Mental Illness, emotions and the mind

I have found that ones mental state whether strong or weak is determined from what your mind has gone through. That a mental illness is a result of particular emotions being in such a weak state that a mental illness or a personality disorder becomes an attachment to the thought process of the mind to stop the decline in the state of ones emotions. It keeps you at a low state emotionally but stops the decline of a person mind to dangerous levels that would be unbearable to live with. A person emotional growth primarily occurs early in life and mostly determined by those closest to the person and often dependant on. Mentally strong people being raised in ideal and loving circumstances that allowed for emotions to get strong over a long period of time down to people with a variety of disorders that have gone through less than ideal up bringing and onto being abused as children. How emotions are effected in a person is from thoughts from there mind and the mind gets its thoughts from what it is exposed to. The mind is our brain and it learns from what it is exposed to and try’s to solve life’s problems that we encounter naturally. It can only learn from what it is taught and depending on its strength will determine how well it is able to solve and learn and how we go through life.

That a humans emotions are part of our human instincts that give us a feeling if something or really a thought we are having is good or bad. This feeling we feel inside if we like something or not is our instincts trying to guide us through life in the best possible way by being attracted to the good feeling we feel from things. We should go to those good feelings as that is what makes us emotionally stronger.

Our mind is naturally learning and solving problems all the time and living a full life exposes our mind to new and interesting things which makes us stronger emotionally as we enjoy the feeling. Being bored and experiencing negative things in life gives us a bad feeling and makes us emotionally weaker. It makes our mind try to think through these low times and causes a cyclical negative thoughts to be had which damage us emotionally over and over and closer to a level emotionally where a disorder can take effect.

Emotions and the mind at birth are virtually blank with just our human instincts to rely on. That how we grow emotionally has to be learned from those we are dependant on and factors that relate to how we are mentally will be from our life experience. That we are all born the same emotionally and they are just that feeling of good or bad every time we go through something. How we are and what we believe is determined from what we experience in life and not from how we are born or any hereditary things. We can be like our parents because we have learned from them and its not a natural occurrence.

There is currently no reasons for mental illness or cure for mental illness the above is not established and we look for causes of mental illness in any area except for what we go through mentally and how it effects us emotionally. We known there is a correlation between being mentally ill and those who have been abused but there is much stronger correlations present. And that is that our whole mentally will correlate to what we have been through whether good or bad.

To fix someone with mental illness will require a strengthening of them emotionally and that will have to come from there own mind. Also this is difficult because a disorder has attached itself to there way of thought that often is negative in nature. Possibly working out ways to distract a disorder is the only way of repair and that means living a fuller and more active life if that’s at all possible.

The reason why it is obvious that a disorder attaches it self to ones mind and becomes a set way of thinking for some that isn’t logical is the similarities in people thoughts wheather man or woman and from any culture being the same while others with out any type of disorder having completely different thought process. Also those with the more extreme kind of disorders having children and these children all turning out the same emotionally often with many of the same mental illness.



In mental health the cause of mental illness is still not known to the human race. I guess PTSD is known as the name suggests. Its a disorder caused from the mind going through a major trauma that it couldn’t cope with. But this disorder should give us good insite into how other personality disorders come from as well. I guess what happens with PTSD is that the mind is witness to a major trauma and that trauma plays out in the mind over and over and effects the emotions of a person to the extent that there is danger for them with the mind living out this trauma over and over and a disorder occurs to protect the mind and emotions from becoming to damaged and making life to unbearable both mentally and emotionally.

People with this disorder will be able to tell you of what they went through mentally after the trauma and if research properly there would be some point depending on how strong they were emotionally in the first place where a disorder occurs and changes the thought process to include PTSD as part of how there mind thinks.

Other disorders also come from something our mind is not able to cope with and in each disorder it is basically telling us what that is and is a simple way to work out the cause of mental illness right across the board. Im no expert on all the symptoms of each disorder,  but the symptoms often give away what the actual problem was in the first place.

