These days everyone’s going to the gym. You think its because there trying to be fit and look good and that’s one of the main reason’s but I don’t think its the main one. I think what keeps bringing people back to the gym day after day is something there not even aware of and that’s that it feels good emotionally and when you feel good on the inside everything in life feels good.

Lets look at what you really getting from a gym workout and how it effects you emotionally. On the surface it looks like all your getting is a better body but your getting so much more and I think this is what keeps bringing you back where you put yourself through pain and for some is there addiction in life.

First lets look at how emotions work. Your emotions are that feeling inside you get telling you if something is good or bad. Emotions get there information from what goes through your mind or your thoughts. When your emotions get thoughts that are good or positive then they give off a feeling inside you that you enjoy and is the basis of what makes us tick. When things feel good it encourages us to do that sort of activity and when emotions feel good it gives us mental strength of person.

Going to the gym, yes makes you look good but your emotions don’t care how you look they are what’s inside. But they love things positive and you looking at yourself and thinking with your mind positive things makes you feel good on the inside, Having people look at you more and getting complements are all things your emotions enjoy and positive stuff. Having your mind exposed to nice thoughts hits your emotions and they enjoy it.

You also expose your mind to a whole new massive learning process for it to think about, all the diet and science of how a body transforms is a big area of learning and your emotions enjoy the feeling of your mind thinking of new and interesting things. Anything new and interesting is good for your mind and hence your emotions. What they don’t like is the same old thoughts racing around in your head from being bored or thinking about negative things that easily creep into peoples minds when there mind is not active enough.

Giving your mind a lot to think about is also a good thing. Emotions love the feeling of hard work and in your mind you are proud of what you are achieving and you feel this on the inside. Your day is filled with an activity you know is benifical and the whole gym process from getting ready to back to life takes a few hours. Your day is being filed with positive activity that you mind and emotions enjoy. They don’t like being bored or doing some timewasting activity. When you mind is active and learning it is healthy and again takes away down time where you can have less positive thoughts or over worry things that you have in life.

Often as you become more educated with nutrition as its a constant topic of conversation in gyms you begin to expose your self to better foods. You feel better psychically from this, but your emotions get all the feeling from your thought where you this positive feel is on your mind.

You are also part of a big social setting where you meet and greet lots of people all with a similar interest. Meeting people exposes your brain and emotions to more new and interesting things that you may talk or joke about. All this is being felt by your emotions and giving you strength as a person. When you feel good you think positive and thinking positive means you look good and this whole upward spiral of things occur and it has you feeling good all over.

When your day is full and mind is exhausted from all the activity it tends to be able to sleep well. When you sleep well you get well rested and wake up feeling good for a new day. Because you are strong on the inside and positive you go into that day with a feeling of how good life is starting again at looking in the mirror and your emotions getting something positive in thought from your brain. So you might think that your going back to the gym so you can look good but your emotions don’t care how you look and only care about how you feel and there dragging you back there time after time as its the feeling they give you that have you wanting more and more of that.



rrrrThis is how to fix a mental illness. Im not saying its possible to achieve the end goal. I think it is possible  to see the way to actually fix any disorder that exists though.  There are a lot of variable that need to be defined in a new way to even get an understanding of how to fix a mental illness.

The two most important concepts are emotions and thoughts. When you have a thought in your head you get a feeling inside. This is your emotions telling you if the thought you had is good or bad for you. If the feeling is good you get a strengthening of your emotions and a bad feeling will weaken your emotions. People who are strong emotionally are characterised with a life where they have had there thoughts being mostly positive. A good life from an early age develops a person emotions to be strong and able to handle occasional negative thoughts. On the flip side someone weak emotionally will be characterised with a life of too many negative thoughts weakening them emotionally with occasional positive thoughts providing relief from there suffering of feeling weak emotionally.

