Mental Illness, emotions and the mind

I have found that ones mental state whether strong or weak is determined from what your mind has gone through. That a mental illness is a result of particular emotions being in such a weak state that a mental illness or a personality disorder becomes an attachment to the thought process of the mind to stop the decline in the state of ones emotions. It keeps you at a low state emotionally but stops the decline of a person mind to dangerous levels that would be unbearable to live with. A person emotional growth primarily occurs early in life and mostly determined by those closest to the person and often dependant on. Mentally strong people being raised in ideal and loving circumstances that allowed for emotions to get strong over a long period of time down to people with a variety of disorders that have gone through less than ideal up bringing and onto being abused as children. How emotions are effected in a person is from thoughts from there mind and the mind gets its thoughts from what it is exposed to. The mind is our brain and it learns from what it is exposed to and try’s to solve life’s problems that we encounter naturally. It can only learn from what it is taught and depending on its strength will determine how well it is able to solve and learn and how we go through life.

That a humans emotions are part of our human instincts that give us a feeling if something or really a thought we are having is good or bad. This feeling we feel inside if we like something or not is our instincts trying to guide us through life in the best possible way by being attracted to the good feeling we feel from things. We should go to those good feelings as that is what makes us emotionally stronger.

Our mind is naturally learning and solving problems all the time and living a full life exposes our mind to new and interesting things which makes us stronger emotionally as we enjoy the feeling. Being bored and experiencing negative things in life gives us a bad feeling and makes us emotionally weaker. It makes our mind try to think through these low times and causes a cyclical negative thoughts to be had which damage us emotionally over and over and closer to a level emotionally where a disorder can take effect.

Emotions and the mind at birth are virtually blank with just our human instincts to rely on. That how we grow emotionally has to be learned from those we are dependant on and factors that relate to how we are mentally will be from our life experience. That we are all born the same emotionally and they are just that feeling of good or bad every time we go through something. How we are and what we believe is determined from what we experience in life and not from how we are born or any hereditary things. We can be like our parents because we have learned from them and its not a natural occurrence.

There is currently no reasons for mental illness or cure for mental illness the above is not established and we look for causes of mental illness in any area except for what we go through mentally and how it effects us emotionally. We known there is a correlation between being mentally ill and those who have been abused but there is much stronger correlations present. And that is that our whole mentally will correlate to what we have been through whether good or bad.

To fix someone with mental illness will require a strengthening of them emotionally and that will have to come from there own mind. Also this is difficult because a disorder has attached itself to there way of thought that often is negative in nature. Possibly working out ways to distract a disorder is the only way of repair and that means living a fuller and more active life if that’s at all possible.

The reason why it is obvious that a disorder attaches it self to ones mind and becomes a set way of thinking for some that isn’t logical is the similarities in people thoughts wheather man or woman and from any culture being the same while others with out any type of disorder having completely different thought process. Also those with the more extreme kind of disorders having children and these children all turning out the same emotionally often with many of the same mental illness.

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PERSONALITY DISORDERS……. EVERYTHIN HAS A PURPOSE IN LIFE

In mental health the cause of mental illness is still not known to the human race. I guess PTSD is known as the name suggests. Its a disorder caused from the mind going through a major trauma that it couldn’t cope with. But this disorder should give us good insite into how other personality disorders come from as well. I guess what happens with PTSD is that the mind is witness to a major trauma and that trauma plays out in the mind over and over and effects the emotions of a person to the extent that there is danger for them with the mind living out this trauma over and over and a disorder occurs to protect the mind and emotions from becoming to damaged and making life to unbearable both mentally and emotionally.

People with this disorder will be able to tell you of what they went through mentally after the trauma and if research properly there would be some point depending on how strong they were emotionally in the first place where a disorder occurs and changes the thought process to include PTSD as part of how there mind thinks.

Other disorders also come from something our mind is not able to cope with and in each disorder it is basically telling us what that is and is a simple way to work out the cause of mental illness right across the board. Im no expert on all the symptoms of each disorder,  but the symptoms often give away what the actual problem was in the first place.

Depression is basically thinking negatively and lacking confidence in ones self. So when the mind thinks over and over about ones self in a negative way it effects your emotions and lowers self confidence until you get to a certain level and a disorder occurs. It appears then that you still think like this and even more often but its kind of a set way of thinking and your emotions don’t keep dropping to lower and lower levels from your continued depressed thought. The level you feel is by no way an acceptable level to be feeling but it doesn’t continue any more to slide at such a rate before you had the actual disorder depression. Before you had the disorder your thoughts would of been of constant depressed type things about your self that were going over and over in your mind lowering your emotional strength before you realized or it was determined by a doctor that you have depression. Some one without the constant depressed thought rolling around in there mind and is a happy person will not be able to get depression unless they go through a process where the mind continually thinks about basically a negative outlook general about ones self giving them a bad feeling inside.