Depression is basically thinking negatively and lacking confidence in ones self. So when the mind thinks over and over about ones self in a negative way it effects your emotions and lowers self confidence until you get to a certain level and a disorder occurs. It appears then that you still think like this and even more often but its kind of a set way of thinking and your emotions don’t keep dropping to lower and lower levels from your continued depressed thought. The level you feel is by no way an acceptable level to be feeling but it doesn’t continue any more to slide at such a rate before you had the actual disorder depression. Before you had the disorder your thoughts would of been of constant depressed type things about your self that were going over and over in your mind lowering your emotional strength before you realized or it was determined by a doctor that you have depression. Some one without the constant depressed thought rolling around in there mind and is a happy person will not be able to get depression unless they go through a process where the mind continually thinks about basically a negative outlook general about ones self giving them a bad feeling inside.

Anxiety is basically worry about things to much. To get anxiety the mind has to go through a period of constant worry that is not sustainable to ones emotions until a disorder takes over and while the worry continues and possibly intensifies emotionally your emotions are protected by the disorder from dropping to levels far beyond what the disorder is able to make one feel like.

ADHD is basically not being able to think as there is problems in the way your mind has been taught and you lost confidence to solve lifes puzzles. Your emotions couldn’t handle the loss in confidence in your ability to think properly and a disorder occurred protecting you from what your going through with loss of condfidence, self-esteem, attention span and from being negatively affected from those around you.

And its the same for all disorders. Things happen in life that can affect ones mind to the point where constant thought about something occurs that effects your emotions negatively and a disorder occurs. Every disorder can be accounted for in this way. Its usually something to do with the mind being abused in some way through actions of another person but that a different blog and called abuse.

It also works the other way, when the mind is exposed to positive and new thoughts all the time it makes a person emotional stronger and there life is happy and enjoyable. This occurs when that person does good and has good people affecting them in a way that is positive.

The mind and emotions can only be affected from what they come into contact with or they simply wouldn’t know about it. You can’t think about things you don’t know about. How to reverse what has happened emotionally is also another blog and im sure possible but you need to know the cause if your going to fix the problem.


Everyone has there own personality. Overtime the life we live and the experiences we go through shape our mentality into who we are. Everyone goes through a different life influenced by those who are closest to the most. But I have noticed that people with a certain personality disorder are very similar in how they think about things. It doesn’t matter the age sex or where you are from your mentality becomes similar to those who have the same personality disorder.

I think getting a mental illness means that you have an extension onto your real personality that at times overtakes your own thought. For depression your thoughts are negative about you or your life and anxiety makes you worry about anything and everything. When you emotionally get to weak a personality disorders seems to attach it self to your way of thinking. Once you get this disorder you stay at this constant level of emotional weakness that is not nice and quite low, but it stops you continuing your slide emotionally that would end up in the unbearable category.

The human mind or brain is a pretty amazing thing that can adapt to any kind of life and learn the most amazing things. It can analyse and solve things and is so much more advanced than other species brains.

Human emotions are also an amazing thing that have developed inside of us. They give us a feeling on the inside weather something is good or bad. Things that are good for us will give us a good feeling inside and they make us stronger. They also give you a bad feeling inside when they sense something is bad for us. They get there signals from the thoughts you have with your brain.

So emotions you could say are always trying to do us good and lead us in the best possible path in life as we are supposed to follow the feelings we have inside that feel nice. Mental illness and personality disorders make a person feel bad and to think emotions are always doing us good might be a bit hard to believe if you have one or a few.

But its even more hard to believe that the human mind has this great fault that is out to make our life a living hell. There would be no point of evolution to develop such a great thing like emotions and the mind that have this major flaw. And also give it to those people who seem to have gone through some form of abuse as well. Things in life simply don’t work like that. Every part of our make up has its uses and mental illness does as well. We have just developed as human’s in a direction that doesn’t understand what personality disorders are trying to tell us.

It could be a range of things. First one that humans don’t seem to take any notice of is that its not ok to abuse another person. Its not ok to effect another person life by effecting them either psychically, sexually or emotionally in a negative way. It needs to be realised that as humans we do not react emotionally well to others effecting us and the people that effect others the most and onto mental illness are those that are closest to that person. It needs to be far less accepted in people life that are abused by those they are often dependant on. At present this is just swept under the mat and for those who go through a bad life as a child are ignored and no one held responsible. This is of personal opinion and probably not what mental illness is trying to tell us but if you look at each disorder I think its trying to tell us something.