Possibly it is best explained by your childhood. Lets say that is from the age of 0 to 18years old. I had a good child hood. Im 44 now and every thought of my life as a child is a good thought. Sure there were moments or things that happened that would of effected me negatively but are so out weighed by the positive that its impossible for me remember them as bad times and only have good feelings of my childhood. Now put all these positive thoughts over my life time against a child who had a violent upbringing for example. Remembering things like laying in your bed scared out of your brain un able to sleep or even make sense of it all as the thoughts you have when your mind thinks about your past will be a constant negative feel you will have inside emotionally making you feel weak emotionally.

While your awake your brain is constantly thinking about something on some level. It would be millions of thoughts. I estimate up until the age of 42 my brain would of had 10 million positive thoughts versus half a million negative thoughts and I was very strong emotionally and basically never had a bad day in my life. Those negative thoughts were nothing super intense and I was way to strong emotionally for them to be an issue anyway. Reverse that equation with a child from a violent upbringing and magnify those negative thoughts with a 100 time magnitude and feel how a person emotions would of taken such a beating negatively that you would be emotionally so weak that allows for some type of mental illness or many to be encountered. Emotionally strong people don’t get mental illnesses, its only for people who have had negative thoughts on a level that weakened emotions to a certain level that a disorder presented itself as a way of protecting them against there own mind destroying themselves emotionally. Children who had violent upbringings often have various mental illness like ADHD, depression, anxiety and schitizophrenia amongst others. Simply put a human is not able to emotionally go through adversity as a child and develop strong emotions due to having negative thoughts of there life constantly making them emotionally weak. Emotions simply do not work like that. You go through something bad and it effects your emotions and that’s just how they work.

It doesn’t have to be something as serious as violence. Something as simple as a parent not being encouraging enough or a bit negative will cause an emotions in a child to be exposed constantly to something negative and making them weaker emotionally. Weaker emotions can spiral downward with constant negative thoughts they are easily had when there are negative things to think about of the past. A person may even be able to remember a childhood they didn’t enjoy and cant see that anything even bad happened to them in there childhood. Maybe they had depression from an early age and cant even know why. But the answer is simple always. For some reason your mind had negative thoughts on a level that made you emotionally weak to the point where you took on emotionally depression disorder. Now its hard not to have negative thoughts as the depression has these thoughts for you weather you like it or not and turning this around might be or seem like mission impossible.

But over the last little while due to a bit of bad luck you could say, i’ve had more negative thoughts about issues that my brain is not able to cope as there are a lot of negatives and emotionally I am getting weaker. Every negative thought im aware of and spend most of my days now trying to distract myself with things that don’t allow me to just think about all the negativity that im going through. Its nothing I can control and just put out of my mind, its just something i’ve got to go through and hope I get through it.

Without going into the whole long story, I was basically diagnosed with a delusion disorder where I believed my ex-partner is a malignant narcissist. You could say that there not the nicest thing to have a relationship with and can make up things that other people including psychiatrist believe and you end up on anti-psychotic medication that is compulsory and has a side effect of servere anxiety that gives you constant negative thoughts and worries in life where I have to literally try to spend most of my time distracting myself from negative thoughts, mainly about the medication that is hurting me emotionally so much.   Going from being strong emotionally straight into anxiety disorder is a hard jump to have to go through. Im having all these negative thoughts and worry’s about this ridiculous situation I find myself in instead of being able to go through the normal thought processes of my real life drama’s that I would of been able to cope with as I was strong enough emotionally.

Im able to feel this weakening of myself emotionally and basically have got to hang on and not get to emotionally weak before I get off this medication and able to repair myself emotionally. But its made me aware of how emotions work and I think they work the same for everyone.

But this is the key or the theorem in how to fix a mental illness.  For those with some sort of disorder are you able to somehow be able to stop your mind having thoughts that weaken your emotions and turn it all around and get strong emotionally. Im not sure how possible that is when you got some type of disorder in a way doing the negative thinking for you on top of being emotionally weak and a past that has your mind remembering bad times is not a way to get emotionally strong.