Anxiety is basically worry about things to much. To get anxiety the mind has to go through a period of constant worry that is not sustainable to ones emotions until a disorder takes over and while the worry continues and possibly intensifies emotionally your emotions are protected by the disorder from dropping to levels far beyond what the disorder is able to make one feel like.

ADHD is basically not being able to think as there is problems in the way your mind has been taught and you lost confidence to solve lifes puzzles. Your emotions couldn’t handle the loss in confidence in your ability to think properly and a disorder occurred protecting you from what your going through with loss of condfidence, self-esteem, attention span and from being negatively affected from those around you.

And its the same for all disorders. Things happen in life that can affect ones mind to the point where constant thought about something occurs that effects your emotions negatively and a disorder occurs. Every disorder can be accounted for in this way. Its usually something to do with the mind being abused in some way through actions of another person but that a different blog and called abuse.

It also works the other way, when the mind is exposed to positive and new thoughts all the time it makes a person emotional stronger and there life is happy and enjoyable. This occurs when that person does good and has good people affecting them in a way that is positive.

The mind and emotions can only be affected from what they come into contact with or they simply wouldn’t know about it. You can’t think about things you don’t know about. How to reverse what has happened emotionally is also another blog and im sure possible but you need to know the cause if your going to fix the problem.

YOUR MIND AND MENTAL STRENGTH START DEVELOPING FROM THE DAY YOUR BORN

When your born your like a blank canvas. You have a brain that just has the ability to learn.  You don’t come into this world with any knowledge and start learning from the day you are born. Your emotions are like our human instincts that give off a feeling of what feels good or bad and they try to guide us through our life.

When we are born all we can do is cry, this alerts our parents that we need something. It will be that we need food, comfort, sleep or that we are in some discomfort. When our parent comes to us and helps us with the problem it make us feel good emotionally and to stop crying. Each time we cry and get what it is that we want or need it gives us more strength emotionally and confidence that when you cry someone is there and fixes the problem. You become attached to this person as they are there for you when they need you.

They are pretty much your everything and in these first year have built up this dependency on your parent where if there is anything you need you do what ever you know how to alert them and they help you. Each time you are stopped from being in distress you get stronger emotionally and as you get older you get less distressed when you need something. Your brain also learns that this person is able to help you to get what you need and to do what is best to get what you want. These are the beginings of your mind developing and your emotions getting stronger.

In the early days you build up this learning that if you want something you will do what pleases your parent as it gives you the best chance of getting what you want. And a big thing a young child wants is praise from there parent as it feels good to them emotionally. You do something new which is interesting for your brain and you learn something and that provides your parent with enjoyment and you feel this somehow as praise that makes you feel good inside giving you strength and your learning again to do what your parent wants as it makes them praise you and feel good and you enjoy what has happened and everything just circles together to give a child learning, strength and a bond to the parent.

You also start learning what not do, along with the hundreds of other things you are learning that are going to give you a base for the rest of your life in a lot of things. The reason a child does the wrong thing is because they don’t know better and need to learn something more to be able to do what is required so they get that praise and feel good. But a big thing in a young child is that they can only learn and how you teach them that something is wrong needs to be taught also. By that I mean you can show them the way or encourage them to think in another way by you teaching them and encouraging and praising them to do what you want. Saying no and giving your reasons why is often not going to work.

For starters if they could understand your reason in the first place then they probably wouldn’t of done it and they need to be taught in baby language and have no words that they don’t understand the meaning of and could take a while to progress through learning to get a child to not do something when young. It may be to not take something off another or cry for a certain thing or they cant have something, but your reasoning will take a while to get through as they haven’t learnt this stuff properly at a young age. Don’t forget also that there learning so many other things at this age so some things have to be taught many times before they can become learned from a child.

Its the same with an adult brain as well as a young child and that is that when you don’t understand something that you tend not to take any notice or switch off easier when you don’t know or have an interest in what someone is teaching you. With a lot of things that a brain or person learns it needs to be very step by step in its progression or the mind wonders to areas of thought that it has knowledge on and capable of thinking about.

When there are so many things all being learnt at once there are going to be many things that a child doesn’t get and you have to go back and teach or they simply will not know them. If a child misses something it can result in negative feedback instead of praise that they are looking for. Often a parent can miss that the child simply doesn’t understand something and that they are so young and learning so many things all at the same time. It may look like bad behaviour even at times when its a child not knowing how to act in the circumstance. This may cycle the other way from encouragement, praise, getting stronger and learning to negative, weaker and switching off.