With depression it’s about having low self esteem and confidence along with negative thoughts that are cyclical and over thinking things. And this is what depression is trying to tell you, fix your self esteem and confidence and clear your mind of thoughts and don’t over think things. Fix your self esteem by being positive and your confidence by not listening to those that effect you, clear your mind by solving what is in your head as thought and to not think about things like abuse that just circle around in your mind.  Think about things that end up in an answer and don’t swirl around in your mind cluttering up your thoughts.

Distract your mind so you don’t have these negative thoughts that you don’t like by doing things in life that don’t allow you to be bored and allow this disorder you have to take over your mind and give you this depressed feeling. Its also telling you to remove any toxic people from your life or at the very least to not have these people affect you. Depression is telling you to fix yourself emotionally or your life is not going to be as enjoyable as it is for others or what you expect.

But people with depression often do the opposite of this and stop doing a lot of things in life as the disorder is not interested. They do less and allow for more stagnant time to be bored and for depression to take over their thoughts. They can also cling to those that are no good for them as other don’t seem to understand them any more and they don’t want to loose everyone. Try to do things that distract your depression and do things to repair your self esteem and confidence and it should lessen the time depression has to be your way of thinking.

Anxiety makes you worry about everything. So that’s what you got to not do. You have to take care of all the things you worry about and face life head on. To not avoid others and constantly worry. Again that means living a full life that doesn’t allow for stagnant thoughts and onto worrying about all life’s problems. If you have anxiety from you continually going into a bad situation that you don’t enjoy such as a toxic person in your life try to remove that problem also from your life. Again do things positive and new and fun to strengthen your emotions and lessen the effects of your anxiety.

But the most important thing is to know that this is an extension on to your mentality and that its trying to tell you to fix yourself by fighting against what it seems to be trying to do to you. That negative and cyclical thoughts or worry is how these disorders became part of you and to change.

Your emotions and your mind are there for you to enjoy your life and always trying to do you good. Listen to them and not your disorder and you will one day get better and rid of these disorders


Mental illness is always going to be too hard to figure out.

Ive been writing this blog for about 6 months now and it revolves around figuring out what is the cause of mental illness. I feel I know the cause and its always how our mind processes some form of abuse that makes us emotionally weak to a level where a personality disorder becomes part of our mentality to protect the mind from getting so weak that it dangers our very survival. I think I know every step of the way and to go into detail would require books of writing. But a lot of the learnings I got to how the mind works and personality disorders and abuse works comes from personal experience or life experience that took me years to understand and if I didn’t go through it then I don’t believe I would of had the interest for one to ever give it thought or the care to want to understand something as complex as mind and mental illness.

To understand that our minds and emotions at birth are virtually completely blank and we have to develop both  mentally and emotionally from what we go through in life and that our steepest periods of learning both emotionally and mentally occur at a time before we can even remember anything is far beyond what anyone is able to take in to there mind and process. That’s because there are millions of things possible that we go through and being flexible enough to determine what things are going to hurt us emotionally and what makes us stronger is way too hard for our minds to do. And when a lot of the issues come from before anyone can recall then its just impossible.

We understand how we work in general and think this is how people work. But some types of personality disorders don’t work like that and can work in reverse to how a normal mind works. But it takes years of being with a personality disorder to understand how they work and to not apply normal logic to them in thinking about how they work. One of the most common ones basically feels good about the suffering of others and a major cause of mental illness. That it targets its own children to suffer and that’s the opposite to how people can think about there parents and from what they have learned through personal experience. And at the same time doesn’t show to up to anyone that there is anything wrong or ever come into contact with mental health. It’s not even possible to believe how this disorder is unless you have been around it for years. That its possible for someone to have no feelings and how that effects those close to it.

There is a reason why there is more research into mental health than you can believe possible and that there has never been the smallest break through into cause or the cure and that’s because its just to hard to understand on so many levels. And that what you learn about mental illness is not even correct and leaves a person researching mental health with a base knowledge of fact that wont take it any where.