I guess I see a fairy tale type solution of being able to fix a mental illness of developing some sort of life style that has a positive direction and so interesting that your distracted from whatever mental illness on such a scale that doesn’t allow for your mental illness to do the thinking for you or for you to remember  things in the past that hurt you emotionally and get constant new positive thoughts from a lifestyle that some how miraculessly comes around that is of constant excitement and positivity while being able to un confuse your mind that has all these built up thoughts and remember such bad times that are impossible to forget as the overall theory to how you fix a mental illness or a disorder.  Not saying its possible but I guess anything along these lines is the way to at least feel better. For me its hang on to my hat time and try not to fall to hard.  Writing is a distraction for me and allows for me to think clearly and a break from the negative thoughts that is my new life that im desperately trying to avoid.


How to fix your mental illness. Here is a quick example for Depression

I will use depression as a simple example but the principle will be the same. When you need to fix something, the best way is often to know exactly what the problem is and then have a plan that fixes the problem. Also how you got the problem and what is needed so you don’t get this problem again.

Currently in mental health or in this example none of these questions can be answered and as a result there is no way to fix any mental illness. I’m not even sure there is a plan besides taking medication which does seem to work to a degree but doesn’t fix anything. I will try and answer all the problems hear that might give you some answers to help you try and fix your mental illness.

The problem is you have depression. So what is depression? Depression is a disorder that makes you think in a negative way about things in general. What will fix the problem? Remove the disorder from your personality by repairing your emotions? How did you get it? You got depression because your emotions were at a low level of strength that was declining and a disorder appeared as a backstop point that your emotions could not drop below to protect you from getting to weak emotionally. How do you not get this problem again? Keep emotionally strong and be aware of what are the things that can effect you positively and negatively.

This is a lot of things to digest from where you may be at. And if you have depression you might not be able to think in a completely rational manner that allows you to get the answers to all the problems thrown up here that will put you in the best positison for you to be able to fix your mental illness.

I will try and pile it all together into a succession of answers that may be different to your beliefs or what you know. They are all questions your brain probably wants to know and when you understand what the problems are more sometimes you can think up your own way to fix yourself which will be more suited to you than just a general look into how you fix mental illness. Understand that a brain can only solve your problems in life when it has enough information that is correct to use so it can have the required level of thought that will find an answer that you are capable of achieving. It may take a while even but I think it is best to look at fixing mental illness more from a stand point of you heading in the right direction mentally or your emotions getting gradually stronger until you reach the point that a disorder no longer needs to be part of your make-up.

It may-be one of the hardest things to understand that depression is a disorder that is this kind of set way of thinking that attaches itself to your personality and not the real you. That it occurred for a reason and that was to protect you from declining to far along a path you were heading emotionally that would of made you feel much worse that being in depression and life being harder than what you presently know it to be.

You may not be in a position to know or remember when you got depression but it would of been something to do with something that was effecting your emotions in a negative way. Your emotions get effected from messages it receives from your brain in the way of thoughts and that the thoughts you were having were negative and most likely cyclical effect where your emotions kept getting struck over and over from the negative thoughts and lowering the level of you emotionally until you reached a point where depression set in.

This point where depression sets in is like a stronger warning to you to repair your self emotionally that the usual small warning that your emotions are constantly giving you from each thought that you have with your brain that are guiding you on the best path through your life. Try to understand how this feeling you get inside when you experience something effects you with a positive or negative feel. This is your emotions that are purely reactionary to what they go through in your life and how the feeling of thinking the same negative thing feels in you is the best way I can describe emotions.

But also understand how getting to a point where you are thinking over and over about something that is making you feel bad is also stopping you from experiences positive things in your life as your brain is pre-occupied in its current thought that is going no where and only lowering you emotionally.  That to stop thinking the same thought is as easy as going and experiencing something else to get your mind from this same thought as a solution and not just trying not to think about an issue you have.  To understand that your brain is always going to think about something, and you need to expose yourself to things that will have you thinking about new and interesting things instead of negative things that may be present in your life.