As a child get up to the age of about three a lot of the things they have been learning start to make a bit of sense and they are able to apply there brain to things more and more and solve things for themselves. But there brain is still under developed and can think very simply. It is also not that used to thinking and will get a lot of things wrong. As it is not used to thinking a lot yet it still needs encouragement to think and to even switch on. It needs to get its confidence up to be able to think and to switch on to think. Thinking for a child only teaches them that you will think for them, telling them the answer or basically doing anything to disturb them or not to gently promote the use of there brain when young will all end up with them not being able to think and learn as good as possible.

A child gets to this point in life around three where a lot of the learning from birth needs to be applied in there life and in there play. They are also able to learn things where they are able to use there brain to make decisions or to give answers to questions and is an important stage in a childs life. They are very uncertain and can have confidence issues in there answers as there brain is just in the early stages of being able to think and to switch on and emotionally are growing very fast but also when growing fast emotions are weak and subseptable to things around them and a child is noticing everything.

Most of the time there is no troubles and a few glitches are easily fixed and a child gets through these years, but some do not and become a bit troubled and get ADD and ADHD. This happens when a child has too many thing it doesn’t understand and is not able to solve the things its required to while losing confidence in its ability to think and to switch on to think. When they switch on to think they are often met with negatives as there doing the wrong thing now and they don’t know what to do, They go into a spiral of losing confidence, negative praise and a drop in attension span due to them not being able to think there way through the little things that are being put to them. They are very observant and see other kids being able to do this and because there thoughts are interrupted by them not being able to think as well become disruptive to others trying to.

It spirals and spirals down emotionally and them not getting praise from the people that there trying to please and they don’t understand why as its the best they can do from what there been taught. They loose complete confidence in there learning and thinking and resort to bad behaviour as a cry out for help that is usually met with more negative appraisal and the spiral continues until they pick up a learning disorder like ADHD or ADD that now at least protects them somewhat to where they were going emotionally.

Its why ADHD etc are the mental illnesses that first show up in young children at this age. The reason for the increase in ADHD is because these days there is so much more a child need to understand as life is changing rapidly with the parents who they are dependant on having less time to teach there children properly and be there for them emotionally. Also with a faster paced lifestyles of people these days they are also less able to handle there own stresses and be the parent they need to be at times and not able to notice when there child is in distress and need help. Some parents are focused on providing as its a necessity for survival and an increase breakdown of the family unit all placing pressure at the end on the children that might be facing there own problems.

The reason why drugs like aderoll and dex amphetimines helps with a child with ADHD etc is that it helps with attension span. People in general can use these drugs to give there brain an advantage and think for long periods of time with out getting tired. Adult who use these drugs do have adverse side effects and can affect other parts of them emotionally.

There is no known cause of ADHD etc, or cure but im pretty sure it works like this with in children. My own child seemed to have it at an early age and was able to get out of it by basically sticking to encouragement and praising with extra work as a parent to teach him properly things and being there for him emotionally and listening to what he was trying to tell me. It required spending more time and focus on him that was certainly worth it and noticed by my child.

 

 

Mental illness is always going to be too hard to figure out.

Ive been writing this blog for about 6 months now and it revolves around figuring out what is the cause of mental illness. I feel I know the cause and its always how our mind processes some form of abuse that makes us emotionally weak to a level where a personality disorder becomes part of our mentality to protect the mind from getting so weak that it dangers our very survival. I think I know every step of the way and to go into detail would require books of writing. But a lot of the learnings I got to how the mind works and personality disorders and abuse works comes from personal experience or life experience that took me years to understand and if I didn’t go through it then I don’t believe I would of had the interest for one to ever give it thought or the care to want to understand something as complex as mind and mental illness.

To understand that our minds and emotions at birth are virtually completely blank and we have to develop both  mentally and emotionally from what we go through in life and that our steepest periods of learning both emotionally and mentally occur at a time before we can even remember anything is far beyond what anyone is able to take in to there mind and process. That’s because there are millions of things possible that we go through and being flexible enough to determine what things are going to hurt us emotionally and what makes us stronger is way too hard for our minds to do. And when a lot of the issues come from before anyone can recall then its just impossible.

We understand how we work in general and think this is how people work. But some types of personality disorders don’t work like that and can work in reverse to how a normal mind works. But it takes years of being with a personality disorder to understand how they work and to not apply normal logic to them in thinking about how they work. One of the most common ones basically feels good about the suffering of others and a major cause of mental illness. That it targets its own children to suffer and that’s the opposite to how people can think about there parents and from what they have learned through personal experience. And at the same time doesn’t show to up to anyone that there is anything wrong or ever come into contact with mental health. It’s not even possible to believe how this disorder is unless you have been around it for years. That its possible for someone to have no feelings and how that effects those close to it.

There is a reason why there is more research into mental health than you can believe possible and that there has never been the smallest break through into cause or the cure and that’s because its just to hard to understand on so many levels. And that what you learn about mental illness is not even correct and leaves a person researching mental health with a base knowledge of fact that wont take it any where.