Its fine to analyse normal minds and that’s what psychology does and try to help people who don’t have mental illness increase there quality of life and is a field massive in its self. But if your talking about proper mental illness from ADHD to depression, anxiety, all the obsessive compulsive right through to psychopaths then its going to be a case that piles of research will not go anywhere and mental illness will increase as time goes on.

Personality disorders are extremely hard to understand but also the disorders them selves don’t want to be fixed. The people that have them do but the disorder which is like an attachment to the mentality of a person will try and avoid getting help. Like little things like this you can say but unless you have personal experience of seeing this and that’s never going to happen to nearly everyone than how can you genually believe such thing.

Every step of the way might be a dead end to trying to understand mental illness enough to be at a level of thought to be able to help someone with mental illness. its kind of depressing to get so far in thought and see the dead end sign at the end. Im just glad I don’t get depressed and see just moving on as the only option. I never thought that working out something to do with mental illness would go any where anyway but I thought there would be at least information there if anyone ever wanted to look at it or add it to there knowledge but its all too hard. Im not saying it arrogantly either as I think ive got my head around it, but some was from personal experience and in the beginning some of the thought behind it to work things out required the clearest of clear heads and often days to go through what I was working out mostly with no idea where I was going and had the motivation of the kids as there was possible problems for them to feed off, but that went no where as well

Im a terrible writer but I see a few doctors and people with mental illness reading the blog and em nearly embarrassed at how I explain things but I hope they got something off it to make up for the pain of trying to understand what I was getting at. Writing is a great way for the mind to express it self and I needed it going through a tough period of my life but I could never put down my own feeling. I think I can handle them without expressing them out loud but I wouldn’t recommend it


Currently there is no way to fix a mental illness and its still hazy on how you get mental illness. Its one of the most funded areas of government and we could be going backwards in our knowledge and research into this area as mental illness rates go up.

But I think if there was ever some hard core logic applied to the task we can find what ever answers there are possible without any other form of study and research. This is mentality we are talking about here and with all things mental there is nothing to see or touch so research as well can only be from an opinion preferably from someone knowledgable as possible on mental health who can analyse something with very high logic and compare from person to person where differences are pointed out and determined if logically process was used or pre-conceived ideas or beliefs . It sounds simple but it might be impossible.

The people who are in mental health don’t seem to be able to find the solutions that are having any impact and possibly some things taught with in mental health are not correct and undermining the fight to find answers about mental health. Everyone thinks there logical or they wouldn’t think that way if they thought they were not making sense.

This will sound about as arrogant as you possible can be, but I think i’m logical and can logically analyse the mind to determine how we are mentally and onto how you get mental illness and the possibilities of fixing mental illness. My first thought is that someone to agree with such finding who would have to be some what involved in mental health would require a change in what is already believed and that’s not easy to do with someone but at least its a good place to start. There are new discoveries being made all the time in all areas of life except mental health but those within mental health are taught what they know and nothing is experienced in the form of personal experience of being mentally ill. They can only apply what knowledge they have gained through learning and there are millions of people who have tried to solve the mental health pie all to nothing and maybe if the current approach was the way forward then some sort of tiny result that helps the problem would of been made by now.

So i’m going to try and write down a logical process of thought to how the mind works in a human and see where it can go. I will try and use only logic and knowledge from experience with nothing learned from others. There is no point to the exercise. I had an interest in how abuse in children is the main cause of mental illness that started from personal experience. I  entered the world of mental health at 43 and couldn’t believe what I saw.  There is nothing that makes sense to the whole system and it’s not something that is ever going to change and better I focus on something else.  Mentally I don’t think it is the best to focus to much on one thing or you just annoy yourself and everyone else to. There are heaps of things in the world that are not right or true and just what people believe in or have been taught and all of them are of no interest to me and I don’t mind what you believe in as long as it don’t hurt others.