There is generally something or even more likely someone that is effecting you and you need to find a solution so that doesn’t effect you and have you thinking about something said, that your brain goes over and over effecting you so much. Try and understand how certain things being said or that you experience just make your brain think about them because its not something you are able to solve in your mind because they may not be true or they are just words or opinions that have an negative effect on you causing you to think about them and experiencing prolong feelings of negativity and missing out on positive thought. Try to lead your life in a way where you think about positive things and things where your mind is able to have a thought and come up with an answer or something you are able to act on instead of just thinking about it or worrying about it. For some also straight up be aware if someone around you is basically a toxic person and constantly effecting you emotionally.

This might mean not being involved involved in your life or if that’s not possible then try to process there words in a different way that doesn’t effect you emotionally. It can help to know that the reasons you may be thinking about things and not able to get them out of your mind is because they are just ones opinions or thoughts on something that your brain isn’t able to rationalise and giving you this thoughts that you cant get out of your mind. That it cant rationalise it because they are not true and you need to think about something else and distract yourself from this in some way.

I think it is also important if you have depression disorder to understand it is an attachment disorder from your true personality that is what needs to be removed. And that it will be giving you negative thoughts when your brain is idle and not experiencing something in life. That the way to stop the disorder from effecting you emotionally is to distract it from being able to take over your thought process by doing more things in life, hence giving it less and less time to be in control of your life and more time experiencing other thing that will effect you in a positive way. They will virtually be anything that you experience that is not negative in nature that allows for you to be in a state of thought that you feel is positive. If you are able to go through a period or live a life where you don’t give you depression the opportunity to effect you emotionally and able to repair your emotions mainly through living a life where your brain mainly process thought that is new or positive is the way out of depression.

If you are able to experience this and see how repairing your emotions while limiting the time for negative thought gives you a feeling inside that is better than overthinking negative thoughts then this is also going to protect you from going back into depression.

Another factor with depression is confidence. Try to do things that give you more confidence and a big part of confidence is confidence in the way you think. You need to feel that the your way of thinking is going to fix the problem and that you do know what your doing and be able to re-assure yourself if doubt creeps in by way of knowing the process that you are going through and that is how emotions work and you are targeting them as it is the problem at hand. Also know that there are going to be lulls in your progression and that it is only natural to experience ups and downs and that you will come out of each down and not to worry about that or to take action and have a paln to distract yourself in times that you might get down.

To know certain things you are able to do if you are thinking poorly that always stop this. It might be something as simple as surfing the web or keeping busy cleaning something or taking care of the issue on your mind.

Another attitude to take into a process of fixing mental illness is to be able to turn negative thoughts into positive thoughts. For example this might seem like an impossible task to do or you could look at it in the way that its just an easier life to live and staying in depression is the hard way to live life.

People often say to plan a lot of the day as well. This just gets you moving and not able to just think and not do things. Have a routine if that works for you and have a range of things that you can also do that take up a lot of your time and get you experiencing something new. Like going to the gym or cooking something new and fresh where you are able to go out and get what you need and spend some time cooking something and experiencing something you enjoy that wasn’t easy and made in a good state of mind with music on for example is something that comes to mind or watching shows that are funnier than maybe some current affair show that may have a negative spin on stories. It’s more up to the person. Possible the best idea is something that keeps you occupied and your brain active for long periods that you can immerse yourself in like a game or similar on a computer like the way you see people on there phones at every possible moment, see if there is something that just keeps you distracted when you have time to think if you are likely to fall into negative thought every time you have idle time. Or like me I write what is on my mind as I’ve now got way to much time on my hands and get bored and agitated when I got nothing to think about.

Lastly I think its important to know that we are all built emotionally the same and you have been through something where you have learned this negative way of thinking from possible someone that would of been best encouraging you instead of what happened and that you now have just got to repair the damage that was done and that its all mental. And that when something is all mental then its your brain that has to do the work and that is via your thoughts and your current way of thinking has been taught to you in a way that is not positive enough and you have to adjust it by yourself in order to head in the right direction and a negative way of thinking is not the way and positive thoughts are the more rational way of looking at things.

Hope that helps someone!



My blog is about solving some things in mental health that have never been documented before. I know how you get mental illnesses right through to how you recover. So who am I? How come I  think I have solved something as big and important as mental health.