Its fine to analyse normal minds and that’s what psychology does and try to help people who don’t have mental illness increase there quality of life and is a field massive in its self. But if your talking about proper mental illness from ADHD to depression, anxiety, all the obsessive compulsive right through to psychopaths then its going to be a case that piles of research will not go anywhere and mental illness will increase as time goes on.

Personality disorders are extremely hard to understand but also the disorders them selves don’t want to be fixed. The people that have them do but the disorder which is like an attachment to the mentality of a person will try and avoid getting help. Like little things like this you can say but unless you have personal experience of seeing this and that’s never going to happen to nearly everyone than how can you genually believe such thing.

Every step of the way might be a dead end to trying to understand mental illness enough to be at a level of thought to be able to help someone with mental illness. its kind of depressing to get so far in thought and see the dead end sign at the end. Im just glad I don’t get depressed and see just moving on as the only option. I never thought that working out something to do with mental illness would go any where anyway but I thought there would be at least information there if anyone ever wanted to look at it or add it to there knowledge but its all too hard. Im not saying it arrogantly either as I think ive got my head around it, but some was from personal experience and in the beginning some of the thought behind it to work things out required the clearest of clear heads and often days to go through what I was working out mostly with no idea where I was going and had the motivation of the kids as there was possible problems for them to feed off, but that went no where as well

Im a terrible writer but I see a few doctors and people with mental illness reading the blog and em nearly embarrassed at how I explain things but I hope they got something off it to make up for the pain of trying to understand what I was getting at. Writing is a great way for the mind to express it self and I needed it going through a tough period of my life but I could never put down my own feeling. I think I can handle them without expressing them out loud but I wouldn’t recommend it

HOW THE HUMAN MIND CAN WORK- my weirdest blog ever– MENTAL ILLNESS

Currently there is no way to fix a mental illness and its still hazy on how you get mental illness. Its one of the most funded areas of government and we could be going backwards in our knowledge and research into this area as mental illness rates go up.

But I think if there was ever some hard core logic applied to the task we can find what ever answers there are possible without any other form of study and research. This is mentality we are talking about here and with all things mental there is nothing to see or touch so research as well can only be from an opinion preferably from someone knowledgable as possible on mental health who can analyse something with very high logic and compare from person to person where differences are pointed out and determined if logically process was used or pre-conceived ideas or beliefs . It sounds simple but it might be impossible.

The people who are in mental health don’t seem to be able to find the solutions that are having any impact and possibly some things taught with in mental health are not correct and undermining the fight to find answers about mental health. Everyone thinks there logical or they wouldn’t think that way if they thought they were not making sense.

This will sound about as arrogant as you possible can be, but I think i’m logical and can logically analyse the mind to determine how we are mentally and onto how you get mental illness and the possibilities of fixing mental illness. My first thought is that someone to agree with such finding who would have to be some what involved in mental health would require a change in what is already believed and that’s not easy to do with someone but at least its a good place to start. There are new discoveries being made all the time in all areas of life except mental health but those within mental health are taught what they know and nothing is experienced in the form of personal experience of being mentally ill. They can only apply what knowledge they have gained through learning and there are millions of people who have tried to solve the mental health pie all to nothing and maybe if the current approach was the way forward then some sort of tiny result that helps the problem would of been made by now.

So i’m going to try and write down a logical process of thought to how the mind works in a human and see where it can go. I will try and use only logic and knowledge from experience with nothing learned from others. There is no point to the exercise. I had an interest in how abuse in children is the main cause of mental illness that started from personal experience. I  entered the world of mental health at 43 and couldn’t believe what I saw.  There is nothing that makes sense to the whole system and it’s not something that is ever going to change and better I focus on something else.  Mentally I don’t think it is the best to focus to much on one thing or you just annoy yourself and everyone else to. There are heaps of things in the world that are not right or true and just what people believe in or have been taught and all of them are of no interest to me and I don’t mind what you believe in as long as it don’t hurt others.

I think its fair to say that where we a brought up will determine how we are culturally. That our mentality will reflect where we are from. You could be from another country and a billion years of ancestors from there and no matter where you were plonked at birth and raised you would know only that as your home. Your mentality would be governed by what you have been through. You will talk the language that you have been taught and you will believe in what you have learned. I think you could say logically that mentally you will reflect how you were raised and what you have learned. Other cultures even from where you originate will be completely foreign to you and some of their beliefs you wont even be aware of net alone feel the same way about. There are hundreds of different religions and ways to be brought up and all seem reasonable to them while you think it doesn’t make sense at all and they will feel the same about your culture. I think its fair to say that ones mentality is governed from what there mind or they have been through. That a human mind works very simple and that it reacts to what it is confronted with and adapts to those surrounds.