I think its fair to say that where we a brought up will determine how we are culturally. That our mentality will reflect where we are from. You could be from another country and a billion years of ancestors from there and no matter where you were plonked at birth and raised you would know only that as your home. Your mentality would be governed by what you have been through. You will talk the language that you have been taught and you will believe in what you have learned. I think you could say logically that mentally you will reflect how you were raised and what you have learned. Other cultures even from where you originate will be completely foreign to you and some of their beliefs you wont even be aware of net alone feel the same way about. There are hundreds of different religions and ways to be brought up and all seem reasonable to them while you think it doesn’t make sense at all and they will feel the same about your culture. I think its fair to say that ones mentality is governed from what there mind or they have been through. That a human mind works very simple and that it reacts to what it is confronted with and adapts to those surrounds.

Only what experienced or learned will what we be aware of and our mind can only react to what it has encountered. Our mind can react in anyway depending on what it goes through and wont react to what it doesn’t know about or experience. I think it can be assumed even that given the same experience and teaching will result in a very similar out come mentally. There will be differences as there wont even be close to the exact experiences gone through by each person that cause us all to be very different but the end outcome will be our mentality coming from what our mind has been through.

If you have been exposed to aggression and violence you will be used to this and in some way will reflect how you deal with situations while if you have been exposed to patients and calmness you will reflect this. You may be a trained fighter and only ever feel that it  is a sport and it not be part of your mentality. Every little thing you have been exposed to will reflect on your mentality. But  it is scewed heavily to the age you were when you experienced or learned something. At a certain age you are able to use your brain to make opinions on what your brain encounters and that base knowledge you gained from the youngest of ages where learning was the major focus is the more engrained type knowledge and not from what you have been able to work out. Taught young enough you can believe anything and it become part of your knowledge base. Or possible you can be brainwashed into thinking anything. But its also the time we are getting most connected to our surrounds and family.

Personally myself and all my brothers and sister don’t have many beliefs as we were not taught them. We were not taught religion or to hate on it and my only opinions are from what I have had through my own thought and that’s not much. All my life I didn’t know about mental health or met anyone mentally ill and I knew nothing about it. But pretty much my mentality and how I am is what I have experienced with it being heavily scewed to my earliest days. Whilst I am very similar to my brothers and sisters as we had similar up bringings, I was the only one who was not blood related to our mother. I wasn’t loved the same and never had that connection the others do. She is my mother as that all ive ever known but emotionally it reflects how I was treated and there was nothing bad, but its something I have always been aware of.

Very slight differences in what we go through from the earliest of ages make big impacts on us for the rest of our lives. What we are learning in these earlier days before we can possibly remember are what is engrained in our mind as our mentality for the rest of our lives.

A lot of our emotional strength may come from the early interactions from our parents before we are even aware of what we have been through. But no matter what we have been through our emotions and mentality have to come from something that they have encountered or they simply can not be even aware of it and we all work the same, not including those with disabilities due to defects I guess.

I think its logical to say that mentality can only come from what experienced and that mentality reacts to what ever experienced. And that we all experience different type up bringing so we are all different.

But some people who are very similar mentally are people with personality disorders. When you have a personality disorder it seems like there is an attachment to your personality that is in a way a much more set way of thinking and those with personality disorders can act in very much the same way. Now this is not known so much but I learned it from personal experience that people raised by a parent of a particular personality disorder end up the same mentally.

Online I was in a support group for those who had been through narcissist abuse. I was able to help a few people out and for some reason decieded to check out some other support groups for those with mental illness. It was a group for depression and anxiety where people post what there thinking and others comment and try to support them. You can see that people with depression and anxiety are very similar and that a mental illness is clearly a disorder doing the thinking for them and not possible that people from all walks of life can be so similar in there thought.

But every so often there was a post always from a girl that was completely different and they were in real bother mentally with at least half a dozen mental illness that were completely different to the rest. They were something I could relate to and what I knew about and that was narcissist personality disorder. Basically they were in a bad way mentally and were looking for answers and psychiatry wasn’t able to help them. They would all write something very similar describing there situation to perfection in about 200 words and were super desperate to find out what was going on with there minds as they had got Major depression disorder on top of all the others, but this was too much for them. About twenty women I must of chatted on line to about them being narcissistically abused from day one and all conversations went the same way. It was like I was talking to the same person each time and they all had a similar lot of mental illnesses. Each one would find out what they needed and then be off and wouldn’t here from them again. They had all been through the same emotionally and all ended up the same with all the same illnesses. They were basically the nicest kindest people on the planet whilst having the most mental illnesses and they turned out that way from what they had been through. But emotionally they are treated like scum and are called black sheep and there emotions are weak and end up with all kinds of mental illness. They all lived good lives with families and jobs and had everything but no matter what they did they had all types of mental illness and couldn’t do anything more to fight it as all there life they had had to fight it. They were super strong and logical but from basically being hated and out cast from there parent they were emotionally weak and it caused them to all react the same and onto many mental illnesses.

