. In this case it ignores the actual issue at heart and its a big one for most.

I would describe the system by saying “it is a place where abused people end up that we cant relate to and don’t see this as an issue, A place where abused people go and we try to hide them and ignore the fact that what there been through mentally could possibly be a reason for there mental illness. A place where we can prescribe them medications that can ease the pain with side effects that are not the best. ”

But from what I have seen to ever claim to understand how you get mental illness or an understanding of what people go through prior and also having these disorders on to there being any therapy that has any relevance in dealing with anything people have actually gone through isn’t something you could ever describe the system that I have seen. If you want any therapy that works, you write a blog to get your words out on paper and the thoughts out of your head. That’s the only system I have seen from where im from in Sydney australia



How to fix your mental illness. Here is a quick example for Depression

I will use depression as a simple example but the principle will be the same. When you need to fix something, the best way is often to know exactly what the problem is and then have a plan that fixes the problem. Also how you got the problem and what is needed so you don’t get this problem again.

Currently in mental health or in this example none of these questions can be answered and as a result there is no way to fix any mental illness. I’m not even sure there is a plan besides taking medication which does seem to work to a degree but doesn’t fix anything. I will try and answer all the problems hear that might give you some answers to help you try and fix your mental illness.

The problem is you have depression. So what is depression? Depression is a disorder that makes you think in a negative way about things in general. What will fix the problem? Remove the disorder from your personality by repairing your emotions? How did you get it? You got depression because your emotions were at a low level of strength that was declining and a disorder appeared as a backstop point that your emotions could not drop below to protect you from getting to weak emotionally. How do you not get this problem again? Keep emotionally strong and be aware of what are the things that can effect you positively and negatively.

This is a lot of things to digest from where you may be at. And if you have depression you might not be able to think in a completely rational manner that allows you to get the answers to all the problems thrown up here that will put you in the best positison for you to be able to fix your mental illness.

I will try and pile it all together into a succession of answers that may be different to your beliefs or what you know. They are all questions your brain probably wants to know and when you understand what the problems are more sometimes you can think up your own way to fix yourself which will be more suited to you than just a general look into how you fix mental illness. Understand that a brain can only solve your problems in life when it has enough information that is correct to use so it can have the required level of thought that will find an answer that you are capable of achieving. It may take a while even but I think it is best to look at fixing mental illness more from a stand point of you heading in the right direction mentally or your emotions getting gradually stronger until you reach the point that a disorder no longer needs to be part of your make-up.

It may-be one of the hardest things to understand that depression is a disorder that is this kind of set way of thinking that attaches itself to your personality and not the real you. That it occurred for a reason and that was to protect you from declining to far along a path you were heading emotionally that would of made you feel much worse that being in depression and life being harder than what you presently know it to be.

You may not be in a position to know or remember when you got depression but it would of been something to do with something that was effecting your emotions in a negative way. Your emotions get effected from messages it receives from your brain in the way of thoughts and that the thoughts you were having were negative and most likely cyclical effect where your emotions kept getting struck over and over from the negative thoughts and lowering the level of you emotionally until you reached a point where depression set in.

This point where depression sets in is like a stronger warning to you to repair your self emotionally that the usual small warning that your emotions are constantly giving you from each thought that you have with your brain that are guiding you on the best path through your life. Try to understand how this feeling you get inside when you experience something effects you with a positive or negative feel. This is your emotions that are purely reactionary to what they go through in your life and how the feeling of thinking the same negative thing feels in you is the best way I can describe emotions.

But also understand how getting to a point where you are thinking over and over about something that is making you feel bad is also stopping you from experiences positive things in your life as your brain is pre-occupied in its current thought that is going no where and only lowering you emotionally.  That to stop thinking the same thought is as easy as going and experiencing something else to get your mind from this same thought as a solution and not just trying not to think about an issue you have.  To understand that your brain is always going to think about something, and you need to expose yourself to things that will have you thinking about new and interesting things instead of negative things that may be present in your life.

There is generally something or even more likely someone that is effecting you and you need to find a solution so that doesn’t effect you and have you thinking about something said, that your brain goes over and over effecting you so much. Try and understand how certain things being said or that you experience just make your brain think about them because its not something you are able to solve in your mind because they may not be true or they are just words or opinions that have an negative effect on you causing you to think about them and experiencing prolong feelings of negativity and missing out on positive thought. Try to lead your life in a way where you think about positive things and things where your mind is able to have a thought and come up with an answer or something you are able to act on instead of just thinking about it or worrying about it. For some also straight up be aware if someone around you is basically a toxic person and constantly effecting you emotionally.

This might mean not being involved involved in your life or if that’s not possible then try to process there words in a different way that doesn’t effect you emotionally. It can help to know that the reasons you may be thinking about things and not able to get them out of your mind is because they are just ones opinions or thoughts on something that your brain isn’t able to rationalise and giving you this thoughts that you cant get out of your mind. That it cant rationalise it because they are not true and you need to think about something else and distract yourself from this in some way.

I think it is also important if you have depression disorder to understand it is an attachment disorder from your true personality that is what needs to be removed. And that it will be giving you negative thoughts when your brain is idle and not experiencing something in life. That the way to stop the disorder from effecting you emotionally is to distract it from being able to take over your thought process by doing more things in life, hence giving it less and less time to be in control of your life and more time experiencing other thing that will effect you in a positive way. They will virtually be anything that you experience that is not negative in nature that allows for you to be in a state of thought that you feel is positive. If you are able to go through a period or live a life where you don’t give you depression the opportunity to effect you emotionally and able to repair your emotions mainly through living a life where your brain mainly process thought that is new or positive is the way out of depression.

If you are able to experience this and see how repairing your emotions while limiting the time for negative thought gives you a feeling inside that is better than overthinking negative thoughts then this is also going to protect you from going back into depression.

Another factor with depression is confidence. Try to do things that give you more confidence and a big part of confidence is confidence in the way you think. You need to feel that the your way of thinking is going to fix the problem and that you do know what your doing and be able to re-assure yourself if doubt creeps in by way of knowing the process that you are going through and that is how emotions work and you are targeting them as it is the problem at hand. Also know that there are going to be lulls in your progression and that it is only natural to experience ups and downs and that you will come out of each down and not to worry about that or to take action and have a paln to distract yourself in times that you might get down.

To know certain things you are able to do if you are thinking poorly that always stop this. It might be something as simple as surfing the web or keeping busy cleaning something or taking care of the issue on your mind.

Another attitude to take into a process of fixing mental illness is to be able to turn negative thoughts into positive thoughts. For example this might seem like an impossible task to do or you could look at it in the way that its just an easier life to live and staying in depression is the hard way to live life.

People often say to plan a lot of the day as well. This just gets you moving and not able to just think and not do things. Have a routine if that works for you and have a range of things that you can also do that take up a lot of your time and get you experiencing something new. Like going to the gym or cooking something new and fresh where you are able to go out and get what you need and spend some time cooking something and experiencing something you enjoy that wasn’t easy and made in a good state of mind with music on for example is something that comes to mind or watching shows that are funnier than maybe some current affair show that may have a negative spin on stories. It’s more up to the person. Possible the best idea is something that keeps you occupied and your brain active for long periods that you can immerse yourself in like a game or similar on a computer like the way you see people on there phones at every possible moment, see if there is something that just keeps you distracted when you have time to think if you are likely to fall into negative thought every time you have idle time. Or like me I write what is on my mind as I’ve now got way to much time on my hands and get bored and agitated when I got nothing to think about.

Lastly I think its important to know that we are all built emotionally the same and you have been through something where you have learned this negative way of thinking from possible someone that would of been best encouraging you instead of what happened and that you now have just got to repair the damage that was done and that its all mental. And that when something is all mental then its your brain that has to do the work and that is via your thoughts and your current way of thinking has been taught to you in a way that is not positive enough and you have to adjust it by yourself in order to head in the right direction and a negative way of thinking is not the way and positive thoughts are the more rational way of looking at things.

Hope that helps someone!




I’m not to sure if that title makes sense, so I will explain it a bit more. I’m a bit of a self proclaimed expert on personality disorders. I’ve talk to many and read thousands of posts in the closed support groups on face book. And if two or even ten people have the same disorder, they will all virtually think the same.  Male or female, young or old and doesn’t matter what country there from.  You as a person have a way of thinking and who you are. Then there is the disorder that has its own way of making you think and it cant be changed.

Its often posted in the groups “no body understand me” and everyone will comment that it is the case as well. Its not that people don’t understand you. They don’t understand the disorder that at times is making you think in a certain way that is nothing like the rest of us. Getting up set as no one understands, is like sticking up for the disorder and not even you. It not possible for someone to understand how this disorder is making you think if they have never had it.

About a year ago I first joined the support groups on facebook. If you have a mental illness check them out. They are massive and will find heaps of like minded people on there. My ex-partner was a bad type narcissist and I joined a group which is for victims and not for people with the disorder. I didn’t have any mental illness but there were plenty on there that did and after a little while I could see how some people were saying exactly the same thing.

I felt good still and was on there as support more than anything to help people get over there abuser. I didn’t know anything about mental illness before this but after a while I worked out a few things on how to stay mentally strong and could help people with anxiety and depression a bit. I didn’t know at the time that there was no cure for either and its a bit haisy in how you even get it, but on these support sights its very clear. It’s from the mental abuse 100% of the time.

I joined a depression and anxiety support group, which are even bigger than the narc groups and it was like everyone was the same. And then I would see a post that I could relate to and every time it was from a victim of narcissist abuse and they didn’t even know it. They had more the ten disorders from a life time of all kinds of abuse and they were all the same as well. They were needing help big time and they were good to help, but someone with depression or anxiety would go missing if you were going to help em.

It really stood out early to me as the posts in depression groups are so negative and not even close to being rational, and that its not really the person saying it, it was the disorder and could pretty much predict answers and how things would go with someone with depression or anxiety. I even joined some other groups and they all would think the same depending on the disorder.

As I worked out more and more how you get these disorders and how they are, I began to think of ways how to fix them. Well you can fix the person and the disorder will go, but you cant do anything with the actual disorder. It is like a set way of thinking and is  a complete waste of time to even try.

Its a long story but I ended up with anxiety from being in a mental hospital for 62 days as my ex partner had convinced the psychs that she was terrified of me. It was as bad as it gets and was struggling to even hold off the suicide thoughts which I had never had before. But I had helped fix a couple of anxiety disorders before and new exactly what to do. I assume it was easier for me than anyone else as I only had it for less than 2 months but I remember the difference in how I felt the minute I woke up and the anxiety was gone and instantly all the worry and thoughts I was having were gone as well.

Its clear to me how a disorder is like an addition to your thought process and not really you doing a lot of the thinking. I had keep telling my self that when I had anxiety and it was true 100%. Its not that big of a deal, but if there is ever going to be any recovery out of mental illness for people and it sure as hell doesn’t look like there will ever be that a big part of it will be understanding on the person to want to get rid of the disorder that isn’t really them


There is no cure for mental illness…. WHAT SHOULD YOU DO THEN… Depression

At the end of the day all the common mental illnesses and disorders within mental health have no cure. It’s hard to believe that its true. There are millions of people who work in psych and do they work there whole lives and fix no one.