Im Neil from Sydney Australia, and yes I have worked out some things in mental that may or may not be discovered one day. I went through a variety of things and was able to work out how the mind works. For sure no one has gone through what I have to be even able to work it all out in the past and will never happen again. I will describe what happened from the very start and talk about all things relevant.

I had a good child hood and good at school, despite giving it no effort. I was the top at maths from the start and just always like numbers. I was poor at English and have no creative side. I think and always have in terms of mathematics. By that I don’t think about things that cant be solved and don’t like the feeling of thinking about the same thing over and over. My head has always been clear this way and have enjoyed the feeling of being clear headed and emotionally strong. I have always been happy and was never abused and at the age of 42 didn’t know about mental illness or any part of that field.

The only thing I had go wrong in my life was a gambling addiction for 10 years from the age of 18. I tried to get over it many times but was only able to when I really got to the bottom of the issue and fixed my life up and haven’t gambled since with out even trying not to. Since then if I have a problem I just take care of it on the spot or nearly die trying to. I don’t think about things and I just do them. I don’t worry about anything.

After a few years of being with my ex partner and mother of my kids, I started to see there was something seriously wrong with her and it ended up being the worst disorder there is known to man. She had just taken the kids away and now I have a real problem on my hands. I didn’t feel like there going to mentally safe with her and its always been something so important to me, so I put in a huge effort to try and expose her disorder and get the kids safe.

I tried and I tried to prove she had this disorder but nothing worked, I also have the mental abuse she was doing to them as she filmed it all in secret. I would go through the video’s many time trying to piece together what she was doing and how this causes mental illness. I would be the first person ever to have such video. I also start to learn about mental health and other illness through support groups on facebook. I had no mental health knowledge previously and was able to get all information from people with disorders right from ADHD/dep/anx all the way through to psychopaths and had no pre-concived thought on how you get mentally ill to how you can fix disorders.

I was working on this about 18 hours a day for 12 months and just developed more and more knowledge and this big general direction I was heading that I had worked something out within how the mind that works in with emotions and different forms of abuse to become mentally ill. Depending on what you have been through abuse wise will be the the personality disorder you end up with

I  had put a lot of effort  with no distractions and a very clear mind to be able to think on this level. I also was in a pysch hospital for 2 months with nothing wrong and went into anxiety disorder when I came out. I was able to fix my self and before that had fixed my boy from having ADHD.

Everything I did all ended up pointing to how the brain learns and thinks about things and process information that is felt by your emotions and at a certain level of emotional low a disorder kicks in that is a set way of thinking and cant be altered and to remove the disorder requires the repair of yourself emotionally which is hard to do as it will be hurting you emotionally at the same time


I’m not to sure if that title makes sense, so I will explain it a bit more. I’m a bit of a self proclaimed expert on personality disorders. I’ve talk to many and read thousands of posts in the closed support groups on face book. And if two or even ten people have the same disorder, they will all virtually think the same.  Male or female, young or old and doesn’t matter what country there from.  You as a person have a way of thinking and who you are. Then there is the disorder that has its own way of making you think and it cant be changed.

Its often posted in the groups “no body understand me” and everyone will comment that it is the case as well. Its not that people don’t understand you. They don’t understand the disorder that at times is making you think in a certain way that is nothing like the rest of us. Getting up set as no one understands, is like sticking up for the disorder and not even you. It not possible for someone to understand how this disorder is making you think if they have never had it.

About a year ago I first joined the support groups on facebook. If you have a mental illness check them out. They are massive and will find heaps of like minded people on there. My ex-partner was a bad type narcissist and I joined a group which is for victims and not for people with the disorder. I didn’t have any mental illness but there were plenty on there that did and after a little while I could see how some people were saying exactly the same thing.

I felt good still and was on there as support more than anything to help people get over there abuser. I didn’t know anything about mental illness before this but after a while I worked out a few things on how to stay mentally strong and could help people with anxiety and depression a bit. I didn’t know at the time that there was no cure for either and its a bit haisy in how you even get it, but on these support sights its very clear. It’s from the mental abuse 100% of the time.