It is where I first started to see that what you go through emotionally as the cause of your mental strength or weakness. Some people go through things emotionally and there not even aware of it and its not seen as abuse but certain things you go through emotionally as a child can make you weak and subseptable to mental illness later. Especially things like depression and anxiety and other disorders.

I ended up joining all the groups and the type of mental illness in them reflected mostly that they had been through long term abuse as a child and the type of abuse reflected in the personality disorder they had.

Now for me the world is out there researching mental illness and not researching the actual people with illness. They are looking at what they can see visually in the mind and there has never been an image taken of a mental illness nor of some ones mind.

Your mentality surely has to be what you have been through or its not possible for you to have such thought. There has never been any imagery taken of the mind and it simple doesn’t exist and that out mentality is our thoughts. We clearly also have emotions that when weak or if we have been abused cause certain mental illness and the rest or what we are trying to work out is the emotional abuse or things missed emotionally by children that cause mental illness when there young and onto later in life as well. There are disorders including common mental illness that have an effect on a childs emotions and there not able to grow strong and mental illness results.

If we are ever going to work this out and help them then its all bout trying to identify what you have been through and how to combat this later in life. Having maybe missed out emotionally certain things when we were at a given age changes us emotionally and can explain all sorts of disorders and illnesses. its not enough to be able to work out there was some issue with inconsistent parenting or some broad thing someone has been through or you wont be able to solve any mental illness. There needs to be people who know how emotions work and can work out what happened and then on to see if its possible that what happened emotionally can be substituted later in life so the person gets out of mental illness.

What people don’t realise is the increase in mental illness and how big this area is. If its not the biggest challenge we face as a human race it soon may well be.  I think I should say sorry if you read this. Im sure it was too all over the place to understand but if you got something out of it then great… Writing is my mental illness.


DEPRESSION, what is it, how did I get it, can I fix it ….why why why

When your trying to fix something that is difficult, it helps when you know all about the problem.  But what is out there in terms of what depression is, how you get depression and how you beat depression is all a bit hazy to say the least. Basically we don’t even know how you get depression and that’s not a great starting point if your willing to try and beat depression.

I feel I know how you get depression but that is not going to give you enough confidence to believe me. Its different to anything that you may have learned as the causes of depression and you will have your own beliefs. Once you believe in something it is very hard for you to change your view or beliefs as that is what you have learned and that’s just how the human brain works. Your taught something and you generally believe in it. For example people in India believe the cow is sacred and something to do with it being a god and they don’t eat it. While people In the west don’t know what the hell there on about and think it is great to eat. People in India think this as that is what they have learned from others and the people who never learned this don’t even give it much thought as there been chowing down on cow all there lives and just see them in paddocks doing next to nothing with a blank look on there face.

So the first challenge for me to be able to help someone with depression is to be able to communicate information that you can relate to that outweighs your beliefs in areas of how you got depression and how you feel your depression works inside your mind. Like a trust that this person knows what he is talking about and the way forward may be at least consider this information due to it being relatable to my circumstances over what else I have heard or even what my current beliefs are on the issue.

I don’t have depression but I feel I know how it works. I’m sure I know how you get it but I cant say I know how you fix it. I can only assume I can possibly lead you on the right track to fix it as I know how you get it and how this disorder works in the minds of people and I’ve just worked out that certain things should be able to fix the problems you face.

Knowing how depression works means that I know this disorder doesn’t make it easy for you to try and get help to want to fix it. You don’t want depression as the thoughts it gives you from your mind don’t make you feel good about things and yourself, but are hesitant to part take in things or listen to advice about what might help. Firstly this may be because you feel that you are not understood and someone without depression doesn’t get what its like to have depression. And that for sure is true, unless you have it, people don’t understand that you are virtually not in control all the time of what you think in your mind and simply cant snap out of it. But also depression is like this thing. Its a mental disorder living in you mind that can take over your thoughts and like everything in this life it does not want you to get help as that may mean it is gone and doesn’t exist anymore.