I guess that’s a good starting point. If there is no one or no method that can fix mental illness then does that mean its impossible. There is also not much understanding of how you get mental illness. Is it possible that there are millions of doctors and researches that work there whole lives and not know how you get mentally ill and then cant fix it either. There is a chance that within mental health that something has been missed and its a big problem and will continue to be.

If you break down a process sometimes things become much clearer.  I will try and break down the human mind to see what sections are not understood using depression as an example.

Step 1. To have depression there must be some kind of decline in ones mental state over a period of time. Breaking down that statement even further. What can cause a decline in your emotional state.  During a decline in your mental state what is happening and at what point do you go from a decline in emotional state to having depression. To be able to fix something mentally is going to require complete understanding as there is nothing tangible to fix.

So you will be trying to fix something that doesn’t exist is the first hurdle that needs to be rationalised. That something is referred to as your emotions and they are what gives you a feeling inside of you if something is good or bad.  Your emotions receive there information from your thoughts and you think with your brain.  You cant fix your brain and your emotions only can react to the messages it receives from your thoughts. So it can only be your thoughts that can cause a decline in your mental state.

During a decline in your emotional state can then be worded as “what are your thoughts during a decline in your emotional state”.  Its probably not going to be positive thoughts causing you a decline in your mental state. So are negative thoughts causing you a decline in your own emotional state.

Now we get our thoughts from our brain. Our brain is what we use to think and to learn. It takes in all things that cross its path as ways to learn and to solve life’s problems basically.  So to have enough negative thoughts to cause a decline in your mental state the brain has received information that it processes as negative and is effecting you emotionally.

When the brain receives information and it is negative it has trouble trying to rationalise the information and solve it. A brain will always try and solve things for you but when the information it receives is not true and negative it simply tries over and over to solve it and you end up thinking the same thing over and over and your emotions get hit with every thought. So while you may of thought something negative, if your brain has tried to process this thought over and over, you may of effected your self emotionally 1000 times. If the information you received is negative or a put- down on your self then your brain is cycling that information that is negative about you over and over causing a decline in your emotional state.

Also if your brain is thinking the same thing over and over, it will be distracted from it thinking about things that could be making you emotionally stronger or positive signals your emotions could be getting

.Over time if your brain is continually processing this negative information all the time, you stop thinking about new things as your mind is cluttered up with negative thought and what the brain misses out on is its opportunity to fix its emotions with positive thought and you continue to decline emotionally. At a certain low level of emotional state causes to much of a strain on the mind and depression disorder kicks in and stops you from declining to far, but leaves you at this low level and set way of thinking.

Put-downs, mental abuse, negativity or what ever you want to call it are hard for the brain to process and if it crosses to much of it, it can cause your emotional state to drop and for your mind to be cluttered up leading to depression. To fix it then you need to focus on clearing the mind and having your brain send positive signals to your emotions until you reach an emotional state where our depression will disappear.

Big problem is that your depression wont let you do this. You will need to distract the disorder with continual activity and positive thought for an extended period while you get stronger. Fixing depression is possible. Many people have gone through depression and come out the other side. They just were not aware how they did it at the time. The would of been busy and there emotions received the posititvety they needed. They may of gotten out of there negative relationship or home and were able to recover, but it would of been something similar to this process as that’s how depression works and nothing will effect it, apart from getting emotionally stronger and uncluttering your mind




For a minute, just pretend your 2 yrs old, yep pretend your still pooping your pants…. Your not just learning what your parents are teaching you, you developing everything,your looking at stuff you have never seen before, your eating things you never tasted before, you smelling, hearing and there is stuff going on and around you and your little brain just takes a bit in from everything..

A simple trip to the local store will be an adventure for a 2 yr old…you might start off walking, holding mums hand, you see bus, car, car, truck, horn, tree, train go past, other kids, people talking, a dog, mums pointing out things so you learn words, few little road rules hear and there, careful of the doggy, look a flower, another bus goes past and your now saying baa, baa.

You worked out that if you see this big looking thing on the road and say baa, baa, mum thinks you great and gives you a cuddle. Walking along the footpath and your 2 yr old, you going to do all sorts of near accident things.. Your hearing careful, hurry up, don’t touch the dog, get your hand out of your mouth, . All simple little words of advice from your mum and you just taking little bits in as you can I guess….

Life more complex these days, and there is more to learn and less time to do it. People are more careful as well and don’t think as much for them selvers either these days. You go to kindy earlier, and by the time you hit 3yr old that 50 trips to the shops is not go to do the same job as the 300 or so you would of had 40 years ago. There was no kindy back then, there was only one car and that was at work with your dad

You had all day with your mum to cruise through and discover things at your own pace.. So what if a dog was cruising past, most people had one any way. You had a longer leash to discover and families where much tighter, More kids to play with and life had much more flow for a little child… There was “less don’t do this don’t do that”, there was more go play with billy and you learn things so much better from experience..
Im sure my dad knew exactly what he was doing when I stacked my bike a few times and lost the skin off my knees.. He was Australian road champion. It was the highlight of my 4 yr olds getting mended and back out with the other kids, and it was on the road at the end of the street. I knew those road rules by the age of 5 and was normal to be in the outdoors playing all the time. No computers or anything back then..

We lived near the beach and I was swimming day one of kindy 4 1/2, no swimming lessons, by 7 I was riding to the beach with the older kids, and they knew how to save you if you got into trouble… You played sport on the weekends, you played sport at home, you played till you dropped everyday and then you ate your dinner, if you liked it or not, it was all just too easy.. Shut you fingers in the draw, who cares, you only do it once and you work it out..

The point im trying to make is that life has changed and and these disorders like ADHD are multiplying.. but there is less time to learn things and more that needs to be learnt. Kids brains have not changed… Evolution takes millions of years.

There is no clue out there to what even causes ADHD and the like..A child’s brain learns a lot of things step by step, where if there are steps missed, then the brain simply wont be able to think about something it has never learned before, Young children are still developing emotionally, they can loose confidence in there ability to even think and ability to solve life’s little puzzles. They can loose attension span and fall behind, loose friends if they cant play properly, You can fall behind and no one is there to pick you up….A young child can be annoying and easily frustrated when he can’t do something right, Then we become frustrated and shorter with how we teach em, instead of the other way around..
This is a disorder, and people have got to live there lives like this. They don’t know the cause of it and there is no cure and its multiplying rapidily. It can be fixed though. My boy had it before the age of four, so I worked less and went back to basics. We grabbed the dog and went bush and explored. Out in the bush along the river there is time to think and talk. There was no phone to interupt and out there there is no wrong or stop, don’t do this… its all just fun and the ADHD was gone in weeks.

Lives are changing so fast, ADHD is increasing fast to, but little boys are still the same as they were 50 or 5000 years ago like our knowledge of this disorder


The way out of depression

If you have depression and are thinking if there is a way to beat it, then this may help. Think of your depression as a disorder and a set way of thinking and a separate entity to that of yourself. So there is you and there is depression disorder and the goal is to remove the depression disorder from you.

First try to understand that just before you got depression you would of been spiralling down emotionally or you were lacking confidence and had a low self-esteem. So you have to repair your self-esteem and confidence to a point where your depression disorder will go away. But this is going to be hard as your depression disorder is going to be holding you back and making you negative which is going to effect your confidence and self esteem and zap your emotional strength.

So how are you going to stop your depression effecting you if you are trying to get emotionally stronger. Think about the times when depression is not on your mind and it should revolve around the times when you were doing something and forgot about your depression for a given amount of time. Refer to this time as you were distracted from being depressed and what was it that distracted you to give you some moments of peace.

Now you need to work out a plan for example a period of a month where you have in place a set schedule of activity that will distract you from being in depressed thought. Now if you plan enough things where you are busy all day, then your mind or your brain will be able to experience lots of new thoughts that will give your emotions that good feeling they need to get stronger. Think about also how you can unclutter your mind from all the un-resolved issues that your brain will have or any cyclical thoughts.

It would also have to be a period where you are thinking a lot of positive thought and it may help to have positive thoughts even written down and for-sure be surrounded by good people and stay away from anyone at all toxic.

So if you were going to attempt to remove depression disorder from you and just be you again would require possibly a lot of preparation and new activities that you wont want to do or in the past you avoided these things. But assuming you work then a planned day might be something like getting straight out of bed and going to a gym class, then prepare a healthy breakfast and get ready for work. Clean up and spend extra time into yourself to look good. Have the radio or some feel good songs playing in the back ground. Go to work feeling positive and that none of the usual drama’s are going to get you down. Work a bit harder than usual and try to stay up beat and avoid any time to go back to letting your depression think for you. If you have a boring job, try to keep occupied by doing something as well as your work.

Do something for lunch and get supplies that you need for dinner and take plenty of time doing something good for dinner. You have lots of time to kill still where you are still needing to distract the disorder. Know what you are going to watch and have some back up feel good shows or other things you can do right up till you fall asleep, where it is going to be important that you fall asleep and not end up laying there trying to go to sleep and thinking. The first few days will be hard to keep occupied, so be really aware of a big effort the first few days and after that it will come easier and you will be feeling already a bit better which will motivate you even more.. Also think if its hard to stay motivated to keep doing things then look at the flip side of how much you were suffering when doing nothing and being in depressed thought as the alternative.

Try to engage with good people or friends a bit more and keep to being positive when thinking about your self. If you get emotionally stronger and distract your disorder then it will go. There is no other result that would be possible.



You will never get mental illness or personality disorders in a hereditary fashion. When you delve into the causes of mental illness, its actually impossible.  For something to be passed from generation to generation requires there to be something tangible to be passed on, but all things mental are not tangible. Mental illness are a result of what’s happened in ones life.

How can something be passed through generations like mental illness when there is nothing to be passed on.  Your mentality doesn’t possess any DNA. And if it did, then they have never been able to show it. There are probably a million people trying to find mental illness or doing some type of research where there seeking out answers to mental illness by looking for something tangible or psychical and nothing has ever been found.

But if you go onto faced book there are massive support groups of each mental illness or disorder and every one on there is a victim of abuse in one way or another. They all don’t know how they got mentally ill, but there all been abused. All the skitzophernia people have been subject to servere psychical violence and abuse and generally as children. All the Borderline personality disorder people have been subject to sexual abuse, most of the BI-POLAR people had been subject to sexual abuse at a younger age, all the children of narcissistic parent are narcissist for the first child or golden child and many mental disorders for the second child. Depression and anxiety all seems to come from some type of abuse from with in the family and ADHD even all comes to young children in less than ideal parenting arrangement or from issue that the parent have.

I’ve talked to thousands of people in the support group and every person with a certain disorder all had a similar style of abuse they have been through and vice versa that the type of abuse resulted in the same disorder and there is no body saying they had a good childhood and now have a mental illness… Even people with 5 or ten mental illness or disorders all have been abused in all the different ways that result in those illnesses. I have been in mental institutions and everyone in there were all abused as children as well..