Only what experienced or learned will what we be aware of and our mind can only react to what it has encountered. Our mind can react in anyway depending on what it goes through and wont react to what it doesn’t know about or experience. I think it can be assumed even that given the same experience and teaching will result in a very similar out come mentally. There will be differences as there wont even be close to the exact experiences gone through by each person that cause us all to be very different but the end outcome will be our mentality coming from what our mind has been through.

If you have been exposed to aggression and violence you will be used to this and in some way will reflect how you deal with situations while if you have been exposed to patients and calmness you will reflect this. You may be a trained fighter and only ever feel that it  is a sport and it not be part of your mentality. Every little thing you have been exposed to will reflect on your mentality. But  it is scewed heavily to the age you were when you experienced or learned something. At a certain age you are able to use your brain to make opinions on what your brain encounters and that base knowledge you gained from the youngest of ages where learning was the major focus is the more engrained type knowledge and not from what you have been able to work out. Taught young enough you can believe anything and it become part of your knowledge base. Or possible you can be brainwashed into thinking anything. But its also the time we are getting most connected to our surrounds and family.

Personally myself and all my brothers and sister don’t have many beliefs as we were not taught them. We were not taught religion or to hate on it and my only opinions are from what I have had through my own thought and that’s not much. All my life I didn’t know about mental health or met anyone mentally ill and I knew nothing about it. But pretty much my mentality and how I am is what I have experienced with it being heavily scewed to my earliest days. Whilst I am very similar to my brothers and sisters as we had similar up bringings, I was the only one who was not blood related to our mother. I wasn’t loved the same and never had that connection the others do. She is my mother as that all ive ever known but emotionally it reflects how I was treated and there was nothing bad, but its something I have always been aware of.

Very slight differences in what we go through from the earliest of ages make big impacts on us for the rest of our lives. What we are learning in these earlier days before we can possibly remember are what is engrained in our mind as our mentality for the rest of our lives.

A lot of our emotional strength may come from the early interactions from our parents before we are even aware of what we have been through. But no matter what we have been through our emotions and mentality have to come from something that they have encountered or they simply can not be even aware of it and we all work the same, not including those with disabilities due to defects I guess.

I think its logical to say that mentality can only come from what experienced and that mentality reacts to what ever experienced. And that we all experience different type up bringing so we are all different.

But some people who are very similar mentally are people with personality disorders. When you have a personality disorder it seems like there is an attachment to your personality that is in a way a much more set way of thinking and those with personality disorders can act in very much the same way. Now this is not known so much but I learned it from personal experience that people raised by a parent of a particular personality disorder end up the same mentally.

Online I was in a support group for those who had been through narcissist abuse. I was able to help a few people out and for some reason decieded to check out some other support groups for those with mental illness. It was a group for depression and anxiety where people post what there thinking and others comment and try to support them. You can see that people with depression and anxiety are very similar and that a mental illness is clearly a disorder doing the thinking for them and not possible that people from all walks of life can be so similar in there thought.

But every so often there was a post always from a girl that was completely different and they were in real bother mentally with at least half a dozen mental illness that were completely different to the rest. They were something I could relate to and what I knew about and that was narcissist personality disorder. Basically they were in a bad way mentally and were looking for answers and psychiatry wasn’t able to help them. They would all write something very similar describing there situation to perfection in about 200 words and were super desperate to find out what was going on with there minds as they had got Major depression disorder on top of all the others, but this was too much for them. About twenty women I must of chatted on line to about them being narcissistically abused from day one and all conversations went the same way. It was like I was talking to the same person each time and they all had a similar lot of mental illnesses. Each one would find out what they needed and then be off and wouldn’t here from them again. They had all been through the same emotionally and all ended up the same with all the same illnesses. They were basically the nicest kindest people on the planet whilst having the most mental illnesses and they turned out that way from what they had been through. But emotionally they are treated like scum and are called black sheep and there emotions are weak and end up with all kinds of mental illness. They all lived good lives with families and jobs and had everything but no matter what they did they had all types of mental illness and couldn’t do anything more to fight it as all there life they had had to fight it. They were super strong and logical but from basically being hated and out cast from there parent they were emotionally weak and it caused them to all react the same and onto many mental illnesses.

It is where I first started to see that what you go through emotionally as the cause of your mental strength or weakness. Some people go through things emotionally and there not even aware of it and its not seen as abuse but certain things you go through emotionally as a child can make you weak and subseptable to mental illness later. Especially things like depression and anxiety and other disorders.

I ended up joining all the groups and the type of mental illness in them reflected mostly that they had been through long term abuse as a child and the type of abuse reflected in the personality disorder they had.

Now for me the world is out there researching mental illness and not researching the actual people with illness. They are looking at what they can see visually in the mind and there has never been an image taken of a mental illness nor of some ones mind.