Ive seen it many times where a person seems to be reaching out for help and when the help is there then the person disappears and is not willing. Its for sure something that you have to be determined to do and not let the depression disorder get in the way of your true thoughts of wanting to get well and live a good life mentally.  More than likely you were not looking for help in the first place and just wanted to talk to someone who understood what you were going through which is fair enough and how everyone is.

What I think someone with depression should be able to relate to though is that your not always in control of your thoughts and that you cant help that you feel low about your self and have confidence issues. And its not a situation where you can just snap out of it or go get help. Your more in a situation where you cant control your thoughts at time that make you feel low and try to manage the situation the best way you can and others cant understand why your thoughts are so negative. They might not even feel that negative and you feel that your thoughts are totally rational and the way you see things is correct. But I can tell you that this is the thoughts of depression that have taken over your real thoughts at times and depression is very negative and hurts your self esteem.

Try to understand those that don’t understand you. They cant possibly understand how you feel as its a disorder doing the thinking for you at times and this way of thinking is not a way how others think. When you are negative about something it doesn’t make you feel good emotionally. When your discussing depression with someone that might want to help your take on what your trying to describe is negative and hurts there emotions to hear such talk. They will try and get you to think about things from how they feel and you will think that they don’t understand you. And they don’t and will avoid you or avoid the talk of being negative as its something that people in general try and stay away as it doesn’t make them feel good inside and there always trying to stay positive and your depression is being TOXIC in effect to them.

I think people don’t understand someone with depression, but more over someone with depression doesn’t understand that this is a disorder that is an attachment of your real self and way of thinking and that its the disorder making you think like this and at times when your not feeling depressed is when that is the real you and that the disorder is distracted from your thoughts but waiting to take over again when your mind becomes idle.

The main thing someone should be able to relate to when discussing depression that seems to be virtually forgotten by professionals and literature is how you got it. People don’t get depression for no reason, there is always something in life that is not right and its this that plays on the mind of someone and eventually your mind spirals down and into depression. No one is happy and carefree in life and then gets hit with depression disorder. Life doesn’t work like that. Its when you become weak emotionally due to some sort of situation that your mind didn’t enjoy and you got bad feeling on your insides and this is your emotions making you feel bad trying to tell you that this kind of attack is not something you should be exposed to.

You should be able to relate to something in your life that made you feel emotionally weak and loose confidence. Someone caused you to think negative about your self and over time you ended up with depression. Your mind become confused and you were thinking negatively and like then same thing over and over and now your got depression. That your mind has been abused in some way.

You should be able to relate to this as that how you get depression. Your emotions get to a level of weakness where a disorder takes over as the human body tries to protect it self from going even further down emotionally. Emotions get effected from thoughts from the mind, If your mind encounters a situation where it continually is confronted with negativity or a person being put down then this type of thoughts spin around in the mind effecting you emotionally and making you weak. You drop confidence because the thoughts in your mind are negative about your self and your mental well being deteriates to low levels. Unless you got depression from before you remember you should really be able to relate to having been through something bad emotionally or for some a life of straight up mental pain. Mental abuse or any type of abuse especially when your a child and your emotions are trying to develop wil make you weak and onto mental illness depending on the type of abuse suffered.

People with other mental illness have all been through other types of abuse that effected them emotionally. You may have more than one mental illness yourself and that will be due to your mind enduring different types of abuse. It can be even psychical or sexual abuse, it doesn’t matter, it is all felt through the mind and your emotions get there messages from the mind and if there not got thoughts then you get emotionally weak.

People with schitzophenia have all been psychically abused,  sexual abused people all have borderline personality disorder and people with anxiety all have had there emotions put into a situation that they did not enjoy over and over that they worried about and now worry about ever thing. Emotions for everyone work the same and if your got mental illness then its because your been put through something in real life.

