“TOXIC PERSON”, What does that mean……..

Sometimes you here the word “toxic”. Maybe that a some one is toxic or what someone says is toxic. Most people kind of know it’s got something to do with that person being negatively annoying at maybe all the wrong times bringing down a situation in some way. And that’s kind of what a “toxic” person is. This is what I would describe as a positive view on this type of person which is always the way to go in general but understanding this word a little more is a good idea as it helps you to stay away from such people. It also can lessen the effect on you emotionally. Some things people can say can really up set a person and there is no need to be getting upset from some one who is “TOXIC”.

To me the word toxic person goes a little bit further than being negatively annoying. A toxic person is someone who hasn’t got what would be considered normal feelings for others. They don’t have the right amount of empathy in them to be able to take the feelings of others into account when saying what they say. There feelings can work in reverse in a way. Instead of feeling good about being nice to someone they get some level of satisfaction from negatively effecting someone.

They often upset people as you may disagree with there opinions or not understand there point of view. That’s because as a person you have what could be considered normal feelings and emotions and you know and feel that this opinion is wrong and different to what you would say in a situation. People can get annoyed by this type of person and argue the situation or it effects them for a period of time after the fact.

The reason why a toxic person can effect another person so much is how the brain of a normal person processes it thoughts. When you hear something that is of a toxic nature your brain takes in this as thought and you process this information in some way. Your emotions don’t like what they have been exposed to as they feel the thoughts from your brain. Your cant see there point of view and it can be in some way upsetting as you don’t enjoy having to process this type of thought and it makes you feel bad emotionally in some kind of way. You can get frustrated and angered in some way as a person has effected you in a negative way and that’s not acceptable to you as you wouldn’t do that to someone else. Most rational people would apoligise if they did or would be able to see reason if they are to hurt someone in a negative way but a toxic person seems to stand there ground and not be so apologetic.

But this doesn’t happen with a toxic person and no matter how wrong they may be, they are just not able to see it or show what you may see as the right amount of remorse for the situation. Often it maybe a back handed apology or getting the last word in as well which can just make things worse.

But the key and what can save you a lot of time wasted thinking about these kind of people is to understand them and not to listen to them. They don’t have the same feelings or emotions of a normal person. When they get no pleasure to themselves emotionally by being nice they wont have the same rational as you or me. They don’t see that they are saying something wrong as to them they feel good about what they said. They don’t feel the hurt from the other person perspective. If you try and rational with them you are pretty much wasting your time as they have different feeling and thoughts to you and wont be able to see it from your perspective.

You will be thinking of how that person has effected the other negatively and they are wrong to say such thing and all they will be able to think about is themselves and how it didn’t hurt them and not be able to see your point. You could ague till the cows come home and you wont get anywhere. You are arguing rational with someone who is not.

Trying to rationalise with someone or something said that is irrational is a waste of time and irrational to do so. Understanding that there is something wrong with them emotionally to make them have these backward type thoughts is the key. Understand that there is something wrong with them and that there words are not always going to be rational. That to take notice of someone toxic is irrational and to attempt to change that type of thought is impossible and irrational as well. You can only gravitate away from such people to lessen the effect there words have on you emotionally. See there view as being one from a person who isn’t normal in there way of thought and to take the minimal notice you can from them as they are not right in what they say. Give them the least amount of joyment from you being frustrated as you can will work the best. If you don’t take notice of toxic people or if you can be on a level where you understand that there not right emotionally and there views are not worth thinking about is the way to go. They don’t try to affect those people who don’t get effected and them selves will gravitate to those who are weaker emotionally and easier to effect negatively.  If you get put down don’t think about what has been said, it will do you no good. Think that is what someone would say if they where trying to get satisifaction from having someone else suffer emotionally and be glad your not like that and try to always encourage and praise others as it will make you and others feel better around you and that’s the goal. It might be your friend, your mum someone at work, just don’t let it effect you or waste your energy trying to change em, be happy that your got good feelings and emotions and protect them from being effected at all times

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