So what going on where everyone is being abused that has mental illness, there are no known link or anything ever found that would ever lead anyone to believe that mental illness is hereditary, the word mental is saying that its all in the mind, certain abuse definitely causes certain mental illness and logic tells you that someone who has had a good up bringing and not a bad memory as a child will not be able to replicate an illness as someone who has been through ten different forms of hell as a child. Seriously they would be like a happy mentally ill person not able to recall any negative in there life. That doesn’t even make sense as a possibility of happening.

Mental illness and disorders are caused by emotions being strained to a certain point that causes mental illness and that is often from what is being suffer from with in the family unit to children in the form of psychical, sexually, mental abuse or a combination of the three and when research targets this area then we get one step closer to finding the cause of mental illness and taking our first step ever in the right direction to working out ways to fix some mental illness and maybe even stopping a little bit of child abuse.



Im a self proclaimed expert on disorders. Well im not that big of an expert in reality, but i think im the first person ever to understand how they work and will explain in detail,,,,” basic depression disorder” and what you need to do to fix this PAIN IN THE ARSE disorder and move on with your life. As i understand this disorder, this concept of HOW TO FIX might not be possible, and will require the inner person to shine through and not the DISORDER to try and annalyse this information…
The things that you need to do to get rid of depression are.
1. Understand “HOW THE BRAIN WORKS” and sends signals to your emotions. How a brain processes mental abuse.
2. Understand HUMAN INSTINCTS are what they are trying to do.
3. Understand that you need to be feeling a certain low level of emotional strength before DEPRESSION DISORDER takes effect.
4. Understand that depression disorder is a disorder that is an ATTACHMENT to your way of thinking and not anything to do with your real self.
5. That you cant CHANGE the disorder, you can only DISTRACT it while you repair your emotions
6. what are the things that can repair your emotions
7. what are the things that lower your emotions
8. Understand how you went into depression, think reverse the processes and the reasons for going into depression are now gone or when removed, you could attempt this process
This is my first draft and there are a thousand ways of doing all this, but here is the concept and replace whatever sections with something similar relevenat to your life. This is just for depression disorder, but similar processes for any disorder, but what happened or the abuse suffered will vary greatly for each disorder. Also understand there is a reason why a blue print for getting out of depression disorder has never been written about, and thats because this stuff is extremely hard to understand and virtually all your learned knowledge about depression has to be thrown out. I mean pre-concived ideas of depression that are not factual and thats the whole lot in my book. Also removing beliefs from your brain is nearly impossible unless you understand something and can work out for your self how it works and be having those it moments where you understand things and not believe in things… really hard to get past this sort of thing, buit all this is completly new and i havent seen any material that i can say is relevent to this process. Remember there is a reason why they dont know how you get depression and how to get rid of it. AND THAT IS BECAUSE THEY DONT UNDERSTAND HOW IT WORKS AT ALL…..GOOD LUCK IN EVEN UNDERSTANDING THIS. IT WAS A MIRACLE times TEN TO WORK OUT THIS, BUT NOT ONE THING WILL BE DISPROVEN HERE OUT OF HUNDREDS OF NEW FINDINGS… maybe reading this half a dozen times will be of greatest benifit…….

1. HOW THE BRAIN WORKS…… This is super duper important everything you read here should somehow reflect on how the brain processes information. While a brain is something you can examine with the right technology and disorders or anything mental can’t be seen, touched or examined, try to zone in on how it is your brain is the focus and all there is to focus on.
Every time you have a thought, you get a feeling from your emotions…. it will be a good or bad feeling of some degree. Good feelings are what is going to make you stronger. Bad feelings are what makes you weaker. The SAME thought gets a feeling from your emotions everytime you have that thought. You think the same thing a hundred times and you are battering your emotions with this FEELING. Thats great if its something positive, but you not depressed if you feeling great all the time. Its going to be something negative and generally thoughts of yourself or something that will be making you loose confidence slowly every time you think about this one thing. Or list of negative things.
Also start to get to understand that you brain, your mind, you thoughts or what ever the heck you thinking about in your head can only squeeze so much in there before it it all CLUTTERED UP or tangled. How a cluttered mind will avoid new experiences as it will not want to add new thoughts to an already confused way of thinking……… And there is not room for new thoughts. Start to understand that to UNTANGLE and SOLVE old thoughts in the head is a process you need to undertake and more to the point learn how to unclutter your mind to make room for you brain to start thinking new thoughts that you are going to have to be positive in nature, so your emotions can start feeling good and start repairing.
Understand and this is a key element of recovery, that there are TWO types of thoughts the brain can have.
1. where you have a question that is put to your brain that requires thought and then an ANSWER is attained and that answer will stop your brain trying to SOLVE this thought in your MIND.. examples are, a calculation, decieding on your dinner and all things you think about and then do. Your brain needs more and more of these types of thoughts to give you an increased clarity of thought and an unscrabbling of your mind….. Also do this so you believe it…. Try to cyclical thought 100 plus 100, you get the answer and you CAN’T just keep thinking about this question your brain has SOLVED. And i mean actually try it and then try it with some other things you are strong in knowledge of. Try to worry about something you have already taken care of making dinner, going to the gym, paying back money owed or millions of things. You worry when you NOT doing things.. But also feel this general concept of………….. there is always going to be worrying in everyones life and most of your worries are taken care of, going to be taken care of in time and that worrying isnt doing anything and will go away when you do the job that is of concern… OR it will get done when you do it and you have CONFIDENCE that you will do it……… if you keep worrying then ITS YOUR BRAIN TELLING YOU “its time to prioritise this and get it out of your mind”
2. … WHERE YOUR BRAIN IS TRYING TO SOLVE SOMETHING THAT THERE IS NO DEFINITIVE ANSWER TO AND IS THIS CLUTTERING UP YOUR MIND.. There are many examples of this but the ones that really hurt you are put downs and people confusing you. If someone puts you down, you BRAIN can only think about it and not find an ANSWER and move onto its next problem to solve . Its fine if you strong emotionally as you will just see it as a put down and not truth and thats the brains answer and you move on.
Being aware of what you are thinking about and what that does to your emotions is the key and then trying to CUT this thought FROM YOUR MIND or those people from who you listen to. Reconize and know what things are ABUSE and know that there not true.. Even to the stage of reconising them straight away and thinking why this person is trying to hurt you, what are they getting out of it and that there is something wrong with them. That its there opinion and why are they giving you opinions that are not helpful and making you think and clutter up your mind…… And then getting your mind to think to its self that its just abuse and not true and move away from this kind of person as the answer. Also not to rationalise with this type of person as you are trying to rationalise something that is not true and hence will probably go no where…
An extreme example of i can think about is where TWO parents where calling there teen daughter a FAT CUNT. After everyone telling her to not take notice, to do more exersize and trying to discuss her weight, i gave her an answer that helped her. I said “that just abuse, there is something wrong with your parents to say that to you and there just trying to put you down for some reason as it takes there mind off there issues” She replied “im not even fat” and i replied” emily, it would be worse if you actually were. They keep saying this as its what hurts you, not that its TRUE. It will go round and round in your mind that type of abuse and is why you have depression and anxiety……. What there really saying is that there got issues and hurting you is there way of dealing with them and if there to stupid to be giving you an opinion that actually matters.”
Also just simple things in life like saying for ages you have something that needs doing and not doing it. Or stupid questions like “why are we here”, “i wonder if this person likes me”,”is god true.” Try not to have too many thoughts that there is no answer to and just stuff you thinking about all the time.

Remember thinking the same thing over and over is hitting you emotions with each thought in a negative way will make you feel BAD. And also that the same thought is using nearly no brain power as its just going round and round and that your brain is virtually switched off and learning nothing but what is going round in your mind which there isnt an answer to.. Also that it is missing out on all the new thoughts it could be having and chances of feeling good through new experiences, fun things and positive thoughts.

2. HUMAN INSTINCTS is just how people are… The reason we get this good feeling inside when we do certain things is that its our emotions telling us that this is good and do things like this… Its our human instincts trying to draw us into what is good for us and the bad feeling when we do or think things is our human instincts trying to tell us not to go there, or this is not true…… sending us a warning to not go there………
We are also drawn to people close to us like parents, partners and friends. That its completly normal that we listen and learn from them. Its just how we are… BUT human instincts were developed many millions of years ago, before anyone close to us was doing us any harm and have not developed to be able to cope with people who we are drawn to, doing us harm. So its up to the person to be aware of there human instincts are taking notice of abuse which is normal, but you got to now counter that by being aware that some opinions or people are doing me harm and making me feel bad…. Remember that a millions of years ago when we developed into what we would still be now was when things were very simple… We probably didnt even talk more than a few grunts and signals to this rapidly changing enviroment moving a way faster than ever before while our knowledge of depression is vertually going backwards and depression and mental illness are increasing at an increasing rate.

3. What i mean by “A certian low level of emotional strength before depression disorder takes effect” is that things would of been on the downward spiral with your confidence, your cyclical negative thought, self esteem and life in general and that once you reach a certain low level and that you are continuing to drop and getting continued negative messages from your brain is when you got depression…… You dont get it if everything is rosey in your life and you havent a worry in the world. Its very often straight up abuse and things like being taught things negative and you mind just being in overdrive of confused thoughts that are making you feel bad.

So i feel it is important if you are going to fix something to at least know why you got it. You may believe you always had it, you mum may have told you THIS AND THAT, but depression disorder can only be attained when a perons mental state reaches a certain low level of confidence and bad feeling that depression kicks in so you dont continue to spiral to a never ending low level…. Its possible and i can only see depression as this certain low level that kicks in as a set way type of thought process, to save you going even lower than this and like a warning to the person to fix themselves emotionally OR further mental illness WILL ARISE or breaking emotionally.

4. Everyone with depression thinks the same. Or have you ever noticed how you feel like NOBODY UNDERSTANDS YOU and everyone with depression understands you… There is a good reason for that and that is due to you having a disorder that thinks not like a normal person and you are trying to tell a normal person at times the thoughts of a disorder that they have no knowledge about and you feel like there not getting you or not there for you.. Like you dont understand that a disorder is in some capacity taking over your thought process, they dont understand its way of thinking as they dont think like a disorder and cant relate to you thoughts… If they were to listen to the distress you are in, is going to only hurt them emotionally and nothing they are going to be able to say will be relevant to helping you… They dont understand or do you that its the disorder making you think these thoughts and not your true self.

5. Trying to CHANGE the depression disorder is completly useless. You can hit it with medications to lessen it and not something i know about. But i have not seen how the disorder changes to much from the time you get it to somewhere down the track. People learn to live with it better and get used to it and have ways to DISTRACT themselves from having the depression be on there mind, but i feel as though its a set disorder that cant be altered so much and its the changing of the person beneath the disordered that is being altered.