Your mentality surely has to be what you have been through or its not possible for you to have such thought. There has never been any imagery taken of the mind and it simple doesn’t exist and that out mentality is our thoughts. We clearly also have emotions that when weak or if we have been abused cause certain mental illness and the rest or what we are trying to work out is the emotional abuse or things missed emotionally by children that cause mental illness when there young and onto later in life as well. There are disorders including common mental illness that have an effect on a childs emotions and there not able to grow strong and mental illness results.

If we are ever going to work this out and help them then its all bout trying to identify what you have been through and how to combat this later in life. Having maybe missed out emotionally certain things when we were at a given age changes us emotionally and can explain all sorts of disorders and illnesses. its not enough to be able to work out there was some issue with inconsistent parenting or some broad thing someone has been through or you wont be able to solve any mental illness. There needs to be people who know how emotions work and can work out what happened and then on to see if its possible that what happened emotionally can be substituted later in life so the person gets out of mental illness.

What people don’t realise is the increase in mental illness and how big this area is. If its not the biggest challenge we face as a human race it soon may well be.  I think I should say sorry if you read this. Im sure it was too all over the place to understand but if you got something out of it then great… Writing is my mental illness.

 

Dogs are so much like people.

In the world today one of the challenges we face is to find out why people get mentally ill. We have no clue and its increasing despite the increase in money spent on it. The is no cure and to any mental illness and we may be completely off the mark as to where we are looking for the cause of mental illness.

I think mental illness is caused by emotional abuse of some type that effects the emotions of a person in a way and depending how, will eventuate in the resulting mental illness. We don’t know how emotions work in people and think the way someone turns out mentally for all sorts of reasons generally that have nothing to do with how we have been raised.

If we were to look at dogs, it seems to be a bit more known about them mentally than people. From what I have noticed in my life is that if you treat a dog good then it will be a good dog. My dad was great with dogs and both our dogs were great dogs. Neither of them ever showed any aggression to anyone or anything. They were always keen to play or go somewhere and would be always happy to see you and never knocked back any attension, love, a pat or a scratch. If you wanted to muck around and play then so did they. There were five kids and the dogs were always playing with us . There favourite was dad who feed them and treated them both as good as us. Basically what im trying to say is that they were treated good and turned out good.

Over the years i’ve seen thousands of dogs and all the ones treated good all turned out to be great dogs and I think we all know that dogs will always turn out good if they are well looked after.

A few years ago I got a big dog that I got from the country side and called her shaya. One of the reasons I got her was because my son at the age of 3 was scared of all animals and very careful in general. A cat sleeping under the steps would scare the hell out of him and I don’t know why but it gave me the idea to get a dog. My other boy was only 6 months old at the time.  Shaya was a cross breed and was bread to hunt pigs. Her father was a pig hunter and the owner said she was the best dog they had ever had and wouldn’t hurt anyone.  He was breed with a faster smaller dog as the breed was a bit slow for chasing down pigs. Coming from the city it was all very interesting that a family dog also hunted pigs on the side and the owner said that when the ute is packed and ready to go hunting she changes gear and becomes a pig killer and loves nothing more than hunting pigs. Shaya was never going to get the chance but despite being the most non aggressive animal I have ever seen she was attracted to cats and rabbits but didn’t know what to do with em besides chase em.

So we got shaya when about 10 weeks old and wasn’t long before the oldest boy wasn’t scared of animals anymore and they became best friends. But how she was with the six month old boy was quite amazing. I never really had to tell her to not be rough with the baby and as soon as she got near was careful not to even bump him. She just knew some how that he was too small to play. By the age of six months she was pretty much full grown and trained pretty well as well. She seemed to play as rough as my boy would play with her and just naturally stepped it up as he played harder. Your would see em in the cubby house and on the trampoline together all the time and with all the wrestling they did together my boy began to love the rough stuff and was always condfident around the rough kids despite never being rough with them. He would just want to get in even with older kids for a wrestle and as long as they were playing fair and no cheap shots then he could take whatever they dish out.

The youngest one liked to push out a poo over ten minutes first thing in the morning. You would get him out of bed and he would go over to where the dog would lay for him in a quiet part of the living room. Shaya would lie down and not move and he would crawl all over her pulling her fur, ears and what ever he could get hold of to make him push out his daily poo. Some how she just knew to go and lay down and not move while he climbed all over her. If it took an hour the dog would lay there still for that time.

I never walked her on a lead as she needed the exercise and to be running around fast sometimes as that what’s her breed needed to do. She was road trained and you could trust her around all kids, people and dogs. She got roughed up a few times in the dog park but thought it was fun for her and never retailiated. She had been introduced to other dogs early and a loving life style and that’s all she had running through her now. There a smart breed and the amount of training reflected how good she got. She needed at least one walk a day and that’s all she had on her mind until she got one. It was easier to take her for a walk than being stalked. She hated when you left and would show you how sad she is. She definetly had separation anxiety and for a good while through the day would destroy something.  And it was always something that i didn’t want destroyed and mostly required just one chomp. When you come home you knew straight away she had done something as she would give herself up.