Understanding and being able to relate to what was the cause of getting depression and how you would of spiriled down to this depth emotionally is the key as it what going to be required to get out of depression. You need to get emotionally strong.  You need to know what are the things that make you weak and limit them in your life and you need to know what are the things to make you strong. The first starting point is to know that negative will make you feel bad and positive will make you feel good.

The next most important thing to know is that your emotions get there information from your mind and that negative thoughts onto negative cyclical thoughts hit your emotions over and over again and how depression works sometimes and that a way needs to be thought of how to limit the times when the mind does this to you.

I was going to go into how this is done but it is such a big topic and will leave it for another blog, but there is a lot of thought and determination that would go into getting out of depression. everyone has been through different stuff and each person has to get better in there own way. Understanding the why and how you get depression over time can give your mind the tools to be able to think along the lines of how you can reverse what has happened. Its not easy and what you been through was not easy, but the only way is positive and living with depression is always going to be the hardest thing you do and the easy way might be to fix it. I have some good ideas of some of the things that may help and all focus on the disorder and a life where there is no abuse and your mind can think of new things and be free….



On first thought there can be no positives to having a mental illness but it has always been a thought of mine that it must serve some purpose. Humans have been created so well and every part of us seems to have some purpose that is benifical. Our brain it seems like is the best part of us compared to all other species. It doesn’t make sense that it just gets a mental illness and makes your life a misery after that. Mental illness also works the opposite to how emotions work. Our emotions are in a way like our human instinct. They give us a feeling inside of what’s good or bad that we are experiencing. They make us enjoy nice things and warn us from things that do us no good by giving you a feeling that you don’t enjoy.

I’m certain that emotions are only there to do us good and when emotions are low in strength then mental illness is likely. So for me it has always been a case of figuring out what benefit mental illness has to out mind and like all things how does it benefit us in our will for survival.

At first I thought maybe its like a warning system to tell the mind and others that there emotions were under attack and were spiralling down to level that were dangerous and its time to fix your mind or your life situation that is causing your mind to be in pain. Like a system where a mental illness would make you stop and evaluate your situation due to the severity of the pain to your mind and you supposed to fix yourself emotionally or risk further mental illnesses that are even more servere.

But this didn’t really make that much sense and it seems like the type of mental illness one gets reflects the type of abuse they have been through whether its psychical, mental , emotional or sexual.  And also what kind of human has been made from the billions of years of evolution that would have it that a life time of abuse is also hit with mental illness on top to really have this person having the worst life possible. Nothing is as sinister as that in this world and is the opposite of emotions doing us good.

There is a reason somewhere why mental illness or more over personality disorder take over our mind when our emotions and our mind are subject to abuse and being emotionally weak.

Im guessing a little bit and that all it can be but the intensity on the mind from some sort of abuse as a child often from someone there dependant on must be so intense and hurt emotions so hard that there quality of life mentally drops so low that a disorder steps in where life stays at this extreme low level but doesn’t drop even lower than this level. Its like once you get a personality disorder that everyone with this disorder is of similar low emotionally and it may stop going to depths that the mind cant handle.

Why this might be the case as disorders like psychopathy and narcissism that are caused by the most extreme forms of abuse completely protect the person’s emotions by giving them a positive feeling about themselves that they are great and complete loss of feeling to others. They don’t have other disorders like depression effecting them and while being the most weak emotional people there are they don’t feel this to the pain anymore of those with other mental illness.

There is a reason for mental illness, it happens to those who have gone through abuse and there is no way that the human mind has been built to destroy certain people. One day we will work out the cause of mental illness and start to understand how these disorders are within our mind. We will understand the purpose of mental illness and then on how to fix someone with mental illness. It will all make sense somehow. Until then I guess it will be much of the same research that doesn’t go anywhere with not even the bare minimum of understanding how some sort of abuse usually during early life is the main cause of getting a mental illness. Its a case for some that they were abused and now mentally ill with a system that discriminates against them and doesn’t understand any part of there mental illness nor the people that tend to abuse. There seen as crazy by the general population and for the life of some its tough from the start and then there blamed for not turning out normal. Its a bit harsh but for me understanding how abuse causes mental illness is something that is known but mental health chooses to ignore it and look for anything but that as a reason for mental illness and personality disorders