Distracting the disorder is a really high level concept. And by that i mean, somehow you need to organize your life so that there is no time for your DEPRERSSION DISORDER to take over the thought process. You need to be busy all day and fall asleep without thinking for a while so you dont allow the disorder to be able to take over the thought process. I did it by playing online poker and listening to podcast all day and working for about a month……. You just have to do anything to keep your mind from having time to think the disordered thought pattern and hurting you emotionally…. Like a plan day of activities and keeping your mind from thinking negative, lots of new things. A more reasonable approach than poker may be getting up and doing some exercise, surfing the net, cooking a new breakfast, going to work, having some cool music that makes you happy, cooking off a reciepe for dinner, kids doing some cleaning, watching a funny movie and crashing out under no pressure to sleep, like with a podcast on or something…. Just having something there to do at all times to not allow you to get down for an extended period of time… Always trying to achieve and feel good about you and everything around you. You will feel the change when you go from having the disorder to when its gone. It was 2 in the morning when i woke up and text my friend and told him i was out of anxiety disorder and could feel the difference right away. And then from then on i continued to get stronger emotionally as i knew how to do that.
Do what ever makes you feel distracted.. if drugs help than use them, if medication helps then use that and reduce it. if playing play station all day works or a long bush walk then do that, but have your life set up with back up plans on how to distract the disorder while you get emotionally stronger.

6. Here is a list of THINGS THAT MAKE ME STRONGER EMOTIONALLY…. It will be different for everyone
-hard work, working hard, exercise
-extended play with the kids with focus on them and them being happy out exploring in nature playing games and learning stuff
-clearing your head from any tangled thought
-helping others
-walking along thinking positive thoughts
-learning new things and discovering nature type stuff, being good to animals
-chatting in a friendly enviroment
-Thinking about good times and anyone who has done you good or is a good person
-cooking cleaning,gardening, blogging, writting
-putting yourself in spots you feel confident about
-music, singing, dancing, laughing

–worry, cyclical thought, boredom, uncertainty,
-hope(this is a personal one i think)
-returning fire with abuse


A different view of depression

This is just a different outlook, its not important either way really…. But are mental illness/disorders our enemy??????????????????????…. I will uses depression as the example for simplicity.

Most people will agree that they have depression from some type of abuse they have gone through… depression usually sets in when emotions have been strained and you head all cluttered and over thinking, cyclical thinking and your on a down ward spiral. You emotions are getting repeated negative thoughts from the brain and you are not feeling good.. Emotions are trying to tell us something, but no one is getting the picture here possibly.. When you get a good feeling inside, that means you should do more of this, when you get a bad feeling inside you want to stay away from this kind of activity.


If you cyclical thinking things that are negative, then you basically pounding your emotions over and over and at a certain point you pick up depression and it seems like you stay at this level.. It is quite a low level, but you were heading to this level and even far below it the way things were going… Depression disorder stepped in and saved you from going to far down emotionally, and held you at this other low point, and it is out lack of understanding of disorders and emotions that is the problem and not the disorder itself…

Emotions are there to steer us in the right direction and when they get to strained, they send out this strong warning to repair your self.. Only problem is we don’t know how to fix our selfs. Depression is a warning that you were getting to low emotionally, losing confidence and negative in your thought process, and not experiencing life the way you need to.





Yesterday, I was in a meeting, with a psychiatrist, a psych nurse and a legal person. There was a delay and legal person told how a nurse in England had killed 18 babies on a new born ward. The psychiatrist said “psychopath”. I looked up and said, definetly not a psychopath, She will be a malignant narcissist(MN). I Know what they are as I spent 6 years with one, and the last 12 months battling and hope one day my boys are safe.

A MN is an extreme form of psychopath Narcissist. Its like a disorder that completely takes over them and they become this evil pathological lier, that need the suffering of others to fell good about themselves. The suffering is like a drug to them and they become unwell when they don’t have a regular supply of suffering. There main goal is to have a partner that they can constantly mentally abuse and make there life hell until there children are old enough to suffer from the mental abuse and they virtually try to destroy there own childs minds to feed there own frail ego… There no real trouble even and you cant put up with them for long and you just move on like a girlfriend that doesn’t work out.

Except when there are kids involved and then you have to fight until the very end, while they try to destroy you and your reputation so they can abuse there own.  And its a non stop type abuse, with no happiness, just suffering from an early age.

Lucy will be the oldest sibling in the family, and through abuse from the same disorder in one of her parent she turned MN. I checked her images on google, she is one for sure, also I looked through some of her interviews she has done over the years and it confirmed it even more.  When the disorder takes over them, they stop all emotion and brain development and just stay the same. There more read expressions on faces and look for reactions from then on and don’t have an understanding of whats really going on. They just do what’s required so to best avoid detection and people seeing them as different

Whilst she is only a suspect, if the psych can understand MN, they should see straight through the lies and manipulation there about to be consumed by… First she will start off moving the blame to others, she will be avoidant of any questions that implicate her, she will be super confident at the start but once pressed on things she will not be able to answer, she will break down is to an academy award winning tear show(crocodile tears ). you will be sure she is innocent,

B            ut if you want to confirm that she is an MN, just try and get an answer that can have feeling or emotions in them, where the answer is not of very basic thought process that she would of be able to remember over the years. Like what do you think the parents would be feeling… it will be just sad or devastated,  and cant expand on these type of  words…She will try and run the conversation to avoid these areas and change the topic or deflect onto someone else.  Try and find an interest even she has, check the parent, one of them will have the exact disorder. And it will be the one that seems the normal one.. Keep pressing and within minutes they will go into a narcissistic rage and there whole life will start to unravel right in front of you as one lie after another

It would be common for the other parent to have various mental disorders, like depression etc, from going through the mental abuse, but they both wont be MN. Also if there is a younger sibling, they will have a heap of mental illness, none of them bad, and will be the nicest person you could ever meet.

They abuse the kids differently, the first is the golden child and will be dependant on the parent and personality will break, brainwashed with rubbish, bored with no activities and kinda reverse taught,  while the second is the scapegoat or the black sheep, and there just treated like scum there whole life and head so messed up that they provide a long lasting suffering for the parent to enjoy and even abused by the older sibling. They get it from birth and never know any different.. Its never violence as there totally a non-violent disorder.








People dont know what ADHD is ? DO YOU? Its a disorder that means your life is over. Right on your 4th birthday, your not even got to school age and sure there is survival for you.. But that is the bad part, the good part is something you not aware of.. The good part is whats reported.. Because if people knew the bad part, there is a big problem.

Whats this big problem”??? THE BIG PROBLEM IS YOU… YOU are the problem… You are the problem until you know the problem.. We are all born equal and this PROBLEM  is you.. ..

There are parents of these little kids supporting each other, trying to keep spirits up that need your support.

Happy family

In todays edition of psych wars its saturday 4 may 2019 and as usual perfect, i felt good, the boys were on point and the ex was firing on all cylinders. Happy family is what came to mind when titling the blog, and that feels great, all i ever wanted in life… but lets dive into it, cause its a book i need for today, but it’s 10.22pm and i want it done in 4 hours, sunrise at the latest..

I got down the boys at 9am, Naht 6.5yrs & Jaek 3yrs 9m were sitting in there room building with blocks something that was looking cool, and they were really into it, but had just got to the “”i got no more blocks”” and looking at how to continue. I sat down to say hello, and Jaek said, “”what do you do that””, I had cut off the scruffy beard It beard cause the young bird had popped in at  in the morning.. Sugar daddy .com.. They told me before that i dont look like a daddy when i cut it, “”what do you think, 10 yrs younger don’t i”, Naht,”””you don’t look like my daddy””, i said””sorry mate, i couldn’t find the trimmer and i cut it off, gimme 2 weeks and it be back, i know you like the beard and i only want to be a daddy……     48 hr prob since last sleep, and the ex offered up coffee and breakfast and thats exactly what i needed.. I listened to her while eating, and got the run down of what what, that i had no idea of, and we were off to soccer at 10am.

On the way Naht, said it my birthday in two days, and then asked his mum in the most respectful planned way if he could miss after school german class , just one time so daddy can come over on monday… She said  no and began to explain and Naht jumped back in strong, and i went over both and said, you asked that as good as you could boy, and i pick you up from school, good stuff boy, Ex tried to go for next day, Naht wanted birthday day and 1/4 winge begging argued tone. I amped it up “”Naht, i pick you up ok, i will talk to mummy and it will happen so leave it… She went to plead her point, but i told her to wait as well..

Was the first time i seen him play soccer, as sunday is my day, and he went off with friends and i took a stroll with Jaek.. He is a tiny near 4yr old, bit of chatting, and exploring and chassings, then some bit rougher stuff and he would run into me like a tackle.. Kids love this and its top shelf in the effects it has. Back when me and Naht were doing our thing i had to limit it to once a day, he would go that hard and long with it. But its hits there confidence, they know where there at, it’s physical bonding to the extreme, trust and every emotion get pumped up.. They know that they can go hard at you and you not walk away.. So a good 15 mins he took these big run off and slammed into me and for sure were harder that last week…Your child will for 100% be no more, even less aggresive when you get a bit rough with him like this…. Would of looked funny for everyone 50 away this kids lauching into his dad. We cruised back and already jaek is starting to beam on his own with me. He dont get his share as Naht, is non stop talker. And Jaek not confident yet, but the smallest rize in confidents and he escalates it with his own talk and near cant control himself he so happy when he allowed to use his mind with out interuption,… There were like ten dogs with people on side of the field and we did  big round of doggy funny stuff and that’s big time effect in mind for a child..

We go over to the game where Naht is and there playing a real easy team, he pops in 3 already and all jonny on the spot, and back middle where he just blabbing away in esxtacy while playing so i through in a couple of funnies basically saying play..  Jaek was hanging with me, and im not sure, it seemed so that he went over to his mun and hung on her leg. He just gave this slight look to say, look, i doing something you don’t like. I wanted a drink so i give him a nudge to show it not on and we both went to the shop… He was near panic attack a few weeks back, and the ex keeps fucking things up when i get em going good… It very simple how this seperation anxiety works, but you have a kids a bit this way, your stepping into a like time of mental illness if you don’t sort it.. Its a comfort thing, but more it turns to a dependence thing, which is what the growing up is supposed to move away from this dependance and will have the effect of hare core emotional abuse,, I think its abuse if you dont help a child get over the parent as a dependant.. Its another blog in its self…  but we got back and he did it again, so she trys to encourage if any thing and there definelty a bit of “”what are you going to do now……””. So i give him a few spray the drink we bought, and then again to get him off leg, we end up playing a bit and head into the bush were there that has a awesome bike track weaving in out of the trees..

The biggest problem is at around jaek age a child begins to develope, a longer thought process. Its when you can  get adhd.. But that’s not the concern and i know what to do if somehow he got it, which is not really possible when your aware how sndh, an mind state works.. But a child hang on the leg of mum, will do this as a way of dealing with there problems. And they don’t develop ways to deal with adversity and also a dependant thought process and it just snow balls into every sort of anxiety, depression and into panic attacks and a fucked life…Its a problem and just the way it is with my ex. She just sees some kid as dependant  on her and down were all the rest could be.. It s not the time to make  scratch and blame, what ever you do is basically  teaching them that .. and then onto a thought process that is  influenced with some that will just have the poor thought and cyclical style..