I joined a depression and anxiety support group, which are even bigger than the narc groups and it was like everyone was the same. And then I would see a post that I could relate to and every time it was from a victim of narcissist abuse and they didn’t even know it. They had more the ten disorders from a life time of all kinds of abuse and they were all the same as well. They were needing help big time and they were good to help, but someone with depression or anxiety would go missing if you were going to help em.

It really stood out early to me as the posts in depression groups are so negative and not even close to being rational, and that its not really the person saying it, it was the disorder and could pretty much predict answers and how things would go with someone with depression or anxiety. I even joined some other groups and they all would think the same depending on the disorder.

As I worked out more and more how you get these disorders and how they are, I began to think of ways how to fix them. Well you can fix the person and the disorder will go, but you cant do anything with the actual disorder. It is like a set way of thinking and is  a complete waste of time to even try.

Its a long story but I ended up with anxiety from being in a mental hospital for 62 days as my ex partner had convinced the psychs that she was terrified of me. It was as bad as it gets and was struggling to even hold off the suicide thoughts which I had never had before. But I had helped fix a couple of anxiety disorders before and new exactly what to do. I assume it was easier for me than anyone else as I only had it for less than 2 months but I remember the difference in how I felt the minute I woke up and the anxiety was gone and instantly all the worry and thoughts I was having were gone as well.

Its clear to me how a disorder is like an addition to your thought process and not really you doing a lot of the thinking. I had keep telling my self that when I had anxiety and it was true 100%. Its not that big of a deal, but if there is ever going to be any recovery out of mental illness for people and it sure as hell doesn’t look like there will ever be that a big part of it will be understanding on the person to want to get rid of the disorder that isn’t really them


I’m going to write about how I think emotions. What they are, how they work and the things that make you stronger, as well as weaker.

Emotions are that feeling we get inside of us every time we experience something. It seems like they are guiding us through our life. When you get a good feeling inside it also seems to make you stronger. But how does this feeling come about.

Everything we experience in life has to go through our mind first, so something in your mind gets triggered into giving you some feeling of what you have just processed by your brain. That sensation is trying to guide us through our life and is contributing to our way of thinking.

Each time we have A thought we feel something inside of us and that feeling registors with our brain and promotes the mind to want to have this type of thought again so you get that good feeling in yourself and back to your brain again. In a perfect world you would just do things that make you feel good all day long and life would be great.

But our mind or our brain does not have a choice in what it thinks about. It thinks about and tries to solve everything that it comes across. Everything it is able to relate to. So I guess the key is to expose yourself to as many things that allow your mind to be able to have good thought and back to giving you a good feeling. Or to minimise the exposure to things that give your mind a thought where the feeling is not something you enjoy.

So how is it that we continually experience feeling that we don’t enjoy and then on to that making us emotionally weaker when our emotions are clearly trying to keep us away from these things. There must be something inside of us that also leads us into paths that our emotions are trying to keep us away from.

Do our human instincts lead us into areas that do not feel good to give our mind a more challenging experience of thought looking for increased good sensations through our body by trying to fix something we may see as broken. Using the mind to see something broken and then to fix it gives a person a good feeling inside. Do we gravitate to the wrong kind of situations at times so we can fix them. Or do our human instinct naturally gravitate to certain people like our family or a partner as a position of safety, whether it is or isn’t what our emotions are telling us. Fixing someone would give you possibly the best feeling inside yourself and do we chase this feeling at times. I can say that I fixed my son from what would of been ADHD and by far was the best feeling I have ever felt inside myself and made me emotionally stronger as well.

Do we instinctively gravitate to our own family despite what feelings we are receiving from our emotions inside. Are our human instincts stronger than what our emotions are trying to tell us or when confronted with a toxic person from with in, do we sometimes gravitate to them as we may want to help them or fix them. Is it because we feel we are dependant on some people within and we are trying to simply fix our own over all situation with our brain that is trying to solve all problems that it encounters and is really striving for that positive feeling inside while it may seem like it is gravitating to a negative feeling it is experiencing over and over again, feeling emotionally weaker and on to one day mental illness