One day I totally lost my rag with her for chewing the things I told her not to and got the hose and wet her for it while screaming at her. After that I couldn’t go near the hose without her disappearing. She loved the water and was her favourite thing to go down the river or the beach but the hose was her worst nightmare.

Overall shaya turned out just as she was treated. She reacted to everything in some way and is a great dog.   Basically shaya turned out exactly how she was treated. Every step of the way. And it seems like all dogs do.

But it works the other way to, dogs that get beaten are scared of people, dogs that don’t get introduced to other dogs don’t like other dogs. Certain dogs depending on there breed if they don’t get enough exercise and play they become depressed and other things wrong with them right down the way to being hosed with water always reflect how there been treated.

Mentally they need enough stimulation per day or you risk them not turning out well and being harder to manage than if there treated right. They wont give you all the happiness that you get from a dog treated well. And I think its possible to see that how you treat your dog will be the direct way that they turn out. But also on to how poorly you treat them will reflect how they turn out  and be like that for all there years. Basically abused dogs whether psychically or emotionally through boredom and not enough love end up not happy or basically with mental illness and not able to change. I think what they go through emotionally is how they end up and the things that there emotions need is enough love, attension, food, play and exercise so they are happy mentally and live a life of happiness.

So this is how a dogs emotions work and it seems like human have very similar emotions to that of dogs and for me work the same. They react to what ever is put in front of them to feel and that’s the only way they can. The same way as a well treated dog turns out hapy is the same for a human and the same way a mistreated child ends up the same way a mistreated dog. With problems mentally in life and not a happy carefree person that is strong and able to deal with what’s in front of them for the rest of there days.

Emotions are emotions and depending on the animal and how they are by nature that any mistreatment will see them react emotionally to deal with there lives they have given. Dogs work emotionally the same as children, they just want love and praise for the things they do and to not be left in any boredom type situations for too long or they become destressed emotional and problems with behaviour can appear.

It may seem like someone is treating another good but like a dog if there not putting in the effort in all areas like even exercise and play then there not being treated how they mentally need to be. Studying how a dog reacts to what they encounter in life should lead the way to how humans as well react to there surrounds and become like they have been treated and onto the cause of mental illness.

Done right you can get labradores which are hard to train as being guide dogs for the blind and all dogs seem to learn things like people when its done the right way. Shout and threaten a dog and they never train right and become scared of you, Encourage and praise an animal and feed and love them and they will do all most anything for you and provide you with undying love the same way we are built as humans. Don’t look after a dog or when there wild then they can become savage as well like humans. Mistreat a dog and they carry the scares for ever just like humans as well with becoming mentally ill. To think of someone or an animal as becoming something they were not bought up like is not really possible and when people work out the same way you can with dogs that how someone is treated will reflect on how they are emotionally all through there life. That the main person in a childs life is there parents and will have the greatest influence in there life and if treated right will make them strong enough to handle there life mentally. Also that not mentally stimulating a child the required amount could also result in mental illness onto the way you teach someone things is going to reflect how well they are trained or educated.

All things from birth are either learned from experience or taught to you. And its not possible to just become something you have not been through and experienced in life.  A mistreated dog will always show you that there is something wrong the same way a child will but we don’t listen to them when they show us abnormal behaviour and blame them for being bad which will never be the case.

ADHD. The cause and the cure.

Im going to explain in the most simplex way I can that can be hopefully understood as the cause of why a child can get the disorder ADHD. I think I know how the mind and emotions work of a young child and in short is a breakdown in the confidence of the mind being able to think and solve life’s little puzzles that a child comes across. I think you have to try and put yourself in the shoes of a young child and think of how they are developing at a rapid rate both emotionally and what they are learning and how you learn things from that young age.

A young child learns things very fast, but there starting at a point that is pretty much from zero. The basic things that an adult can do and thinks of as just knowledge are all completely foreign to a young child. Learning the thousands of little things that as an adult come completely natural started off as having to learn lots of the basics from before an age that we can even remember. Before the age of 4 or the time we remember anything would be our steepest learning curve of our life both for our brain and our development emotionally.

With in mental health its not known the cause of ADHD or any personality disorder but I feel like I have discovered the cause and its always something to do with our emotions being weak in a certain way depending on the mental illness. And how do our emotions get weak. Answer. From the thoughts and signals it receives from our brain that are negative or confusing to a person and puts there emotions in distress and potensial problems of mental illness.

A brain works the same in a child as an adult just that a child’s brain is learning far more things and from a wide range of topics. It gradually is learning the basics of all things foreign to them that would number in the thousands of things to learn at all the same time.  To learn something you generally have to start off with the complete basics and the easiest thing first. Then step by step you go further and further until you get to a certain stage where you are able to for example know not to cry when you don’t get what you want.