So i take him cruising on this bike track for a bit of therapy.. The few little secrets of good therapy, outdoors exploring and  and get the talking flowing. And i mean 3 yr old talk.. And i mean therapy that hits the spot and makes a dint. He is in not a bad state, but its not quite there where i feel total safety from danger zone of mental illness. Jaek i would say is average confidence, a fair bit under with his dependancy issue, poor in dealing with stuff, the above ave in play and self-esteem, He got total trust in me .. So for what he needs, i can use the trust to get him thinking about issue that effect him, dependancy and the flow on.. He gets that as a norm anyway, but i want him to be aware of it in mindstate, important to me and when the trust is there, the result will be there even for a 3 yr old with out stepping into issue of putting responsibility back on the child for any of it being his fault.. You just talk and there is no plan, you just seem to always get lots of chances to effect mindset.

We walked and talked, he mentioned a couple of times being lost, we jumped of the track to let others lost, trees fallen were dinosaurs, playing with cars and remote control cars on the track and bike riding, you talk about when you were a kid and just stuff to give him thought and continued conversation, and when you can you drop into areas where he knows like cartoon and you act all suprised that he knows more that you, and my dad used to call me the last of the great do do birds, was a big bird, and do do sounds a bit dumb, but you dont call you kid dumb, But thinking like that is do do and there no more birds like that but there is if you just said that, and goes futher, but jaek was into it, a bloke seen a snake a good way down and is just cruising like we do as a rule, and we were nearly back to the feild and there was one like bike jump, and being a kid, he probably getting tired legs or could of been anything, Maybe the steep jump was a bit close to being to hard.

So he yelled out he needed help, getting down th jump, I said come on have a go you can do that, then he started the cry and screaming he cant, and i thought for a breif second, maybe, but no , walked about 50 steps and i knew we couldn’t see each other, and i wouldn’t go far before i turn back, but he got down, no problem and was running after me crying, so his emotions are up… and you got a chance to help him emotionally with things that arent strong due to his life presented to hi by parents.. What you need to say will always be in relation to how emotions work and to the mindstate  of the person, and that of a nearly 4 yr old, still even with short thought process so its got to be clear, matter to him. Then you hit that spot, you re hit it over and over where every word is straight forward. Its simple and only way, and you show it like you mean it.. You ask simple questions that he agree with… I see him running i turn around and show im upset with him thinking i walked off on him, peoples minds throw up insecurities all the time… I get into him,, “”YOU THINK I WOULD WALK OFF ON YOU””, “”DO YOU””, then i grab him and look at him “”I will never walk off on you””, “”ÿou are my boy””, “”no matter what, a car, a bus, a big train i will be right there every time.. “”when did anything happen to you””, tell me one time i wasn’t right there in the right spot ..     Jaek says””i couldn’t get down”””, and that’s absolutely perfect, cause now its double down time,, What are you talking about”””Thats an easy one for you””, “”That smaller than hexly bike jump, climbing over the sofa”” Your 3 nearly 4, your not 2 or 1 or a little cry baby”” You My BOY””‘MY BEST BOY”” and he alright now so we walking again, but now just needs a bit of time to feel what has been said””you and naht are my boy”” and “”we all together”’and mummy”” Ï know your the smallest””, but i ever say your small””, your a big boy,,, Now he starts talking, cause he confidents comes up with feeling secure and the pump up.. When naht give you them little ones you dont like, who is there, every time, i see em””, and do i get angry with naht””do i”” he say yes”” and there only little things that dont even hurt”” änd you dont cry much even”” he says i not cry at kindy anymore””””ÿou know why”” he says””cause im a big boy”” you will probably be bigger than me one day mate”” you dont cry at kindy cause mum not there””””is she””at kindy you a bigboy”””i think you a bigboy””but mummy see you crying all the time and she forgets you a big boy”” “”she says you little”””and “”always on your side””and i get upset, because mummy not letting you be a bigboy”” anything jaek, i dont care if it just a little one from naht, dont care if mummy get upset when daddy tell her to leave you””but every time and for no one else do i get mad, only you, you know, i know you dont like those little one, i know cause im your daddy .. I know when you cry is real sometime i even give you a hug when you cry for nothing, it not because you cry for nothing, it because i show you i never walk away.. You dont cry mich with me, or at kindy, but you crying to much with mum, you hold her leg, you hold her hand, you look like you sad, you finger in your mouth when she around, and it make daddy very upset… Everyone loves you mate and you see me walking away,, i not a dodo im your daddy, naht just trying to make you tough to, but that my job, i dont need any help, you try and you try and you try to and that is good but i dont give up when you cry for nothing when mum there, i get more and more close to you to stop this… thats not walking away.. it not your fault, but you getting strong now, you were running into me and i could feel it today, you not crying at kindy, this time you have to cry much less with mum… i dont like it, nathan doesnt like it mum doesnt like it, and it makes you sad to.. In our family we dont like that, we like it when you tuff and good boy. You a good boy jaek.. sometimes you need your mummy and she there for those times, not for everyday.. Soon there no nappy, soon we go to kindy with no hazy, soon you go to bed by yourself and when u were 1 you were the toughest boy i ever seen, you never needed help, so i know you can do it, you know you can do it, the dodo bird and bum bums the hot lips and transformes know you can do it  and lots of things to do but you got to be ready… its not mummy time, it jaek time… we dont hop, we dont bop we dont go popcoptopwe dont stop till we get to the top .. It was way over in reality, but you hit an emotion and then re hit and then this one m anf that one and it therapy ten fold when you know what your targeting.

I grabbed naht and the it just the boys, it not an issue any more him getting nervous and crying to much.. He beams, it even to high, she had wanted us to go to some bees thing and its an idea, but is irrelavent, Poor mum, plans and plans and then i come along with the no plan is the plan, we are not out of the car park and its not even a hot day and naht says can we have a slushy.. When you know what your doing sitting on the sofa becomes an adventure cause kids just rise every time when you don’t hold em back.. The more you know, the more you put the easy more enjoyable and better they are. Its not even close either. Every time the parent is in the wrong and then you go from there is the rule…

Lets just say the reply started, did you just call me dodo, mummys not hear and daddy a dodoe and its slushy time,, and the converation and laughs and adjustment, thinking and revert back to this, and we just in our world, we grabbed kfc for first time, naht talk in the drive though Jaek pays the money and we go looking for a shaddy spot, Slammed on the gas through this up hill down hill section and the drive we even have fun when its needed, We end up in just a nothing playground with no thought. The boys never ask wear we going, cause i dont know, and its there to deciede, Our favorite shop is salvos, our favourite cafe sells risoelle sandwiches for me and its quiet when no body goes there, but i put out a rug , ten minutes there off and i fell asleep…

They wake me up i think and i went to the playground bit and they put some effort into a shop they made where the thought stopped before what there selling, so that becomes there focus and they stretch out these little thoughts more and more and you see where there at, Jaek was stuck on 14 with counting and he not really a 3 and 9 month kids , he a bit small and the year i never seen him set him back but no big deal now and it all goes down to naht for getting him through it. Buts its only a day and a arvo per week , and there busy, but there pushy hard for extra and was doable short term to develop a week in a day, and i wanted to focus on research, but there the best research any how.

So jackie got the 14 and im the maths guy and love the maths talking, but i havent been showing off the maths tricks and he is top and went good in a maths competision that was voluntary, and i was picking up that he was getting interested in anything numbers. i dont feel it a bad thing, but he got to expand his thought i feel can only be good, but in will be hard as me or his mum, are noable to lead the. my maths processers.

From there we made it to across the road in 3 hours. These are always the best days when you just get into a conversation there no thought of therapy, its just nature now..  We just like move in a general formation to where ever i but mainly then just lead the way, there never a thought of we are not actually doing anything. We watched a bloke with the hood up then when the car went we talked About the big dog in this truck. Now a 3.5 is at a big disadvantage in knowledge and he cant do the long thought, but he goes alright, we sat on these coppers logs for an hour and you just talk and i never actually bother to look but there like rubbing them selves on you and like this effection i never had, but just seems natural.. its not like back when where they only got effection in negative  emotions standpoints. Naht in this spots does bring up thing he wasnt sure about, and it feels a little bit like he is commputing as well but i think it not as b I mentioned that there mum wasnt happy that you call another girl hotlips and , What is diet, they like hearing about my days as a kid, we talked about how 15/2 score in soccer it not what you want. Until nathan need a poo and we go to the servo across the road and he tells us to stay in this spot, and was just so we could hear him talking, Offered a slushy and sat in the car wash . seating. We heading back home and asked to stop at the salvos, the two of em went together to get a cucumber and both loved that, there was this rock band playing next door to the store and little one was just getting in to it and it was over while…

Then we get in the store, and they get these lawnmower toys for like 18 m babies and they just went round and round the store following each other for twenty minutes, Like there never been ratbags, and not ever quite.. I said alright im off, and they came like it was nothing.. It will be some effect.. you dont just out of the blue do those things.

Then we got home and they just go inside and start playing with there toys, with 100%focus, and not even thinking about me and thats twice in a row now tins has happened. An hour later Naht comes out and just goes straight out side and brings in a brick. His mums says no brick inside, So he takes it back out, come in and not a word and they both pack up the toys, take em outside in a complete one motion and as good any adultcould move it all..  This is definetly a thing.. But then when it time to stop its near 7 and it like that just started the day. Then it being 9pm, and the movie over, they want to sleep with me, but i not live there. Lights are off and everyone in mumbed…an She asked jaek what was the best thing he done today, he stands up to ramble on


