Im going to explain in the most simplex way I can that can be hopefully understood as the cause of why a child can get the disorder ADHD. I think I know how the mind and emotions work of a young child and in short is a breakdown in the confidence of the mind being able to think and solve life’s little puzzles that a child comes across. I think you have to try and put yourself in the shoes of a young child and think of how they are developing at a rapid rate both emotionally and what they are learning and how you learn things from that young age.
A young child learns things very fast, but there starting at a point that is pretty much from zero. The basic things that an adult can do and thinks of as just knowledge are all completely foreign to a young child. Learning the thousands of little things that as an adult come completely natural started off as having to learn lots of the basics from before an age that we can even remember. Before the age of 4 or the time we remember anything would be our steepest learning curve of our life both for our brain and our development emotionally.
With in mental health its not known the cause of ADHD or any personality disorder but I feel like I have discovered the cause and its always something to do with our emotions being weak in a certain way depending on the mental illness. And how do our emotions get weak. Answer. From the thoughts and signals it receives from our brain that are negative or confusing to a person and puts there emotions in distress and potensial problems of mental illness.
A brain works the same in a child as an adult just that a child’s brain is learning far more things and from a wide range of topics. It gradually is learning the basics of all things foreign to them that would number in the thousands of things to learn at all the same time. To learn something you generally have to start off with the complete basics and the easiest thing first. Then step by step you go further and further until you get to a certain stage where you are able to for example know not to cry when you don’t get what you want.
But to get to this stage requires a lot of learning and understanding of many concepts that all take time to learn. From the language you speak and to understanding the words in it right the way through to forgetting the first things you actually learned as a new born child and that was to cry and you will gain attension and get what you want and that was probably food or to be just held by your parent. Crying and being held by your parent was not only something that you learned to do but also that it satisfied you emotionally and was the beginings of your emotional development. You cry, your parent comes to you and you feel good that your being comforted and the good feelings you feel are your emotions liking the fact that you have been comforted from your parent who is in essence your life line to even survival onto your everything and are totally dependent on them.
Learning things in a step by step manner requires one thing to be learned and understood before the next thing you learn or that will not be understood. An example of how we learn things that we can relate to is mathematics. You have to learn numbers then addition, subtraction, multiply, divide then on to fractions, bigger numbers, percentages and many more things until you get up to being able to calculate the interest on your bank account for example. But what happens to some in this learning process is that for some reason one of the steps was not learned properly and understood before moving on to the next and you have got up to learning how to calculate interest and you cant do it because some of the concepts being put to you are not understood. You brain loses interest in this type of thing and your ability to concentrate on what is being taught diminishes. You also start to loose confidence in your ability to learn and solve what life has put in front of you and your brain shuts down and wonderers off into areas of thought that you at least understand. Somehow you have to go back and learn the steps you have not yet understood or you are never going to go on with further learnings in this area, you fall behind, you miss out on all the praise that goes with learning things and getting them right and your confidence drops, as well as your emotional strength and your attession to be able to sit and think and learn. Your condfidence in you ability to think and solve also drops and may be confronted with negative type talk directed at you as your not doing well. This makes you retract further and loose interest more in the learning and a big cycle of this all keeps occurring and none of it addresses the fact that you simply didn’t learn all the steps properly and now you don’t understand something.
That a simple as I can put it example for mathematics and that’s all things for a much older child who may even be able to express themselves and say they don’t understand something. But when your young there are thousands of little things you are learning and many things you don’t understand. Your always thinking why and what for. Your brain is like a sponge and soaking up everything the best it can and constantly learning. If you don’t understand something there is often something else that takes your mind away from this and onto something else, but over time if there are lots of little steps missed over a range of lots of things you have learned start to catch up around the age of 4 and 5 and if you haven’t been taught the right way from a range of possible reasons you get to a point in your life where you not able to think about a lot of things and what is being taught to you is often something you don’t understand and you can go into this spiral of losing confidence in you self and your ability to think and solve and your attension span suffers along with you getting negative feedback or getting in trouble all the time while all your doing is your best and that’s not getting what you require emotionally from the people your dependant on still for everything. When you loose attension span and your ability to think about what you need to be learning and a less willingness of those that you are dependant on for your learning and entertainment creates larger and larger times for you to be bored along with longer time for your mind to be dormant and your brains doesn’t get the practice it needs to be able to continually solve life little problems. You loose even your ability to be able to quickly switch on your brain to think about what is being now taught. You can get into a rut of doing the wrong thing as you haven’t learnt what not to do properly and get constantly in trouble along with negative type learning to stop doing this and that along with reduced praise for doing things good . Also a parent whom your dependant on losing patients with you and basically everything working against a little child who can only still do his best in the circumstances and doesn’t understand what is happening overall because they are still to young. All there doing is what they best know how to do from what they have learned over the course of there life and its added up to them now being at risk from getting disorder like ADHD.
Emotions react when they get strained enough in this way and for your body to defend it self from further spiralling down and feeling that you cant endure as a child a disorder like ADHD to defend itself from going further down. Its a tough break for a kid and not his or her fault but as the person who now is not learning good and often misbehaving they are on the end of all the negative feedback that goes along with someone who misbehaves and doesn’t do that well at things. Im also a bit hesitant in a lot of situations to put the blame on a parent as well. How can one be blamed when the reason for ADHD is not even established by professionals and all very complex how disorders work. Along with a fast paced changing environment with a lot of parents being more and more busy to often be able to survive and do the best for family. It can become a loose loose situation with the poor child having a disorder that there is no cure for and suffering throughout there life with parents also suffering from a family life not as ideal as they would like or can handle with no solutions from psych or mental health to what was even the cause onto the cure for them and just having to battle through it all the best they can is all a tough pill to swallow for everyone.
I got my boy early on into him looking like he had ADHD and never even knew what was wrong at the time. He just had no confidence, ideas, friends and couldn’t even think for himself along with misbehaving is what I thought he had a the time. But I focused on him and taught him things right and praised him and took the time for him and he was good again in no time. I think that is all you can do is to teach them right and praise them for doing the right things and lead by example and limit the discipline side of it with anything negative. A child will all ways follow your example and try to get encouragement eventually and is the best way to go anyway with a child.