But to get to this stage requires a lot of learning and understanding of many concepts that all take time to learn. From the language you speak and to understanding the words in it right the way through to forgetting the first things you actually learned as a new born child and that was to cry and you will gain attension and get what you want and that was probably food or to be just held by your parent. Crying and being held by your parent was not only something that you learned to do but also that it satisfied you emotionally and was the beginings of your emotional development. You cry, your parent comes to you and you feel good that your being comforted and the good feelings you feel are your emotions liking the fact that you have been comforted from your parent who is in essence your life line to even survival onto your everything and are totally dependent on them.

Learning things in a step by step manner requires one thing to be learned and understood before the next thing you learn or that will not be understood. An example of how we learn things that we can relate to is mathematics. You have to learn numbers then addition, subtraction, multiply, divide then on to fractions, bigger numbers, percentages and many more things until you get up to being able to calculate the interest on your bank account for example. But what happens to some in this learning process is that for some reason one of the steps was not learned properly and understood before moving on to the next and you have got up to learning how to calculate interest and you cant do it because some of the concepts being put to you are not understood. You brain loses interest in this type of thing and your ability to concentrate on what is being taught diminishes. You also start to loose confidence in your ability to learn and solve what life has put in front of you and your brain shuts down and wonderers off into areas of thought that you at least understand. Somehow you have to go back and learn the steps you have not yet understood or you are never going to go on with further learnings in this area, you fall behind, you miss out on all the praise that goes with learning things and getting them right and your confidence drops, as well as your emotional strength and your attession to be able to sit and think and learn. Your condfidence in you ability to think and solve also drops and may be confronted with negative type talk directed at you as your not doing well. This makes you retract further and loose interest more in the learning and a big cycle of this all keeps occurring and none of it addresses the fact that you simply didn’t learn all the steps properly and now you don’t understand something.

That a simple as I can put it example for mathematics and that’s all things for a much older child who may even be able to express themselves and say they don’t understand something. But when your young there are thousands of little things you are learning and many things you don’t understand. Your always thinking why and what for. Your brain is like a sponge and soaking up everything the best it can and constantly learning. If you don’t understand something there is often something else that takes your mind away from this and onto something else, but over time if there are lots of little steps missed over a range of lots of things you have learned start to catch up around the age of 4 and 5 and if you haven’t been taught the right way from a range of possible reasons you get to a point in your life where you not able to think about a lot of things and what is being taught to you is often something you don’t understand and you can go into this spiral of losing confidence in you self and your ability to think and solve and your attension span suffers along with you getting negative feedback or getting in trouble all the time while all your doing is your best and that’s not getting what you require emotionally from the people your dependant on still for everything. When you loose attension span and your ability to think about what you need to be learning and a less willingness of those that you are dependant on for your learning and entertainment creates larger and larger times for you to be bored along with longer time for your mind to be dormant and your brains doesn’t get the practice it needs to be able to continually solve life little problems. You loose even your ability to be able to quickly switch on your brain to think about what is being now taught. You can get into a rut of doing the wrong thing as you haven’t learnt what not to do properly and get constantly in trouble along with negative type learning to stop doing this and that along with reduced praise for doing things good . Also a parent whom your dependant on losing patients with you and basically everything working against a little child who can only still do his best in the circumstances and doesn’t understand what is happening overall because they are still to young. All there doing is what they best know how to do from what they have learned over the course of there life and its added up to them now being at risk from getting  disorder like ADHD.

Emotions react when they get strained enough in this way and for your body to defend it self from further spiralling down and feeling that you cant endure as a child a disorder like ADHD to defend itself from going further down. Its a tough break for a kid and not his or her fault but as the person who now is not learning good and often misbehaving they are on the end of all the negative feedback that goes along with someone who misbehaves and doesn’t do that well at things. Im also a bit hesitant in a lot of situations to put the blame on a parent as well. How can one be blamed when the reason for ADHD is not even established by professionals and all very complex how disorders work. Along with a fast paced changing environment with a lot of parents being more and more busy to often be able to survive and do the best for family. It can become a loose loose situation with the poor child having a disorder that there is no cure for and suffering throughout there life with parents also suffering from a family life not as ideal as they would like or can handle with no solutions from psych or mental health to what was even the cause onto the cure for them and just having to battle through it all the best they can is all a tough pill to swallow for everyone.

I got my boy early on into him looking like he had ADHD and never even knew what was wrong at the time. He just had no confidence, ideas, friends and couldn’t even think for himself along with misbehaving is what I thought he had a the time. But I focused on him and taught him things right and praised him and took the time for him and he was good again in no time. I think that is all you can do is to teach them right and praise them for doing the right things and lead by example and limit the discipline side of it with anything negative. A child will all ways follow your example and try to get encouragement eventually and is the best way to go anyway with a child.