THERE KNOWLEDGE BASE IS LOW, IT HARD TO SOLVE SOMETHING WHEN YOU HAVE SOMETHING MISSING YOU NEED TO, OR THERE ARE THINGS YOU LEARNED THAT YOU DONT UNDERSTAND, ALSO KNOWLEDGE NOT SUITED FOR A CHILD A WELL AS ISSUE FROM YOUNGER YEARS. LIKE ALL THING S WHEN YOU FIRST START ITS NOT AUTOMATIC. CHILREN CAN BE SAYING THING OVER AND OVER OR END A SENTANCE WITH SOMETHING FAMILIAR LIKE BUM AND POOP IN MY CASE, YOU CAN TFIND A RYME WORD AND ENDLESS OTHER THING. I FOCUSING ON A BASIC EXPLANATION TO NOT DISTRACT FROM THE MAIN ISSUE AND THAT IS THOUGHT PROCESS. THOUGHT PROCESS IS NOT SOMETHING WE ARE BORN WITH HOW WE THINK AND SOLVE IS VERY DEPENDENT ON HOW WE ARE TAUGHT.  PARENTS AND KINDERGARTEN OFTEN BY 4 YEARS OLD ARE OUR MAIN WAYS A CHILD WILL BE ABLE TO LEARN.. WHEN A CHILD AROUND 4 STARTS TO MOVE INTO THE A LONGER THOUGHT, THEY CAN GO FROM THE MORE BASIC SEE THAT AND SO ITS THAT.. CHILDREN WILL AT THE YOUNG AGE SEEM VERY OBSERVANT BE ABLE TO KNOW REALLY AMAZING THINGS, BUT ITS VERY SHORT THOUGHT, SEE A BLUE CAR SAY BLUE CAR AND THAT’S HOW EARLY THOUGHT PROGRESSES, THEY WILL KNOW WHERE THE YOU HID THE CHOCOLATE, THEY KNOW THINGS THAT THEN CAN RELATE TO SOMETHING ELSE, BUT IF YOU PUT HIM AN ISLE AWAY IN THE SHOPPING CENTRE, HE HAS BASICALLY GOT AN OPTION IF YOUR NOT THERE IT WILL BE A MELT DOWN, THEY CANT JUST NIP UP TO THE CASHIER AND ASK WHICH WAY DID MY MUM GO BECAUSE THE LAST TIME I SEEN HER AND SHE WAS WEARING THIS.. Me;t down and then the store owner realises that the child cant say any more and then finds the mum for the child..Children can even have thought problems with this smaller range but ADHD occurs after that, besides parents saying that he was always had it to born with it, that cant occur, until around this age… While there is a million theories or what ever the brain up down , it does not matter, if you look it will always be a case that research hope, possible new information, coulud be the break through, and absolutley nothing, that is psychiatrys actual stance, the rest they a only willing to sag it is believed or research indicates, which all is impossible and nothing to do with any of it.. It even why, you will never se any real imaging and theat picture is just so your mind see something and not just the words that if you read always mean nothing.. It not a new trick, some call it marketing even, It’s called manipulation and it works as long as no one knows about any of what you say, but you got the image in your mind and what gets process then has levels of belief that get stronger with more conformation as the thought, get then the message it needed to feel more comfortable,, and i can go into manipulation more. But we are human, and walking on eggshells of worrying about what people say to not believing anything also will have various different effects. But at the end of the day, we have a lot of develop knowledge that need to be taken on and our mind does, you cant not believe when you dont fully understand the derived process or it would begin, even language cant start with out being able to take on ‘what people tell you..

So more around 4 but can start a bit later, especially when then learming and competision from other kids to keep up in all ares of life and kids have not developed self esteem and heaps of other ways to deal with new problems, very dependent on melt downs still and thats cause they learn ed works and takes a while to shange thought and establish better ways, But it also, brings up, the fact that we all including me know the brain as this thing that magically solves thing for us and some people were born intelligent, he is a bad, kid, all the stories, but the brain is used as the reference and even the thing they reasearch but its fact the have ever found anything or an indication, the same as your big toe or your ball sack it siting at zero for all three and takes about five minutes and all scientist know its a reference, when you move into the central nervous i would have clue, but i heard the brain does that..besides scientist not not saying the brain does any thinking or story information in files there are many groups, people interested in science on all levels will lay down and die they are so positive, just dont ask to expand on that.. You have other emotions dependant on that being true often for a wide variety of things, from religion to evolution and you may have even argue thing about it.. if not, you the only one ever.. and that also means that human development has produced two types of humans… .. This is just rambled, basically there a ten trucks of things that are and nothing that is and that will be the theme.. and it goes deeper than ieven want to know.. But the ADHD , they will say allsorts to through from it doesn”t exist to blaming the kids to the parents its this miracle disorder, that when discovered is called a disorder because of it symtom’s, are found in every case.. ‘They were in my boy and exactly like the other six familys now that all (‘boys), irrelavent ‘that started with the first where i can detail of the whole experience because it happened and four two days i tried to inspire him to get the jo done as it is the most amazing expierce that you ever go through, that was all unnecessary and in half hour you can have the next expert on ADHD.. 19 days for a boy who was nearly 7 is the longest to be completely fine, and a month later he was back up to standard from being start a kindergarten level in schooling. Its hard to learn when you cant think, or meds that have you staring into the blankness..  With a young boy, like 5 even with how i know how to target emotions, i cant see it being more than a week, even if a few behaviour difficulties have started.

But ADHD is not this irrelavent disorder like all disorders, they are all relevan to that emotion which is dependant on thought process, With out thought process none of em can really develope and is why you dont see the other disorders yet, ADHD can only happen if the thought process keeps stopping. And whilst i was devasted at watching him slide, like every one else, you cant make the connection cause any information is not there… But its an obvious cant miss is you got 2 mins of relevent information, when you start having a few thought stop even the longer thought a child is aware of something but he cant know, its just available that something else pops ins his head to think about and he got to trail and error and be help and also pick up in all the different ways to get this thought process established, Clearly there are more things these days then before that are going to effect that, but the thought is learning what to do, it gets onfidence to twich on and help from parents and lots of ways to help it along, new information can start it or just long sessions of play and it a battle that can stop all the time and someone is allways helping when it gets stuck and you help and encourage, and you dont realise stopping thought, but if you had kids or been through it recently is contant this is happening, if you say he born dumb or he just doesnt think all of that is impossible, and is said by people who sometime are not equiped emotional to help there child, the only information that is factual is the heavy corelation to problem familys and also lower class which has he correlation to back to family problems.. Of course people are aware of this and caused the any other reason than the factual one, but illness in a child of this nature is ludercross the it could happen to so with an economic situation.


When you stopping and poppin in thought, what the attention span going to do, its going to decrease, and thinking gives you confidence and praise when its all kicking off , thought allows for play and discovery and this is heavy through this time, whilst the other way like all disorders, needs to be something quiet below whats average to occur, but its not that big a slide with adhd, when confidence start droppin with a lower attention span you always need some to help or you just do something you get a few no jolting through to stop thought more, and a few extra loof away because now you are being a pain and you losing left right and centre.. the play grounf you lst five minutes when annoying every one and the you seeing all the other kids and there is no missing when your boy hasnt said and intelligent thing or even had a thought, heavy mimicking behavior, toys like stick waking and just desperation on face, you say something and all he gut is a no or disagree  to you that occurs on your speaking, telling other kids what to do and no ideas that come with  that because thats what he is learn when he getting the no all the time, everything all roles for a reason and no one going to say they werent, perfect especially when there got an exterior to block out thing over the years that hurt them, but the disorder, what does the disorder actually do… it triggers thought, hyperactivity, to experiece something also trigger thought, attention disorder, was not named this as a guess, and if you think in the day it wasnt going to be noticed, thats more ludercross, things back then were tight, but very simple, you get beaten as a bad kid and every adhd parent knows that doesnt work… Thought process is an emotion that hits straight to that exact use the disorder does, and its at that age it begins, and needed for development… Development is a must of every thing or survival doesnt happen, every thing that survives need that or there gone long ago, there in no system of random negative illness or anything that even resembles that , how would that evolves is a thing as a thing, why would it, no one is out to make a race suffer, that fairy tales, this is children lifes, you would do it to your self,

Solution, —– simple endless flowing conversation that doesnt end, ecourages and buildes  confidence where focus stays on the child and nothing breaks the parent focus to into with fun warth, and praise for the slightest of thoughts and encouragement, its the kids and if there seven they might be 4 or five so its all that, you got to be that kid and even the friend as there got big problems with parentas well, you got to build the trust, and ita mentality that just explores what there is in front and if you have to imagine and just tell mindless thought os your self as a child just keep it going, your talking is still encouraging his thought, you even do a 8 hour day there is heavy progress, but there is no even hint of a no, if he needs to do some thing stupid, or mindless it doesnt help to say no tell him to do it again will trigger the thought over a no, both run around like fuckwit, and promise your self you wont say no, the more you find and excuse not to will just mean the more it was you,  fuck pride the whole lot, it might be a hard when you not like that in two week your whole is fixed and your got a child again and you will be wondering what the fuck, you will be spewing that info didnt come out, it is there is leess  forms, but psychiatry crushed it as it went for the chemical bull shit, kids under 7 will be flying out of ADHD and excuses are going to be fucking abuses, and then the next step will be it on the parent and not the child and adhd plumeting .. You want to challenge this then i will will no problem , expose your self fully and we have a talk and if there is any possible issue that you may have thay will come out quick but you wont be getting any other question other than go straight for the spot, that gets protected and you cant fight if there an issue there, and i got literally hundreds, its the most toxic place on earth ADHD  parent groups and i got heaps of parent recorded clear as the sun shines only looking for info, so there got it for them selves, people disconnecting there profile, me showing what happen when i hit back at  like 15 people irate for just suggesting in is a thought disorder, and they go straight to admin and cliam there being abused, happen, i got it recorded know what they say, masses of people believing stuff thats been disproven, but there no stories of happy child or what ever…and i not deleting faces there going straight up the videos, and probably will be the story then,,, but i can guarantee one thing, nothing will be disputed other that spot fires with nothing and of course im ready with that, 2 people working full time just collecting all the bull shit and lies of the last 50 years.. fuck another million kids getting illness, if i wrong or of even smell in anyway but just more child abuse will get any toxic or worse emotions applied to what missing in the comment, and then ten thousand bundles of evidence that is from there own…there is no restrictions nothing posted from the real source, my own country wont even be used, its a fucken joke the whole way and cant be seen as anything else, and there aint nothing i want to do less than this, but  i seen the psych ward already,  and a delusion diagnosis with evidence of a part of psychopathy that can’t be imagined as about standard for a range of decisions that all end up at the start on kids, once you attack them… i can show that too..







1)ADHD is a personality disorder…..this is a good description. It plays a major role in a persons personality.

2)Personality—can also be referred to as mind state, or emotional state, Even who they are. It is made up of all the emotions that have developed since birth to what you are today or your mind state

3)Emotions–include- your self esteem, worry,  anger, remorse, empathy, attachment and  others For ADHD i refer to that emotion as Thought process.. so it is quiet different from the rest

4)Certainty why thought process is a developed emotion, still getting that proof, but looks certian already, but this was determined from personal experience and their is only one mind and the only reason all this was able to be figured out…My thought process was developed before 4 by my sister and still the same,, its mathematical.. that means my mind cant accept all the learned stuff or incorrect knowledge of psych so then be unable to figure out, i cant interpret things, opinions other stuff , i cant do, mathematically im seen as genius, some areas, i don’t register in general, from non abused i have never spotted a natural intelligence just some thought process that are very good

5)How do emotions develop—- there is a process the human mind has and a standard type description will be similar to this happening over and over….example   A child 6years old falls, so there mind state processes this experience and it may be the pain they feel and why they fell and emotions are attached to that thought… and then added to the mind state.. And now the mentality is a bit more aware of dangers that might be sticking out of the grass, that it hurts when you fall over and how much and you get a bit more used to pain… Your 6 so you still deal with that by crying and your mum, and you might by now fallen 50 times and you also have some mentality starting so a range of things wher the mother involve is a touch less than last time and more push to get up to see if  he can walk alright and a quicker recovery and  more away from mum dependant to towards dealing with and all the relevant emotions tweak a little and get the strength of the feeling attached to the thought and it becomes part of the mentality. The mums love and what she showed in kindness and all tha gets processed and added to mentality and its just a cycle of though over and over and that’ how emotions develop. Gradually from a process of life experiences moving every thing together developing there mind.

Emotions how they work

There are a few given you could call it 1)They have a development stage where you are young and taking in and growing fast then it tapers off and just a gradual change in mentality occur.. It a given when survival has occurred. Any negative movement inclination would go away from survival. Also the development stage is needed o one day you repeat the process of your parents and continues the survival..

Another key characteristic is that emotions will  give you a feeling when you have a thought process. There must be feeling to thought or there is no point and again that will not survive…The the feeling your emotion gives you has to always try to help you …This is a given to an emotion that indicated the wrong direction to head then survival would not of happened…

Also it has to start blank with just its limits and ways it can work with instincts and survival always Number  1 priority. Any other priority over survival means it doesn’t…

There also has to be a range that you can’t drop below. The higher up the better you feel as happiness is needed to want to survive and it just given good things mean happier or you wouldn’t survive being directed at bad things..  There just standards that all species have, nothing we consider so stating them is needed.. Every species mind will also have in place ways that the suffering doesn’t be never ending and intensity wise.. A dog reaches that beaten down stage and stays there, develops early with training but then cant be or much harder to train when older and all the animals with the personalities we can relate to have this.. Dogs have vertualy the same personality but just 100 times simpler

Also because its the mind to survive there must be some sort of way so you don’t go into a region you can’t stand the pain mentally or when an emotion, stops developing.. You need a species that has a way of warning of threat and ability to get well.. But as last resort, a stop, were you still survive, you can get to the end as survival and reproduction are still there and this is mental illness, which is not an illness, its a stop from going into the region where you cant bear survival.  When you understand mental illness in a form of mass people you feel it, you see it. the personality disorder that starts to attach at levels where development becomes at risk and survival also becomes a risk is when the disorder can only start to appear to save the person from not wanting to live..The perception is the illness wants to die. That is not the case and all disorders i have seen on mass have far mor survival than normal and reproduction is the one thing uneffected, often incentivized,, The stage before the disorder takes full effect is the more likely time for death or when drugs and alcohol effect senses or shame and exposure where disorders have not kept up with. Mass numbers in groups and mass posting of the not a huge variety of thing because each disorder only protects certain emotions. I don’t know the psychiatry definitions the symptoms or any part of psychiatry, but there are a lot of over laps between in a few disorders and the person just sticks out and posts that there sure. Because of how i process and what i know, i can diagnose or spot the difference with out thought… 2000 times i don’t think i been wrong once.

Every disorder clearly saves that emotion though… Very clear. Whats referred to as skitzophenia , clearly has a couple of different types.

Depression is self esteem and most things start off any way so most are emotional abuse but all forms Anxiety is worry, which all forms of abuse create this to and they clearly protect those emotions

Borderline—-huge illness–all raped neglect with the same emotes covered  %

Bipolar—-insane neglet–molest, rape, young abuse very big  near 100%

Narcissist abused—-6 illness all the same

Schitzophenia—fear and responcibilty –smallest number,   and the onset is at the end of development age with real schitz in the big range of abuse but more intense physical abuse.. All the big illness never talk about the abuse  because it needs to be supressed


Psychos–don’t have the emotions to other—- no suffering— the weaker self esteem—they don’t suffer as there is not negative thought hence emotions don’t react and they feel good, manipulate on the lower level— cause they dont feel for other in a communications sense, so they see the facial expression– and manipulation becomes an instinctual thing and a survival trait not being exposed,

And each disorder has its role for each emotion and only comes in when that emotion is under threat from bringing the person into that survival area.

The fact that there seems to be these born psycho and little bits and pics that seem to be outliers her and there are very few, and always a reason, with certain disorders never telling the truth, to chunks of life missing because of the intensity and sickness, to incident in life that the mind processed the same or similar to abuse, and then the large amount of heriditary Mental illness because a child can not develop the same emotion that they are not shown


This level of toxic person i just as i haven’t looked in the normal also has disorder.  And level of belief in thing look to be a disorder as well..

When talking about is abuse and life experience the cause, it’s at 100%

The reason why psychiatry moved out of the area—simple—same as whats happening everywhere



Very simple disorder

around 3.5yrs old thought process lengthens and the thought process starts to develop.. It need practice and confidence and repeatision with encouragement and praise and help with ways from the parent, as well as input from the bits missing needed to complete thought process to a solution…  thats why a lot of ADHD occurs at this early  but then continues for a few more years into school, as concepts get a bit more and kids drop off with poor developed thought processes, and confidence can get hit in extreme from other children going ahead and young children dont yet have developed emotions of empathy yet and can really rip into another chid with honest assessments and confidence and self-esteem with out any support and can give up and thought process stop to, and its not like other illness where a long decline is needed because other emotions are dependant on this thought process and ADHD does come in much faster, but its a clear decline before the ADHD comes and you can see the similarities that go from stopped thought to starting and end up stoping and the shortened attention span already before ADHD and the triggered responsives from another person being able to spark there thought and the misbehavor as they go for easier and easier thing that dont require thought, but  you can see in there eyes the worry and blankness of not having thought, there communication becomes so poor where all you hear i the most basic thoughts and for montjs straight you will not here a worthwhile word said, you get better thought from and 8 month old baby..

Its there and its the only way..

Even the sharp spike reflects all the actual changes where thought of parent of not being diagnosed years ago are the reasons, is not true, ADHD kids would of been less tolerated back then.

New enviroment does play a small part with the amount of things that need to be learned , but withe the increase in mental illness being a large factor in play to.. Mental illness suffers do not have the same ability and are missing emotions that the child need for thought process and development but also very narowin what they teach and dont see the child like an average parent, disorders alway take care froma survival point of view but are heavily only thinking about he disorder and are not there at all to pick up thought process that gets stuck and need a push along and help and also expressing the concerns of the disorded to the child that cant process this stuff, no body can, there heavily in learning mode still and are sucking the life out of everything to develop any way they can.. There is big force behind the increase in ADHD numbers.. And now the largest factor that seems to be really pushing up the numbers… The groups of ADHD well into the millions are the most toxic enviroments you will ever see, they are discusting with blame punching down on there children and the suggestion even you can help rises outrage, if a teacher any one talks to these parent it is outrage and  these kids have got no chance they will disconnect there profiles, complain in mass to admin at the thought of helping there children, abuse, the lot, is not welcome and none of the even talk about anything but how great they are , and the reasons for the children supplied by psych are latched on to as fact even after it is proven otherwise.. They seemed concern  when they present there child to get the medication but there outraged if there child want as much of a bit of advice , they get slammed for being stupid and its the worst enviroment even for me to experience



Solution, —– simple endless flowing conversation that doesnt end, ecourages and buildes  confidence where focus stays on the child and nothing breaks the parent focus to into with fun warth, and praise for the slightest of thoughts and encouragement, its the kids and if there seven they might be 4 or five so its all that, you got to be that kid and even the friend as there got big problems with parentas well, you got to build the trust, and ita mentality that just explores what there is in front and if you have to imagine and just tell mindless thought os your self as a child just keep it going, your talking is still encouraging his thought, you even do a 8 hour day there is heavy progress, but there is no even hint of a no, if he needs to do some thing stupid, or mindless it doesnt help to say no tell him to do it again will trigger the thought over a no, both run around like fuckwit, and promise your self you wont say no, the more you find and excuse not to will just mean the more it was you,  fuck pride the whole lot, it might be a hard when you not like that in two week your whole is fixed and your got a child again and you will be wondering what the fuck, you will be spewing that info didnt come out, it is there is leess  forms, but psychiatry crushed it as it went for the chemical bull shit, kids under 7 will be flying out of ADHD and excuses are going to be fucking abuses, and then the next step will be it on the parent and not the child and adhd plumeting .. You want to challenge this then i will will no problem , expose your self fully and we have a talk and if there is any possible issue that you may have thay will come out quick but you wont be getting any other question other than go straight for the spot, that gets protected and you cant fight if there an issue there, and i got literally hundreds, its the most toxic place on earth ADHD  parent groups and i got heaps of parent recorded clear as the sun shines only looking for info, so there got it for them selves, people disconnecting there profile, me showing what happen when i hit back at  like 15 people irate for just suggesting in is a thought disorder, and they go straight to admin and cliam there being abused, happen, i got it recorded know what they say, masses of people believing stuff thats been disproven, but there no stories of happy child or what ever…and i not deleting faces there going straight up the videos, and probably will be the story then,,, but i can guarantee one thing, nothing will be disputed other that spot fires with nothing and of course im ready with that, 2 people working full time just collecting all the bull shit and lies of the last 50 years.. fuck another million kids getting illness, if i wrong or of even smell in anyway but just more child abuse will get any toxic or worse emotions applied to what missing in the comment, and then ten thousand bundles of evidence that is from there own…there is no restrictions nothing posted from the real source, my own country wont even be used, its a fucken joke the whole way and cant be seen as anything else, and there aint nothing i want to do less than this, but  i seen the psych ward already,  and a delusion diagnosis with evidence of a part of psychopathy that can’t be imagined as about standard for a range of decisions that all end up at the start on kids, once you attack them… i can show that too..





borderline bersonality disorder people say
TW: How many here suffered from abuse? physical, sexual or other (neglect, verbal etc)
And if so, was your abuser ever punished


 Both me and my bro have BPD. He is older. I saw more and experienced more than him but we both are very sensitive and have bpd

 I got bpd. My brother that four years older than me seem so normal but he showing more more signs of mental illness and having bpd like me.. he went threw same things I did and a lot worse I believe

 But he more normal than me. I can’t be normal like he can. He walk in the room and make friends and i hid

 It’s okay. I’ll be okay. It just I feel bad for my brother. Ty for offer I might take up on it

 Love to you xx I am older, my sister is 2 1/2 years younger and I am a screwed up mess while she is a confident, successful business woman. My problem is thought to be linked to childhood trauma experience(s) but I have no recollection of what happened xx

 Im the youngest…. she’s fine, I’m not. I was the one sexually abused.

I’m the youngest too and i was abused in many ways including sexual. My brother remember some what happen to me but not any of the sexual stuff beside one incident but other things has happen..bur he successful guy

I’m the youngest… But believe me… If I could have protected my brother and sister from my dad… I would have.

 Youngest of 5. Not much childhood trauma that I remember. Mine came in my teens after a series of rape and miscarriage and from there I spiraled down. I can see how the symptoms but I can’t exactly pin point what started off

 How many people have had multiple traumas though?? For me it wasn’t just the abuse I saw between my dad and my family…but from other stuff that happened.Yep multiple here too. Xx

 Yes for me it is psychological, emotional, phsycical, and sexual abuse, as well as having our mum leave. This all went in between ages 5 to 15, when they finally kicked me out of home.

Yes!!! Mine was repetitive trauma in various forms that illicited the same emotional response of abandonment

Manage Multiple traumas here as well

I’m the oldest sibling in my family. I’m the only one who has BPD because i was most affected by my father walking out when i was four years old

 Childhood traManage

mental health issues too inc anxiety and depression and adhd. We were brought up differently (12 yr age gap) but both have multiple trauma and abuse.
My mum is deffo bpd and I reckon so was her sister before she took her own life. Their mum, my gran was diagnosed with bipolar in later life.Mum’s side is messed up but dad’s doesn’t seem to have any mh illnesses from what I know.

 I’m the oldest both parents didn’t want me (mum blamed me from very early on for her situation single mum and all, dad was a weekend dad who most of the time forgot to pick me up so I’d sit waiting all day 😦
Then my step brother raped me! So childhoo…See more

 My parenting has suffered so much from BPD, having to raise my kids with no family help or support… You are doing better than me!

 Hi my sister is resisting getting help as she is scared of social services taking her kids any advice I can give her?

Yes I was a sensitive kid..they look at me I cry.then get beat for crying..and yes

 Im oldest too .I have a younger brother he was never hit by our father just me. I go to High School with black eyes..no one cared yay to the 70’s..no pne noticed cause they were smacking kids in school..omg..trigger. i gotta go..

 My sister has severe BPD, I do not (on the other hand, I struggle with depression and anxiety, but its under control now). I am 4 years older than her. No childhood trauma, at least not in the terms of abuse of any kind…our family was dysfunctional, …See more

 Same my dad use to thrash me with belts

 I just got in this group today because I read up on BPD and it seems to fit. I’ve only been seeing a therapist for 2 months. I don’t have a diagnosis. I had multiple traumas. I’m the middle child. My siblings are effed up in their own way. We’re not close. We all have decent jobs. I have several failed relationships. My brother is mostly self isolated. My sister snaps at the drop of a hat.

dont want to get into details but I think its genetic, and depends on the trauma under gone. I was abused also as a child , I did not talk about it till older and well self medicated lol I lived in a world where mostly bad stuff happened untill I was 25 or so. They say genetics but as a precurser and trauma as a trigger . I have lived through physical, sexual,emotional and self abuse .I still work (doc medicated) helps me from going off and keeping my job I attend therepy. One day I want to stop thinking about what happened and have whats next for me. I want to know who I am this identity mixup has always plagued me. Good luck on your journey to your new life and away from yesterday. I have sisters who are just really good at putting on their normal faces 🙂

 Oh Kate. That’s something I told my therapist, I feel like I’ve lived most of my life hiding behind a smiling mask. The older you get the harder it is to keep on.

 I fully blame my parents emotionally unstable relationship for my BPD, it was pure fucked right from the start and I’m convinced that I have this shitty condition because of them.

Arseholes  I love them and all bit I think if they weren’t screaming at each other in front of me and  Same…whatever it is I have. If it’s not this is something that T Said is going to take a lot of time and work

 I get pissed at my little sister for not being as fuxked up as I am too… Which is not fair on her, as she is my primary ‘carer’ and support person.

 Crap isn’t it  I hate how much control other peoples actions have over me, I just want something to permanently block out any if my emotions.

Well depends on what kind of siblings your talking about. I am both a middle child and the baby lol. My sister went though worse abuse then me. She was really really badly screwed up for many years. But she got 2 years of counseling which really helped her. Now she is a functioning adult with 2 jobs, friends

 I have step brothers and a half sister… I tend not to count them… Issues much?!!!?!
I was sexually abused by one step brother, and the half sister is 21 years my junior and quite the narcisist.

 I’m the oldest.an I’m a hot Fuckkin mess too.my little sister and brother we didn’t grow up together I just found out about them

 I am in DBT and they explained the bio/social theory. Some of it is just who we are, and some of it is based on things that have happened to us. I’m the oldest. 2 brothers. one i was raised with, one i wasnt…neither of them is “crazy” at all.

 My bpd spouse is the eldest of two. His sis is 2-3 yrs younger. I never thought about birth order and how it may relate to bpd. Good q!

 I’m the oldest and myself and my siblings all endured abuse and were all fucked up. I’m the only one with bpd tho

 I suffered abusea Am the Eldest of 2 sisters. I got fckedup too to protect my youngst sister. Am now the ‘crazy’ + ‘black sheep’ of the still disfunctional family. Ty 4 ur post. Your not alone on this one. Bravo mayb 4 us childhood survivors who now r products of this fcked up ‘so called perfect normal ones’ pple. Sorry I say Fck them all. We r the perfect ones!!!

 You know what I am discovering about us?

We are fucking FASCINATING.
All of you are. We are complicated, deeply feeling people. Some from trauma, some not, but most of us (I think??) are very sensitive people? Would I be correct in saying so?

 Eely sensitive. I wear my heart on my sleeve.

 We are all amazing strong lovely people and we should all be proud of each other  xxx

 In all honesty, the psychological department could learn a tonne from us if they all were as nice to us as we are to each other! This proves so much… Look how many of us ‘fucked up psychos’ on one page… And I see a tonne of pain, and NONE of it is directed to anyone but ourselve

We are amazing kind people. I get made fun of at church cause I’m SO sensitive!! Well that works two ways

 I was sexually abused. My sister was not. She has a really good job, is a great mom and house keeper, no criminal record. She’s the golded child and I’m the black sheep.

 Same here. I am the oldest and I took care of my sister. I have bpd and she is fine. Went to college and made something of herself. We are very close.

 Yes, same with my sister

Less than 2 years ago, the deepest i got into mental health was that they were crazy.. I wonder why i thought that.. Someone must of told me and it always come from the same place.. The great people in mental health putting up with the crazy people, Trust me it is nothing like that. It patients putting up with Psychiatry, that will not even listen to stories of horror, when its exactley 100%of the time the same reason for mental heal heath.. And its women and children who are number one and two on the distcustingest hidiouus abuse you cant image… Mental health might be what in your mind, but reality is they refuse to believe abuse is the cause of mental illness and then block any knowledge so that other can protect themselves from being ill and know when others are feeling down or when children are being savagely abused.. This is mental health,, The place psychiatry runs rule and yet to fix a person in history.. Im a fucken tradesman and solved the whole lot… PsYchiatry is by far the biggest form of mass child abuse that will ever happen.. These monsters that have been getting covered up since day one are destroyers that have no emotions or remorse , but psychiatry refuses to list them as a problem.. These are some responses from young girls to women, the group is 160,000 deep all of em raped and badly abused, how cant psychiatry join the dots up with that.. This is a heavy illness where these girls will never get better. What happens with abuse is that when the abuse is over, it doesnt stop, Its now plastered on the inside walls of your head so then you destroy yourself from your own mind until your emotions are so destroyed  that a disorder called borderline personality disorder starts, and its because your to broken , and no girl survives these attacks, not one. It is impossible to block out Abuse . This is the protection given to women. They are destroyed, never given therapy with a disorder now that makes them suffer so much from fear of being abandomed.. And the schizophrenia people  you always hear about, it is not magical illness either. It called physical abuse of young child…. Psychiatry went bad along time ago and know that it cant let it out.. It is the worst thing you could ever imagine with 50YRS  of abuse to look at  but instead block it out and look at something irrelavet. Mental illness has doubled in that time and there was no sign in sight.. They thought they could just keep releasing bit of discusting filth to bring down the abused, beautiful women and children… And you know what stops them from recovering, beside the actual mental health, is the fact that to recover they need To confront the abuse and then turn it around mentally will being weakens from sickening abuse and cant fucken do it.. Everytime the abuse works the same an everytime the outcome is the same and everytime mental health makes it even worse.. You wonder why you need feminist groups, why because abusers been getting protected for as long as we can remember and every one like a baby cause mental health has gOt it under control… They have zero understanding of the issues, and just see abused people that is to much for them so they shut down and join in the abuse.. I seen bad in my life and this is the worst thing that will ever happen .. When the dusts settles and you see the cost of the suffering, it is enormaous.. and there are 100S of millions of storys all the same….

Here is how you deal with abuse like a man… No big gang bearing down on a woman, This is the woman bearing down on the big gang



       Here is a brief outline of what causes adhd and how you fix it. We have had 100%sucess up until a child is 7 yrs old and think it would be the same result up until 9. The same method is used. The cause of ADHD is exactley as the name suggests, All 7 boys got ADHD the same and the only way possible. I know Mental health cloud the water with unproven claim and have no answers the whole spectrum of mental health but deny children any sort of chance  with refusal to treat mental illness.

          Around the age of 3.5—4yrs mostly by can happen at  other ages and often not picked up, a child begins to be able to think a bit more.  He is on the verge of working many things out, H and all the children around the same age move from just soaking up knowledge and having an easy thought process to any answer, to thinking. And there is lots to think about. There not confident in the way they think yet, and there not even able to automatically switch it on yet. There still need lots of confidence to trust the new sensation they are have. Any thinking they are trying to do needs to be simple and have enough learning for them to have the thinking or there mind just stops. Its not like an adult who auto matically thinks round and round. 

          They are just trying out thinking and when they cant do it they dont know yet how to proceed and it ends in losing attention as the thought stops and the mind wonders off. This happens over and over and generally when there is this not enough of the general basic things that they need. Often there problems and often its just a lot of negative , being told no all the time and not starting the process in confident mind set. So with my son and the other 6 Boys you notice a child often not knowing what to do just before the ADHD start. He will have lost confidence to think and cant switch the thought back on so you will see little thinks like copying anyone as its easy thought. Any you will see alot of reactionary talking, where he is not saying anything until you speak and he is able to react then and in most cases its and automatic disagree and you havent even said enough to disagree, But also you will notice play resort to just stick waking or he will tell another child to to something that wont get to an actual thing to do as he stops in thought, They often get doubled as well as there interupting other play so much that other kids drop the quick, I also noticed it had been a while he had said anything even remotely decent.. They just get stuck in thought and while it sounds like the easiest thing in the world when your aware of it, it somehow doesnt register cause all relevant mental health knowledge you need isnt avaliable. I was just lucky with my boy that i was aware and finally just tried something that happened to be write. And when there that age half the time your just thinking when will it stop. But its just totally normal for your child to start suffering and the you make it worse as he doing all these little thigs wrong now. Onc his mind has near stopped the he isnt able to develop all the other ways a boy does, or girl… And the body has a disorder that starts taking effect when the attention span is low and the confidence is low and thoughts nearly stopped.. And ADHD is able to surface at this point, it purpose is exactly what it says, the disorder is able to kick start thought again and all so there confidence is protected by the disorder, But there near certain to get other disorder later as a result.. 

Adhd in adults is hard but int young kids its straight up an down and certain. So far 19 days is the longest and there good again , but also able to catch right up and go past if you want cause now your aware of whats good fore them..

All you have to think is confidence and continue thought, So he has been through hell, so just a nice start to get a bit of trust back and then just provide the enviroment where you dont say no and if he stops thought the step in with something and make it funny, but try to put in the long hours as it like they can progress quiet for in a day, let em talk and you start blabbing on and its a good time.. You do need to put in a little though to get rid of the disorder, but you wont even notice the point it goes… But you will notice how the thoughts stop and you got to start em again or he is fucked so yo best be putting in the big one.. Always give the encouragement, and just keep the conversation going and its good. It a night mare for all other wise.. I think even if you didnt go to hard with the effort  just knowing of the way to  process is the way…